Actually, I know a much more effective move... just be in the band that is playing while she is dancing. You won't have to dance.
just walk over to her and press yourself against and say "whats your sign?" lol I dont think people really ask girls to dance.. they usually buy them a drink chit chat once you get to know them a little ask them to dance.. dont make it seem like a big deal but like your asking one of your friends. no biggie J
Well, duh!! Being in the band definitely works. Being friends with people in the band and hanging around ain't too shabby either, especially if you actually have something to do, like help set up the equipment, or handle the light show. I did some of that back in the Jurassic Era.
dont ask, just run up to her and be like CMON! then do like a really crazy ass fast dance, hump her hip 6 times then walk off. i guarantee she will never forget you.
What is that by the way? I've heard people mentioning it a few times recently, but never stopped to ask anything about it. Now Im curious. To add to what I previously said...another tip is that when you see 2 girls together, and one of them is getting hit on while the other is "stranded", then you're money. That other one is absolutely dying inside for someone to go talk to her while her friend is talking to another dude. Again, simple intro..."hi, my name is ______". Of course, only go up to her if she's a 7 or higher.
Kind of a variation on that last one rezdawg. If you see two girls standing together, and one of them is drop dead gorgeous-hottest girl in the bar type and her friend is only average, then go talk to the average one. Politely say high to both, but maintain eye contact and most of your conversation with the average girl. This has a two part effect. First of all the average looking friend is used to guys constantly going up to her friend to talk while she is left on the sidelines. She will really appreciate that you chose to go talk to her instead of her friend. Now this is where it gets interesting. If the hot friend is a nice person then she will be happy that another guy is talking and showing a interest in her friend. IF that's the case then you hooked up. Congratulations. However, I would say that about 50% of the time I've tried this the gorgeous friend is a attention w**** that can't stand that a guy is not giving her the attention. If this is the case then you've just back doored your way into hooking up with the hottest girl in the bar. Now that I'm older I find it more interesting to have a nice conversation with the non-superficial average girl, but for those of you who aren't then this approach works well.
Buh-Buh-Buh-Bingo. I've never been to a club, but I've been to electronica dance parties before and I usually appreciate it when they come up and dance (making eye contact, not peepee contact), and then introduce themselves after the song.
Asking a random girl to dance is easy, getting her on the dance floor is even easier. I usually end up with a phone number or two. The HARD part is going back to my table and explaining to my wife what I was doing.
WTF? You don't ask people to dance? Well, call me Pancho and play me a cumbia... I used to ask girls to dance, and got some the same night because I knew how to move the SwoLy booty the way they liked it. It was usually dancing where I had to lead and/or hold the girl, and most of the time it was Mexican or Tex/Mex dancing. Often it was at Tejano clubs. I am assuming all you dudes know how to dance and know that the girl you're targetting knows how to dance as well. There is nothing wrong with asking a girl to dance, much less if you're by yourself; it saves embarrassment at your friends' expense. I would first dance with someone I knew, and then danced with someone else I knew, just to show the girls in the club I wasn't with either one of them. I staked out girls through the crowd, saw which ones were quiet, which ones said no to other guys, which ones were looking at me dancing; it was sort of RoboCop targetting the bad guys at the cocaine lab before he starts shooting each one with ease and great aim. I would NOT ask an Elaine Bennes out to dance EVER, though. I would NOT want to be seen in public with one like that. If I meet her a place where she doesn't dance, and then we go out dancing and she dances like Elaine, then I would try to teach her to dance. Usually it's the geeky girls that dance like that, but if they're geeky enough, they will learn how to dance. Once I got my guts and decided it was time and I had drunk one ZIMA--no, I am not gay, I know girls would prefer a guy who would not smell like BEER--I could gather enough energy to just come up and say: "Wanna Dance?" Other times, it would just be a smile first, then acknowledging HER smile, and then just moving my head up in a "what's up?" sort of way. After that, just use hand gestures like the Roxbury dudes and signal "me, you, out there on the dance floor, now?" subtly. This saves a big "NO" or a courteous "no thanks" would even be better... Once, there was a guy who went up to ask a girl to dance, and she said "NO" and when the guy got mad, he said "B*tch!" to her... that was hilarious... I would NEVER do that. Impress her first, then ask her to dance. If I was single, I'd still do it... why not? But I would NEVER do it at a hip-hop or youngster club... no way... I can't believe most of you lazy *ss*s would wait until they're up on the dance floor... WORK FOR IT, YOU BUMS... WORK FOR IT!!!
I will try the suggestions I've read.... My approach is to strike a conversation with the girl about nothing in particular (weather, current events or a funny anecdote etc). If she responds positively, then eventually I say,"Do you like the music? I think it rocks. Wanna dance?"
In college, I had a friend who was a stud. We would go to a club and he would immediately depart our group and go sit at the emptiest part of the bar, order a beer, and put on his despondent look. Eventually girls would start coming up to him... he would turn the first few away. Then a really good looking girl would come up. She'd initiate the conversation and he would lay some line like, "a drunk driver hit my car and it's in the shop" or "my grandmother's ill... I didn't want to come out tonight, but my roomies dragged me here anyway." As the conversation progressed, he would wait for the right moment and say, "You're really nice and just talking to you has made me feel a lot better about problem X." From there, it was about 15 minutes for him to get her back to the apartment. Needless to say, he never danced. Of course, for this to work, you have to be a handsome b*stard and have a vibe that gets attention from across the room. If I'd tried that, any girl who happened to notice me would immediately be filled with thoughts of loserhood.
