if she says yes to going out, you'll get all happy and giddy. you'll go on a date and think things are going perfect. you go in for the kiss and she responds. you go home and feel like you're on top of the world. the next day, you're at work walking down the hall, hoping to catch a glimpse of her. as you're about to turn the corner, you easily recognize her by the back of her head and the sway of her body as she heartily converses with one of your other coworkers. what is that? oh, she's laughing? why is she laughing WITH HIM?! WTF IS SO ******* FUNNY?! now your jealous. you start to smother her. then you start wondering why she's avoiding you. you tell you love her. uh, bad idea. bye bye hanky panky. no more tomfoolery for you. now you're crying to your boss and he's just laughing at you on the inside.
I will say that if you feel a little out of control or too desperate to get a positive response, you'd be better off not talking to her. I remember saying or doing some really stupid stuff when things had been going well, because I was too into the whole thing. You will never be hurt if she thinks you are avoiding her in a temporary way. She might wonder why, but probably won't even think about it. Then she might approach you, which will help you feel more confident, and able to be casual. Actually I don't know why we are analyzing your approach, since you seem to be doing just fine. Have fun.
ok well i do know this: she does not have a boyfriend she has about 2 quarters left for school so afterwards she said she'll be quitting the current job and getting something full time in the area. but yeah i like her but i am not obsessive over her or anything, its hasnt been as easy as it was for me to meet girls like when i was in college and i am never been into the club/bar scene too much. basically if i dont ask her i wont go crazy over what would have been, but she seems to be a good person and someone i want to get to know better because the times we had spent together was always fun. i just need to go about it in a tacit and tactful way..thats where i need help. i've always just done the upfront approach which if does not work can lead to problems.
I have some advice......don't EVER follow the advice of some random peeps on a basketball forum on affairs of the heart.
Don't think about it as if you aren't being upfront. Just try not to think too much about it. You know you would like to spend more time with her, so that's all you will be doing. If something develops then so be it. If not then that's cool too, and your boss can't get mad.
go for it bro, we only live once. I used to live right next door to my office building a few years back, and I started sleeping with my boss's brothers girlfriend. We'd go to "lunch" at my place about 3 times a week, it was awesome. I'm drunk. Carry on.
what up Yoyo, long time. anyways, i think you're making the situation more complicated then it should be. if you like this girl from what you know so far, ask her out. you won't get fired for taking out a girl you work with so who cares if other people find out. after a few months or so, i'm sure you'll find out she's as crazy as the other 99.9% of women in the world.
if i can pull you out of lurking mode, damn, i need to come down to SD (you're still there or you move?) to hang out with scyman and you for kicks
