I feel most of my friends are too stupid to understand me, but I enjoy them for who they are and I'll dumb myself down to be on their level. As for women... we'll I'm just entirely too picky and horribly afraid of rejection.
As I've gotten over, my personal space has become extremely important to me, mainly because I gave so much of it away when I was younger. Now that I do live alone, I find I'm very stingy about the time that I have to myself. I like going to movies by myself or going out and catching shows. I'll eat alone with no problem. I like to be around friends and I like to date people. I just need a balance between the two and that is something that has just come with age. I'm a very social person and I like being around people, but I also know when it is time for me to leave the party. It's why I like to drive myself virtually everywhere. When I want to go, I don't want to be stuck waiting on people. When I want to go to sleep or go get food or whatever...I want to do it and I don't want other people clouding the issue. This doesn't mean I won't compromise for friends or relationships. That's part of the deal. It just means my boundries arre far more clear than they used to be and I feel more comfortable with them.
I just turned 23 and I have less friends than I've ever had in my life. I spend most of my time alone, doing things that interest me, because none of my friends are interested in things I like, like my music, my movies, my Rockets, tennis. They just have this preconceived idea of me that they will never let go of. I think I am behaving like this because other people hold me back from the person I am and want to become. I want my friends around, but they can't see me who I am now, they just see me as who I was.
It is really not easy to tell much from the info in your original post because the principle of seeding and harvest dictates that everything in life is a product of a seed sown at a time and point in our lives. No one can escape this principle or circumvent it. So it is up us (thru meditation and prayer) or our shrink (professional or otherwise) to help uncover certain mysteries in our lives. Without further ado, I have to ask this (I am sorry if you have answered it already somehow), why are you still with you gf if you feel this way about your likes/dislikes? What kind of relationship do you have with you gf and other buddies?
That describes me in a nutshell. I have definitely been more distant with my friends as I've grown older (graduated college etc). I have less in common with them now. And although I still care greatly about them, I think I've just grown to be different. I think it's pretty normal behavior to be so anti-social because you're different from what you once where. I think eventually you'll find new friends that understand and share the new you (as soon as that stabilizes).
i agree whit this. I sit above my roof late at night, talking to myself, and find the friends in my head are better than the ones i've got outside.
same here. I'm so much more different than when "hey lets get it crunk 2nite" and pursuing interests.
Me too. I enjoy my alone time. It lets me accomplish what I want to do, whether it be watch Knight Rider re-runs, or PBS in HD. I wish that I did not live in midtown anymore. It is getting too hectic with all these new bars popping up. I like a quiet environment where I can think and relax
I just want to say that I think your first post describes a healthy human being. I think it's a wonderful point to reach in your life when you don't need other people. I think it's an indicator of strength and security. By all means, enjoy your time alone. Be yourself, learn, work on yourself, and enjoy being who you are- and you'll have so much to give to your girlfriend and friends when you are with them.
