I still don't see why people EXCLUSIVELY do online dating and not real dating. Scaredy lazy asses. You live a life OFFLINE, but you date ONLINE. Go figure.
I tried to meet women thru an online dating service once.....Damn, was my wife pissed when she found out.
From what i've heard, yahoo personals is the best. And there is nothing wrong with it at all especially if you don't like to go to bars and clubs. I've found that most people online are looking to get serious and fast. Most who meet online get married quick so if that isn't your thing then beware and take it easy.
A little over 7 years ago, was bored and put a profile up on Love@AOL for the hell of it. Got a few replies, met a few girls. I think if you're not solely dependant on it to find someone for you, it will be OK. Though, I never tried some the big match-making sites like Match.com or eHarmony. I guess what I'm saying is that it is probably better if you view it as another option to meet people rather than your only option. But, that's how I met my wife. Have been married for 5 years (as of Dec. 16) and have a 22 month old son (who is THE greatest thing in my life). So, it can work.
Man, how did they do that?! It would have to be a Cell phone I would think, otherwise wouldn't that hurt having a big phone under your back willing doing the nasty?
I actually had a hard time when I first met my fiance on yahoo personals. I was so used to going out and meeting girls I had met online(including buisness trips to other states), messing around with them and usually never talking to them again....it was great, did it for about 3 years. It all stopped when I met my fiance, but still took some time to get used to being with one person after being in single guy mode. I'm really happy now, and would recommeded it to anybody. Moral of the story is, you get out what you want of online dating. Just be carefull of the thousands of fattys lurking on those sites.
Maybe it worked for some of you, and that's great. It would not, and will not ever, work for me. I've found there is just too much difference between how you come across to each other online and in person, even if both of you thought you were "being yourselves" at the time. I see some crazy things these days. People having whole relationships and getting all emotionally involved before ever actually meeting. It should be about how two people interact, connect, and relate. Again, some of you might get lucky, but the odds aren't good, and some of us are pretty sensitive and just couldn't put ourselves through that time and again. So here's what I'm going to do (if/after I get out of my current entanglement). Like I already do: make friends, join as many things as possible, know and see lots of people for perfectly innocent reasons (like around campus), and just be where people are and hang out and have a good time. The idea is that at least I'll know a bunch of people. Surely someone will find me interesting. It just seems to me that it's better to already know each other, and have not thought of each other "like that", so you'll know what you would be getting into. For the same reasons, I would never use a conventional dating service or the "friends set me up" method. (from my experience that never worked either) I don't think it should be like picking out groceries in the supermarket. I don't want to be a piece of meat (or produce... or pair of melons, or whatever sorry couldn't resist). Shouldn't it be about finding someone who appreciates you for you, or vice versa? (I know my idealism might not serve me well... but I'll take that chance.)
What's really the difference though? Eventually you'll go on a first date and you'll each decide if you want to go on a 2nd date or "discard" the other person as a romantic interest. No different if you meet the online, through a friend, at a group event, or wherever.
The idea being that at least you'll get to know each other (including, say, what you look and act like in person) before dating even enters the picture. What I really, really wish is that there was no such thing as formal "dating" and people could just hang out... and that it didn't have all that "date" pressure associated with it, and that you could just consider it like doing something with a friend and giving yourselves some alone time. It seems like you could get the same results in terms of what you wanted to accomplish, but it would be less nerve-wracking. Our stupid society.
Oh, you're going to hate this, then. I made a bet with a couple of friends about what certain women were looking for. So I'm going to create a new website on myspace. I'll have a bunch of pics of me in a very familial role, talking about how I've been out of a long relationship and I'm looking to start fresh and, hopefully find a family, and a whole lot more crap like that. My bet is that a lot of women will eat that up. And then, afterwards, I can show them my "real" site. Mwa ha ha.
Isabel, I am agreeing with you so much on the first post, but then not so much on the second post. I agree with the meet as many friends as possible (more possibilities). Uprising, maybe you might want to read: http://bbs.clutchfans.net/showthread.php?t=99045&z=1
I have a friend who gets on couplestouch. www.couplestouch.com It is a houston area swingers site. There are couples, single men, and single women on there. He hooks up with guy's wives and single women all the time, i'm talking at least once per week. I know he isn't lying because they have validations on there and they all have put comments on his profile and plus i've seen pics. It is crazy how many swingers there are in houston, especially good looking professional people whom you would never expect.
You know, I've heard of stuff like that here in Dallas, a lot of clubs...I'm sure there is an audience for something like that...I'm assuming your guy is married as I thought the point of swinging is to swap...
he had a girlfriend who was "in the lifestyle" as they say, but they broke up and now he calls himself the single swapper. lol A lot of them are just looking for a single guy, the husband usually just watches or joins in.
Speaking of swingers, remember the deal with Jeri Ryan and her husband? He wanted to swing, she didn't, and it cost him his run at being a senator. Dumb ass. Why even leave the house if you were coming home to this each night? Story link
She was married to Jack Ryan? The war hero that saved the royal family from an assasination attempt, stole a nuclear sub from the russians, saved us from entering a nuclear holocaust and rescued stranded us soldiers from Columbia? Wow, lucky her! Sorry On a more serious note, he had to be stupid to mess it up with her... good Lord, wouldn't mind running into her on match.com.
