If your best friend cheated on someone who was also a good friend of yours, would you tell him/her? Take into account that your best friend knows you know and has asked you not to say a word. On the other hand, you value the friendship you have with the other person. If they found out that you knew and didn't tell them, the two of you would not be friends anymore. what are your reasons?
Your best friend? Zip it. You can tell him/her what you think of their actions, but you gotta zip it. It's your best friend, for good or ill. This is the ill part. Sux to be put in that situation.
I may be way off here but.... If you are questioning ratting out your BEST friend it sounds to me like you might have an attraction to your best friends girl or guy. You figure if you tell him or her the truth about your best friend you are only doing the right thing and you will be the shoulder to cry on. That way you can get with them and not really feel horribly about it because THEY came on to YOU and you were only trying to help them get through this tough time. Either way if it really is your BEST friend I would say its a no brainer unless you have an alterior motive. Then again I may be wrong...
If it's a question of morals, there's no doubt in my mind I've got to tell. If you don't then you shouldn't call the other person a friend. Makes no sense.
Ouch. They shouldn't have put you in that situation. Often you're also friends with your friend's partner as well. Then, no matter what you do or don't do, you're betraying someone you care about. Ideally, they should have picked another friend to tell, who doesn't know the person they cheated on very well. Oh well, you're already there now, so... since your best friend is your best friend and they came to you first, keep quiet, but encourage them to resolve the situation one way or the other with their relationship. For the good of everybody involved.
Friends don't rat on one another, no matter how horrible the act... if you even doubt your decision then the guy isn't too much of a friend. You just can't sell your boys out, awkward but way it goes. If you are a true friend you will however give your friend your "no BS assessment" of the situation, and make him feel like an a-hole for putting you into that position. You can also try and persuade them to come clean because it will eventually get out anyway. Don't rat, but feel free to make them feel guilty as hell
basically i would continue raising hell with my "best friend" until he breaks down, feels guilty, and tells her.
I totally agree with Isabel...you are the best friend...honor that. Just ask them questions why like why did you do it, what's the point, is it gonna continue, etc. Make your best friend think about their actions and encourage him to make better decisions. You can't force people to do certain things, but you can be supportive. I wouldn't tell, I'd just keep quiet.
what if the situation was reversed? what if it was my best friend who was being cheated on and the cheater (a very good friend) asked me not to tell?
It's your best friend. You tell them. Just be prepared for the fallout. You could end up losing both friends.
I would say move to a different state, shave your head, change your name, and start a diet consisting solely of things that start with the letter "c." If anyone asks, state that you are developing a new religion that thinks the alphabet should begin and end on the letter 'c.' Explain to people that the absence of words from society will lead to a future Utopia called "CCccCc". Gradually collect followers of your doctrine, and pronounce yourself savior of our land (but find a way to do it without writing anything down but the letter C.) Then, write a book about your miraculous transformation and glamorize it as your final act of using the other letters of the alphabet. Within your prophetic book, casually mention the affair somewhere in chapter 2, but mention that you changed the names to protect the innocent (but don't actually change the names - just put the word "EGGS" in front of each - ex.,. "EGGSRobert and EGGSKatie" - EGGS does not begin with the sacred letter, therefore there is an implication that the people being mentioned have not yet been saved).Then try and get the book published by a vanity press somewhere in the vicinity of your current town. Yeah...that's probably the most moral way to go about it. Good luck, and send me a copy.
When this all comes out, you won't be friends with at least one of them, and probably both of them. If I were you, I would just step away from the people involved until they get it straightened out.
Wow, I couldn't disagree with this more, but whatever, it's Friday and I don't feel like arguing. Why did your "best friend" feel the need to tell you and therefore drag you into it? He/she had to know you were friends with his boy/girlfriend. You should tell him/her not to talk to you about it anymore. Stay out of it.
Translation: "I want her." Don't snitch and mind your own business. You wouldn't want your buddy to tell your next girlfriend that you borrowed money from him for a BJ down in Mexico.
