The question is would you ever really knew that love sucked until you had been in love? In many ways ignorance is bliss but how many of us prefer to live life ignorant?
Be a happy fool or a sorrow and desperate sage? When a sorrow sage can do nothing to reverse situation or meaningful to rescue himself, it's better to be a happy fool. The same thing goes for love. I treat love in question as once in a lifetime true love, something the loss of it results in eternal suffer. True love puts someone in heaven, the loss of it puts someone in hell. Ok, that's some exaggeration. The point remains that being a ordinary man who never experienced heaven beats being a fallen angel ending up in hell forever. Have it first then lose it, it's not worth it. Just like having 1 billion dollars in the morning then lose it all at night is worse than never had 1 billion dollars in the first place. If it's ordinary "love", the kind of love that feels very "true" when she is around, and can be erased by time, there's always plenty of girls for rebound.
As someone who has just (and I mean JUST- it happened about 1 hour ago!) been told that the person they love doesn't love them, it feels like absolute ****. Love stinks. I hate it. It ruins everything. But, for all my feelings of hatred, anger, etc... I feel right now, I know that it'll make me a stronger person. Sure, I'll feel depressed and like ****, but like all emotions they'll pass. Better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all.
sorry - my condolences At least you're handling it OK. Things will get better. And love does stink. Your bbs friends feel your pain. You love her But she loves him And he loves somebody else You just can't win And so it goes Till the day you die This thing they call love It's gonna make you cry I've had the blues The reds and the pinks One thing for sure (Love stinks) Love stinks yeah yeah
After 52 years of thinking about it I've got it boiled down to this: Above the baseline is "relative happiness" and below is "relative unhappiness". You have to mentally plot the amplitude and range of each, then compare their area's to decide if life is worth living. An interesting observation that accompanies this is that, as the amplitude increases in the positive side it increases the potential for increases in the negative side. I call it the manic/depresive effect. Risk takers have this greater potential, they can exceed the average emotions in either field. They can climb the mountain and reach ectsacy or fall down the mountain and become a life long cripple. If you choose to be the passionate romantic you can achieve the heights of love but risk the despair of lost love. I have found to maximize the positve areas of life, or the stock market or anything you have manage your risks and try to make choices that have the best chance of yielding positive results; that usually comes with choices that offer somewhat lower rewards but that can be evaluated more fully. Young people might discount this as reducing their possibilities to live an extrodinary life but I would say that the negative aspects of life tend to be more dramatic than the positve. The negative make you ache and cry and last a long time while positve passion is short lived. If you can work it so you generally have that sort of half-smile of satisfaction, I think you have life whipped.
Love can be the greatest thing and the most damaging...It makes us vulnerable and weak, but can also make us feel invinceable... Anyway, IMO, its better to have loved and lost as to be in love is the best feeling in the world...especially if that someone loves you back...
I doubt many kids on this board are as crazy as I was as a kid anyway but I was just trying to share a little hard won wisdom... Considered choices have have a better chance of yielding long term positive results than impulsive ones. Rock on, live and learn.
One of these is a missspelling, the other one might be a type: "jadaed, synical ". How far is the C from the S, anyway? Not as close as to call it a typo.
Although you should factor in the Optimism and Pessimism multipliers which can skew your sine curve either way depending on the presence and relative strength of those multipliers. These multipliers depending on the makeup of the person in question aren't in equal strength so a natural Optimist will always have a greater Optimism multiplier, which in many some cases has an inverse relationship in relation to a happiness curve that you describe for a given population. For example in the GARM we see the happiness curve trending downward in general yet there are many individuals who's Optimism multiplier increases minimizing the downward trend of happiness to in some extreme cases skewing it far upwards so that they are happy that half the Rox are injured because it means a good draft pick and it gets rid of bandwagon fans.
If y'all plot the patterns of your emotional life and your mathematical chances for true happiness according to a sine wave, then... ...that just might be part of the problem.
Problem? What makes you think I have a problem. I have that constant half-smile of satisfaction. Not quite Gomez Addams but close. See:
My rant: Man you buy girls thing, you listen to their problems, You tell them you love them, You always try to compliment them and whenever they ask if you will ever break her hear, you have to say no; and what do you get for it? You get dumped with no warning and all she says is that she has issues but that she can't tell me. Whats the point, and at the end of the day a small retarted piece of me still wants to get back with her. Why do girls have this power why can't we just think logically? Maybe this will make me a stronger person but I've felt like crap for the past couple days and for what? nothing. I have nothing to show for it. Can't there be a simpler way.
