#1: I think my humor won her over a bit. But I think the most important thing I did was mentally let her go. I started dating again. I think the combination of the two made her think twice about my original proposal. Of course we're not exactly an item. It may have only been a one-time thing. Which is why I'm confused about it, personally.
Well it sounds like when you backed off and started ignoring her is when she really started liking you. Either a) she always liked you and was "testing" you and you passed by not caring that you were rejected. or b) she just is selfish and wants attention. Something like this happened to me also. I asked a girl to be my girlfriend, ie exclusive. It was stupid in retrospect. When she said she wasn't looking for a boyfriend, I said it was totally cool and acted like I didn't care. The next week she was introducing me to people as her boyfirend.
maybe the kiss was a precursor to 'yes'. was her beau the friend you wanted to go swashbuckling with??
Don't fight, accept the truth was something kinda like Bruce Lee would say. I personally don't like to seem like someone who is trying to hard doing anything whether it be carrying my bags in the airport or trying to get a girl's attention. If you have to fight to get her attention, you are already in the no power zone if the relationship ever develops.
Yeah, this was the guy. But not with this girl. I actually like her. He and I have always been competitive with women. This goes back to 1990.
I really don't think so. I think I just charmed her into seeing me as more attractive. I've done this with others, before.
vwiggin: Sorry to give you this update, but apparently last weekend was a fluke. The girl I was talking about last weekend came up to meet us last night. She seemed extremely uncomfortable. She stayed for about an hour and then left. I texted her this morning asking what was wrong with her. After a few texts back and forth, she said she had no interest in dating. While I'm not saying yours will end the same way, most women will give good signals if they are interested. Saying they like your friend is NOT a "good signal." Oh man. I'm sure this will hurt, eventually, but not today, damnit!
They will know in the first 5 minutes if they want to have sex with you, it's up to you to not mess it up.
A year ago my friends were all telling me that this certain guy had a huge crush on me. I had known him for awhile, and he was hardly what I call physically attractive, but his outgoing personality and wit and the fact he was in H4H and cared about it deeply was the most attractive thing ever. I had this huge crush on him within a couple weeks of hanging out with him. Then right before I was going to call him and tell him how I felt, I met his new girlfriend. Now, they're married and they're pretty much the coolest and most fun couple ever. I'm not saying I fell head over heels for him, but I could've seen myself dating him, for sure. I'm just sayin', girls don't usually make up their mind about a guy in 5 minutes. You have to get to know someone...
Yeah, a few weeks ago. I remember that MadMax said that he and his wife were friends for a long time before getting romantically involved. Email him! Isn't the usual tactic to ignore her and actually bring some other cutie around?
Fatty and Vwiggin; A wise man once told me, "Womens is evil." And the more I know about women the more that is true.
I don't really believe that, but my wife was attracted to me immediately, and I was sitting under a bush with an owl on my shoulder, digging up worms to feed him. Go figure! I just grinned and said, "Hi! You move in upstairs?" She had moved into the 3 bedroom upstairs duplex with 3 other chicks not long before, and I just hadn't had an opportunity to speak to her. She gave me a nice long look, smiled and said, "Is that really an owl on your shoulder?" "Yes, it's a long story." A grin and, "You'll have to tell me about it sometime!" Then she went upstairs with a roommate, carrying groceries. Later, after I'd asked out to go to Liberty Hall to see someone good, Bruce Springsteen, when he was still playing 3 hour gigs in small clubs, I found out that she'd been in a pretty serious relationship with a guy for a couple of years. He was soon history. Heck, maybe there's something to it!
