Depression can be just a feeling, or it can be more. If it is just a feeling, you will know from posting here like you just did. If it is more....then you got some good advice here already. just remember one thing...you have the moniker of this bbs that everyone wants after we win this title. it's like being "hakeem" before Clutch took that name off the bbs.
The feeling is multiplied by about 1000 when you get a family. Then you get to dwell on things like.. "Am i coddling my children? Am I spoiling them? or am I not firm enough with them? Or am I too firm? Am I providing enough for them? Do I give them enough affection? Too much? Am I teaching them to be strong? Are they healthy enough? Are they getting a good education? Am I teaching them to be leaders? Am I a good husband? a good father? ..." I was completely fearless.... until I got a family.
One of the comic points in my life was when I sat with other people at a defensive driving class, and I watched the movie Anger Management. The best $50 rental I ever had. The movie was a pop psych issue about expressing your emotions at the right time and acknowledging personal feelings people like to repress. It's okay to get angry. Exploding is different than getting angry. If how you feel bothers you, then it's a deep issue to solve by yourself. It might help to get some perspective with people you can trust.
man preach on I think most of us fathers wonder stuff like that. Its a HUGE HUGE responsibility, before kids, all you care about is if you are taking care of business, afterwards...you have to worry about if your entire family is taking care of its business. Self doubt and self pity are common feelings if you reallly care...that is a good sign If you didnt care...you wouldnt wonder and worry about things like this. McG You got some killer advice from AB, read and re-read his post till you uinderstand exactly what he is saying a very wise and funny man that BIlly D is.
Have you thought about trying out counseling? If you truly are depressed, please don't bottle it up and ignore it. I know several people who have clinical depression, and it can be a terrifying thing. Not too long ago, I lost a friend to it (suicide) -- clinical depression is not something that can be taken lightly. Now, if you're just temporarily depressed, there are lots of things you can do to raise your spirits. Lately, I've found that exercising has given me a much more positive attitude about life.
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Listen to some good music. Some thing more positive of course. There's been times in my life that I remember just hearing the right song got me back on track and thinking a could conquer all my fears and troubles. Even if you're alone you can enjoy some good tunes and feel good about it. Keep your head up!
It could be worse, you could be fighting for a rebel army in Africa that you were kidnapped into, or even worse a slave in Sudan.
Don't worry, be happy my friend. You got Yao to look forward to in a week or two. And in a few months, I'm sure when the Rockets bring home a championship your whole world will be jolly again.
Dude honestly i think i know of something that may help you. It may sound kind of lame... I dont know if you are religious at all, i consider myself moderately religious (i dont go to church much), but the joel osteen book, your best life now, lifts me up whenever im feeling bumbed out. I have listen to it on audio tape. you should give it a shot.
Right now the following is happening... Someone so dear to the heart is getting murdered. A Mother is holding her dying child because she doesnt have the means to feed or get medicine. A child is getting raped becuase some sicko was neglected as a child Someone is beating their only Child or Spouse to a bloody pulp A Dad who can't stand it anymore and is about to go over the edge and kill himself or worse his family. A Mom who can't stand it anymore and is about to go over the edge and kill herself or worse her family. Many children are sleeping in dark Alleys. Drugs, Alchohol, addiction is destroying families War is not only killing those who should be dead but killing the innocent and when it's all over they have to start from scratch. People are dying just to get into this Country I could go on but you get my point... No matter how bleek the situation is it can get better, becuase you have a choice. Do not worry about what you did in the past but worry about what will you do after you read this. It's only you that can make that first step and I know you have the courage and smarts to do what is right... P.S. I've been there and there is a light at the end of the tunnel man just hang in there.. Alot of members here have given you good advice just remember that they are just words unless you can actually do something with them.. ________________________________It's up to YOU and it's never to late!!!!____________________________
Just hang in there man.. From personal experience, everyone falls on hard times. I myself am trapped in houston for a semester because of a freak knee injury. I don't know too many people here anymore and can't walk or move and it hurts just to lift my leg. Plus I'm doped up like crazy on medication. And this **** is frustrating because the surgery may not even work, and theoretically I may never walk again because I really tore it up so much that surgery just may not work. And that's always on the back of my mind, and on a bad day when the pain is really bad, it just drives me mad and makes me feel horrible. I absolutely hate it here and am bored to death. But just pick yourself up. I'm getting a lot of reading done. I'm taking online classes and I've worked as hard as I can doing rehab so I can get out of the house. I just try finding little things to do to pass the time. Good luck man, I really suggest you find someone comfortable to talk to whether that be a good friend or a counselor. Don't bottle that stuff up. A good friend of mine committed suicide recently because of depression and it still shakes me up. Wish you all the best.
Oh god...does Osteen actually do the audio? I'd kill myself if I had to listen to him repeat the same phrases every ten seconds. I was depressed today. I live in Waco. This city is the definition of depression. However, the knowledge that in 6 months I'll be going to UH and my boyfriend will be living just minutes away...that makes me happy. Being able to actually watch Rockets games on the television instead of internet streams. Just thinking about it makes me grin. The future, dude. There's always something to look forward to. You won't always feel this way.
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