so full of hostile... btw, happy belated birthday fb anyways, as for my experience, time is the answer. If anything, just keep yourself busy, hangout with friends, watch movies, hangout with family, its amazing how much time I had in my hands when I was single again. Just do something to get by the day. For me its work, hanging out with family, and friends.
I'm friends with 2 of my last 4 ex's. My most recent was a mutual thing and we get along really well. My ex-wife and I are still very close. One of the other two won't speak to me and the other I can't really talk to for numerous reasons. It really depends on you and the ex.
thanks dave, i'm already planning an abundance of texans watching parties at derek and mig's with never-ending margaritas. 21, oh what a curse.
I can't thank you all enough for so much quick feedback, I'm pretty torn up about this, nothing helps more then comments from people which I can relate too (we are all die-hard rocket fans, except for the occasional YOFs). I just want to let you know, all the replies are appreciated. I'm going to sleep now but tomorrow I'll quote and write captions to a few of your questions asked (why she broke up with me, my views on the work situation ect..) and to some of your guys great help of advice/stories (FranchiseBlade ect..) and thanks again
i've only had one relationship end that really hurt me and the only thing that gets you past it is time. it can be a long time or a short time, but it's guaranteed to work. personally i wouldn't be able to talk to the girl, at least for a while, so you working with her every week could put a huge hurtin' on your recovery time.
OK my best advice, APPLY IMMEDIATELY When you work with her (once a week), act like you DON'T CARE.. Act as indifferent/nonchalant as you can but DON'T act bitter. Keep all interactions to a minimum and walk around with a purpose. Don't linger around her.
Good LORD, don't do that! That guy is a complete douche. You're much better off listening to this. Anyway, the last time a girl broke up with me, I was pretty upset. Then one day, basically overnight, I just let it go. I told myself "that's it, no more moping around like a little b****." She called me the next day, I told her I was busy and I'd call her back. I never talked to her or thought about her again and it's been over 10 years now. I know it sounds like a cliche, but you've just got to MAN UP and move on. Once you make yourself understand that it's HER loss, not yours, you will feel much better. Also, don't be afraid to be on your own for a while. Embrace it.
Realjad, my friend- I think the best defense for breaking up is to be offensive. Go into complete d!ck mode. 'Whatever' should be your mantra. I know it sounds crazy, but it works better than pining away for your ex. Not only that, being the jerk makes you more attractive to women, therefore increasing your odds of having the quick slump buster then rebound girl, which are essential to full recovery from relationship breakup.
wow, it has been a long time since i was broken up over a relationship...it took me 2 years to really get over that relationship. it all depends on how a person cope with a loss. i can tell you that TIME is going to be your best friend during this time and you have to keep yourself busy. you can't avoid the hurt that you are feeling right now but you can choose to diminish it. it's also good to talk about it with someone close and get it out of your system. hang in there, buddy!!
Buddy email me! I am going through the same thing....best therapy is to find people who know how it feels....my email is cwebbster@Yahoo.com
What you don't want to do is become a serial monogamist. Don't start a new relationship with the rebound girl. I made this mistake and lost nearly three years of my life.
Realjad, I guess you shouldn't listen to any Leonard Cohen anytime soon, lol. Seriously, Immerse yourself in a hobby and try to forget her. I had a girl dump me unexpectedly and I started to take up golf to forget her. In less than 8 months time, I met my wife. Believe me - there are plenty of women out there. Don't limit yourself to someone who doesn't want you. You're better than that.
A close friend of mine told me that an ex of mine listened to a lot of eminem (back when he was still bitter and an angry little man) and turned that sadness into hatred. I don't know if that's what you want to do, hate her. But this apparently worked for him. I for one, I go out a lot with friends and would keep doing things to keep myself occupied. I don't like to listen to music while I'm feeling depressed and thinking about ex's because if it's a good song then I'll forever associate that song with the person and be sad.
