1. Welcome! Please take a few seconds to create your free account to post threads, make some friends, remove a few ads while surfing and much more. ClutchFans has been bringing fans together to talk Houston Sports since 1996. Join us!

Women vs. Women at Work

Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by A_3PO, Sep 10, 2007.

Tags:
  1. A_3PO

    A_3PO Member

    Joined:
    Apr 29, 2006
    Messages:
    46,895
    Likes Received:
    12,516
    First, two guidelines:

    1 I want the ladies here to comment mostly, not so much the men. (This is probably impossible).

    2 Try to keep this thread serious awhile before starting the jokes. Keep the chauvinist stuff away.

    My assistant at work commented to me a few months ago how she "hated" working for (and oftentimes with) other women. I ignored it. A couple of weeks ago, the conversation went deeper and she expounded. Her prior job experiences were mostly negative. Boy O boy did she have some stories. To summarize, she said women notice things about each other men never see (duh, but the extent of it is amazing :eek: ), constantly try to take each other down and they much prefer working with (and for) men. She actually said "women are horrible". She is a typical Texas girl, is also attractive, petite, in her late 20s, married and is not self-destructive. Like 99% of women I know, most of her personal friends are also women.

    I then asked my wife for her opinion and she 100% agreed. I was just stunned. She said women are "terrible" and the worst times she's ever had at work have all been because of other women. Regarding men, her exact statement was: "At work, once a man realizes he won't be having sex with you, he's fine to work with". In May, her sister was fired from her job because her staff (all females) turned on her and made a bunch of false accusations. She was reinstated with backpay 3 weeks ago.

    The thing that brought this up recently is we hired another person, a woman. Immediately there was a huge conflict between her and two other ladies in our office. Until now, all the ladies in our office got along (but that took some work).

    I realize women conflict with each other over stuff men couldn't give a care about. I also realize women probably conflict with each other more often than men do with each other. But some of the stuff that happens seems so petty to me I can't wrap my brain around it. Do women plot every day on how to get on each others nerves when they don't like the other person?

    Ladies, talk to us please.
     
  2. DCkid

    DCkid Member

    Joined:
    Oct 15, 2001
    Messages:
    9,663
    Likes Received:
    2,708
    Yes this is impossible. :)

    I'll just say in my six or so years in the workforce the most intense disagreements/arguments at work were between two women. I won't comment as to why that is.
     
  3. pirc1

    pirc1 Member

    Joined:
    Dec 9, 2002
    Messages:
    14,138
    Likes Received:
    1,882
    Good cat fights are always fun to watch? No? :p
     
  4. finalsbound

    finalsbound Member

    Joined:
    Aug 31, 2000
    Messages:
    12,333
    Likes Received:
    927
    That's weird. I've never been in an actual corporate *workplace* so I don't know how it goes there. I only have school and the few small high school-type jobs I've held. I get along with women the most in those areas.

    Maybe it's because of hurt feelings or the fact that we as women are sensitive creatures?
     
  5. RocketMan Tex

    RocketMan Tex Member

    Joined:
    Feb 15, 1999
    Messages:
    18,452
    Likes Received:
    119
    The worst bosses/managers I've ever had have all been women. It's been so bad that now I am hesitant to accept a new position if my manager is going to be a woman.
     
  6. Mr. Clutch

    Mr. Clutch Member

    Joined:
    Nov 8, 2002
    Messages:
    46,550
    Likes Received:
    6,132
    I have heard this before from women. A friend of mine (female) said she hates having female bosses.

    I also have had some major b****es that I've worked for. I've had some bad male bosses too, but usually they are just lazy rather than mean.
     
  7. macalu

    macalu Member

    Joined:
    May 19, 2002
    Messages:
    16,942
    Likes Received:
    836
    yea, nothing kills the morale of women at work faster than the hiring of another hot female.

    they'll label her a b**** before she even opens her mouth.
     
  8. University Blue

    Joined:
    Oct 20, 1999
    Messages:
    1,657
    Likes Received:
    12
    Is it like that in the corporate environment?


    I think that kind of stuff goes on in "lesser professional" environments.
     
