Just out of curiosity... How do you handle a male b!tch at work? I have someone at work that constantly denounces me with my boss when I am not around, and then when I am, consistently glorifies me!?! The people who he is around when he does this luckily tell me, but what do you do with a male tattle-tale/B!tch? I'm needing help here! (because I'm about to whoop one SMU's ass real quick!) ------------------ "I never did like that "Dr. Stupid""-Monty Burns
I can't stand that kinda office bull! Be up front and say whatever the hell you think is happening. ASk the obvious, embarrass that person. Say what you really think. Most chumps will push as far as you let them. ------------------ Whatever you want to do, you have to do something else first.
I actually have had this happen to me before. I just exposed the guy in a meeting and watched as others around stare with their jaws dropped. It was hilarious. This was one of those guys that had no technical skills to speak of, talked a good game, "networked", and wanted to be a manager. I already knew he was saying stuff about me behind my back. I was the lead of our group for a particular project and had called a meeting to discuss status. During the meeting he started saying how great we were doing and I was doing a good job. I just told him something like "Come on Jason, you've got to pick a side. Either you think I suck or that I'm doing well; if you want my job, you'll have to be a bit more aggressive". I then just stared at him. Dead silence. I broke the silence by saying, "Okidokie, now that we have that understood..." and moved on. Of course our director heard about what was going on and called me in to his office at which point I smiled and told him what had been going on. The director just laughed and said "yes, I know the guy is like that", but still said to try not doing that again. Well, I tried. Hehe. ------------------ "So you say you want some intelligent responses? I say give me something intelligent to respond to." -- Dimwits beware, B-Ball freak tells it like it is. Sing it bro!
I with oily and doc. Unless the job is sweet, and you really want it to last forever, take the gamble of political confrontation at some opportune time, under your terms. It may not work, because it really is usurping to protocols of using management, but it can be satisfying. Oh, btw, if you are a manager or exec, don't do it around subordinates. Then you have to use proper channels...whoop his ass in the executive bathroom while others are placing bets.
