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The Waiting Is Killing Me

Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by mateo, Mar 1, 2006.

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  1. mateo

    mateo Member

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    Ok, so my daughter is officially due March 21....but the doc says she could come "any day now." These three words have rocked my world for multiple reasons:

    1. I have been offered a sweet job at a competing bank and dont want to screw with my current company by turning in notice and then converting that notice to paternity leave.

    2. My mother in law is on her way up to NYC from Houston - I have a 1 bedroom apt and she doesnt like my dog

    3. We're still arguing about the name, mostly to the point that I think of her as "Scout" (our filler name)

    4. False labor = very little sleep

    Anyone else go through this crap? Is the waiting for the kid to come worse than the sleepness nights that are soon to follow?
     
  2. pradaxpimp

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    The first couple days I had my puppy were killer. Barely got any sleep. Had to sleep with one eye open to see what he was doing.
     
  3. Rockets Red Glare

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    My wife is scheduled to have our first child on March 21st as well (C-section). What hospital you guys using?
     
  4. SwoLy-D

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    If your new job doesn't understand this, SCREW THEIR *SS. :mad:

    Don't let this stop you. Get that job, warn them about the potential news and need to leave and be with your wife. Come clean and no one gets hurt.
     
  5. cson

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    Good News if you like bad news: The Waiting does suck...but so does the first 1-2months, then it may start to get better. My son is 4 1/2 months old. We were overjoyed to get 4 consectutive hours sleep the first 2 months. It aint easy, but more than worth it. Now he sleeps in his own room and through the night.

    Oh and false labor/ braxton hicks (sp) SUCK!
     
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    If your mother in law is going to be there, why on Earth would you even want to take paternity leave?
     
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    Those are all legit complaints, but i'd rather have those than have to deal with being preggos for 9 months and then go through labor.
     
  8. Castor27

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    1) Will waiting cause you to lose a chance at the new job? If so be honest with your current employer. Tell them you are taking a new job and want to give a two weeks notice but the baby is due ADN and that 2 weeks could turn into something less, due to the situation. Also make sure the new employer knows the situation.

    2) If she doesn't like the dog she has three choices. Stay at Hotel, pay for the dog to be kenneled, deal with it.

    3) Be careful with this one. Find something you both will agree to. It is what you will be calling her for the rest of her life. Don't settle on something you don't like, but don't expect your wife to either. Check baby name books over and over again until you find something you both like.

    4) Yes it does, but the couch is your friend. Trust me you'll both be more comfortable.
     
  9. mateo

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    The other job is totally cool about it, however they would like me to start asap. However they think I should take a week off between jobs. I have not accepted anything at this point. I would first have to tell company #1 that I have been offered something and wait for the counteroffer. The question is when to do this...I can't just sit around waiting for the kid to show up.

    My whole thing is that whatever company I am working for when the baby is born will give me the paternity leave. I wouldn't want to lose it.

    Dog is not going to kennel. He freaks out in kennels.
     
  10. Mr. Brightside

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    Can someone explain me the reason behind paternity leave? The concept seems very odd to me.
     
  11. Surfguy

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    "I'll give you a great name for the baby...Seven!" - Costanza
     
  12. JuanValdez

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    No, the sleepless nights to follow will be worse.
     
  13. MadMax

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    i was preparing for and taking the bar exam during this period of my wife's first pregnancy.
     
  14. DaDakota

    DaDakota Balance wins
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    Try to be fair, but protect your own interests first.

    DD
     
  15. Rocket Fan

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    good job.. kid on the way.....

    you have it good......... just watch out, her mother may be so addicted to the kid that she moves in with you forever
     
  16. Hippieloser

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    Scout? No dude, you can't do that to a kid.
     
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    texxx, we rarely agree, but I have to agree here.

    Dude, what are you thinking?? She doesn't like your dog?!!? Hey, I've been through this twice (although my mother-in-law was kept far away, and my dog was happy as a clam), and as nerve-wracking as things are now, when you hold that baby in your arms, nothing can come close to the feeling you'll have... the awe that your lady and you produced someone so wonderful.

    (and your mother-in-law is going to be gripping about your dog?? Dude!!)

    Just my opinion, but I wouldn't sweat your job situation. This experience doesn't happen too often. Don't sweat the small stuff. If it makes you feel any better, my wife and I didn't agree on a name for our daughter until they were putting her into the wheel chair for the trip to the car. :)
     
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    True. Either people will be saluting him his whole life, or people will be offering her cookies her whole life.
     
  19. randerson153

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    I can relate very much because my daughter is due on March 23 and my wife had a false alarm on Tuesday morning. I had to rush her to the hospital at 2 a.m. only to hear that it was a false alarm. The doctor had the nerve to tell her to try and keep the baby for at least six more weeks. How do a person prevent a baby from coming when he/she is ready?
     
  20. SwoLy-D

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    Are you a big "To Kill a Mockingbird" fan?
     

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