  9. A_3PO

    A_3PO Member

    Joined:
    Apr 29, 2006
    Messages:
    46,895
    Likes Received:
    12,516
    OK, but for now, let's try to focus on women vs. women. I don't want this to turn into just criticizing women in general.

    FWIW, I've had very good experiences working with (and for) women which is why I was so taken aback. My worst experiences have been with men.

    This is kinda of what happened with my assistant. It took a while before the other ladies accepted her and the reason was obvious.
     
  10. RocketMan Tex

    RocketMan Tex Member

    Joined:
    Feb 15, 1999
    Messages:
    18,452
    Likes Received:
    119
    True dat. We have an assortment of fooogly women here. About 3 years ago, we hired a woman project coordinator. Hot-tay. Great rack. Nice choice of revealing office wear. She was gone within three months. The women here still bad mouth her.
     
  11. A-Train

    A-Train Member

    Joined:
    Jan 1, 2000
    Messages:
    15,997
    Likes Received:
    39
    So...does that mean it's ok to start chauvinistic jokes now?
     
  12. macalu

    macalu Member

    Joined:
    May 19, 2002
    Messages:
    16,942
    Likes Received:
    836

    it's beyond petty. it's directly attributed to the women's insecurity and need for attention. i know that sounds ludicrous but i believe it. it eats them up inside that someone else has come into their "territory" and taken it away.
     
  13. Supermac34

    Supermac34 President, Von Wafer Fan Club

    Joined:
    Mar 31, 2000
    Messages:
    7,110
    Likes Received:
    2,457
    The most professional, fairest, and best manager I've ever worked for was a woman.

    I have tried very hard to use her style of management in my own management choices.
     
  14. A_3PO

    A_3PO Member

    Joined:
    Apr 29, 2006
    Messages:
    46,895
    Likes Received:
    12,516
    No.

    Please soften the rhetoric.
     
  15. ima_drummer2k

    ima_drummer2k Member

    Joined:
    Oct 18, 2002
    Messages:
    36,439
    Likes Received:
    9,388
    My last position, I had a female boss. All the other females hated her and constantly b****ed about her. I always found that odd because, to this day she's the coolest boss I've ever worked for.
     
  16. professorjay

    professorjay Member

    Joined:
    Oct 20, 2006
    Messages:
    9,676
    Likes Received:
    388
    I do notice that women will check out another woman walking into the room as much as the guys do. Seems like they size her up to figure if they rate themselves higher or not. Just a guess.

    Perhaps similar to the competitive alpha male thing that goes on among idiots who care, same goes for women, except that they want to make sure there's not an alpha female and they'll take her down, if that makes any sense.

    I do have one female employee who can't get along w/ any women here though. She will always eventually talk about them behind their back so that everyone perceives her to be the nicest one.
     
  17. macalu

    macalu Member

    Joined:
    May 19, 2002
    Messages:
    16,942
    Likes Received:
    836
    You wanted an opinion, didn't you?

    i was generalizing. happy?
     
    #17 macalu, Sep 10, 2007
    Last edited: Sep 10, 2007
  18. Master Baiter

    Master Baiter Member

    Joined:
    Jul 6, 2001
    Messages:
    9,608
    Likes Received:
    1,376
    I think it is an American woman thing. I'm not saying all American women are this way but a whole freaking lot of them are. Its like something is wrong with our culture.
     
  19. gifford1967

    gifford1967 Member
    Supporting Member

    Joined:
    Feb 4, 2003
    Messages:
    8,308
    Likes Received:
    4,655
    I've had male and female supervisors and haven't noticed a gender difference, good or bad, in their management styles. My current supervisor is a women and very good.
     
  20. macalu

    macalu Member

    Joined:
    May 19, 2002
    Messages:
    16,942
    Likes Received:
    836
    OP is talking about women working with other women though. that's a whole different animal.
     

Share This Page

  • About ClutchFans

    Since 1996, ClutchFans has been loud and proud covering the Houston Rockets, helping set an industry standard for team fan sites. The forums have been a home for Houston sports fans as well as basketball fanatics around the globe.

  • Support ClutchFans!

    If you find that ClutchFans is a valuable resource for you, please consider becoming a Supporting Member. Supporting Members can upload photos and attachments directly to their posts, customize their user title and more. Gold Supporters see zero ads!


    Upgrade Now