Yeah, I know I've had a few advice needed threads lately. No, this one isn't for me... I'm still happily dating the girl I've been with for several months. The problem is my best friend's girlfriend just broke up with him. Here's the summary: they dated for 4 years or so... tail end of high school up til now. She had only had one boyfriend before him, he had had none. They thought they were gonna get married, etc. They had both gone to a community college for a couple years, and he left school and took a full-time job as a taekwondo instructor. She just went off to San Francisco to go to school, she got interested in someone else, and now they're not on speaking terms. Real ugly breakup. Much bitterness. Now, he'd love to meet someone else, but both him and I aren't so sure how that's gonna happen. I always met girls through school organizations, classes, or friends. He's in a very bad financial position... can't afford school, and his parents can't help him out. Plus he's really not a school type of guy. So that's out. Friends? I'm thousands of miles away, and so are basically all of his other friends. He quite literally has no friends, at all, who he sees more than a few months out of the year. He works well over 50 hours a week, and Sunday is his only day off. On top of it, he's definitely not the type to randomly go out to clubs or bars. Soooooooo... you guys got any ideas on how he's supposed to meet anyone? Because I don't know what to tell him, and I'm the only one he wants to talk to about this.
well, let me get this right.... No money Works all the time no friends doesn't go to clubs or bars ummm nope. Don't think I can help you help him with this one. The only thing I could recomend is hit the bars, but he doesn't seem to do that.
There is hope. I used to be in a similar situation after having to move from country to country and city to city every 3 years or so. Money was never an issue, but having time to meet friends and go out was a problem. Anyways, I've met alot of girls at the gym I go to.
you know you cant meet no nice girl at a bar you wanna met a nice girl i tell you where you gotta go, you gotta go to church
If he doesn't have the time nor money, what does he need a girl for? A non-clubbing type guy doesn't seem to want a type of girl that's just looking for fun. He's probably worrying too much. Best thing to do is accidently let him loose in the meat grinder and force him to goto clubs. He might have to strike out a few times to know his fair market value. Either he gets his game together, or he'll have more time to think about what his needs are right now.
the internet is a good start (seriously). joining a volunteer club is another. but that doesn't seem like a viable option since he never has time.
I'm not kidding when I say this. The best place to meet women is.. HOME DEPOT. But seriously, you can meet women anywhere, all you have to do is learn how to be a conversationalist. More often than not, strange women will be ok with carrying on a conversation with you, and should they like you, they will give you their number. Plain and simple.
how many answers of bus stop are in this thread? LOL internet dating would be a good start for busy people lately speed dating is becoming popular here in San Francisco (think the movie Hitch) where people spend 2 minute together and if their is mutual interest the meeting organizer will send both the contact info. they even have party boats for just single people to meet each other. This guy isnt alone there are more single people now than anytime in our history (according to some websites I cant back that up) because people are so busy and isolated. but the best way to meet girls seems to be through friends.. J
