You beat me to the punch. I was going to post this too. Quite simply, V3, you're an intelectual w****. Read the link. That's it. It's really that simple. Be the cocky @sshole. You don't have to have money. You don't have to be in shape. You don't have to dress well. You don't have to have a nice car- heck, you don't even have to have a car. Just act like you don't give a damn and eventually you won't. I call it the 'whatever' approach. Try it out, you don't have anything to lose.
There are some women who are great in almost every respect, but in the one single respect of choosing fellows to be with are incredibly stupid. I don't know why but they are. It kind of disgusts me, but they usually learn their lesson.
These things frustrate me. Probably because I'm somehow different; I can think I would never be interested in a guy, but if we become good enough friends, then I do develop feelings for him. My idea of feelings is something that develops from becoming close to somebody instead of just some instant attraction (which can't possibly be based on a whole lot). The problem is that, by that time, I'm on the guy's friends ladder, even if I wasn't to begin with. It's like... wait, come back and consider me, I might give you a different answer now...
I know, according to the official Ladder Theory, they don't. (it just means you're not pretty enough, no matter what you do, and they won't ever love you but they'll screw you if they're drunk first ) But real life doesn't always seem to be explained by that theory. Part of it depends on who you hang out with. (some people also are not into casual sex)
That's so not true. You're able to get away with being a dick because you're are good looking or have money. If you are ugly, have no money, and are a jerk you will not pick up any women.
I didn't say be a jerk, I said be the cocky @sshole. It's a night and day difference. I'm not going to argue it, though. It's one of those things that you can never prove to people, they just have to learn it on their own. I'm just giving an answer to the posted question. If you have looks, that definately helps. But you don't have to have money at all. Gold-diggers may screw the rich guys, but they cheat with the bad boys regardless of their financial status.
Guys will delve into that relationship about as frequently as girls will. It isn't a regular thing but it does happen. It won't happen until the guy is ready for a serious, committed, and long term relationship. It can be great. There is already a comfort level, so getting past that stage isn't hard. There is a trust because you know that the feelings aren't purely physical. It is easier to to be intimate with feelings, because communication has already happened. The shock of realizing the partner has faults and isn't perfect won't happen like other relationships. Many of the faults are already known because of the friendship. But it is rare. Some people enter into relationships for the newness of it, the mystery, and all of that. Plus if it doesn't work out then they didn't hurt someone who was a long time friend, etc.
I think it really depends on how physically attractive the girl is If the girl is hot, then I would go with the advice of others and act like a dick or act like you really dont care, because they're used to getting their asses kissed and they're also used to people being nice to them for no reason other than their looks If she's not physically attractive, you might wanna be nicer and compliment her more, because she's probably not used to getting that type of treatment For example, I'm an average looking guy with an average build, but I was able to get a pretty hot gf by acting like I didn't really give a damn and it drove her nuts and made her want me more In the end, it's all on you. It's kinda like shooting a free throw, we can coach you, advise you, and tell you how it's done, but when you're on that foul line, you can only rely on yourself to hit the shot good luck my friend
No, he's right. I see butt-ugly dudes batting above their average all the time. From what I gather, looks aren't really that much of a factor to girls: "Danger" level (lol bad boyz r fun <3 ) Attitude Style Money Height Living status (i.e. independent > living with mommy) Weight Looks Waaaay down at the bottom. If you're just trying to get laid (looking for a GIRL), be a fake jerk. As others have said, it will work. If you want a partner/soulmate (looking for a WOMAN), just be yourself and stop wasting time that you could be concentrating on other things. Eventually the right one for YOU will come along.
I see three options * make a pass at her * tell her how you feel and then make a pass at her * tell her you want to be the father of her children and then make a pass at her If the pass gets rejected, you know where you stand.
Hmmm...I see nothing wrong with this.. I think as long as you're up front and state you want something more, then you're golden...Make sure you're not just friends...Being nice and crap is for losers...Treat hoes the way they ought to be treated...
Just read the thread “In need of a little advice on a bizarre relationship debacle...” and apply a little of the George Constanza "opposite principle" to everything done by that unfortunate guy.
I agree with everyone who said honesty was key -- if sex is the goal, let be known from the get go. Don't waste her time trying to be her friend -- its manipulative/passive aggressive and they can smell it a mile away. The "brother" line is a conscious attempt to put distance between the two of you and say, "hey, I know you want to jump my bones but it ain't happenin'". Women are attracted to men who make them feel comfortable and secure. Period.
