First off I would like to apologize to one Brian Kagy for my outburst last week. I was a bit passionate and I may have stepped out of line. And I hate fighting with Rocket brothers. Especially about something as trivial as politics. Brian I'm sorry Which leads me to the topic of this thread. Which is confrontation. I am by most standards not a very confrontational guy. In fact I hate it, and avoid it like the plague. I hate fighting with my wife, friends, people I don't even know. Which leads to the question, are we more confrontational on BBSs like this, or are we more confrontational face to face. And if so, why? Why do I feel guilty when I call someone to take for their beliefs, when, by all rights, their views are just as valid as mine? Do you get some strange pleasure confronting people or do you avoid it. I find there are some people on this board so much more eloquent than myself, and they are wonderful at stating their views without sounding condescending and confrontational. Then there are those that, no matter how they express their views, sound mean and condescending. Any thoughts? ------------------ Everything you do, effects everything that is.
We are definitely more confrontational on a BBS than we are in person. No one can reach through your monitor and punch you in the face on a BBS. ------------------ "Blues is a Healer" --John Lee Hooker
I just want someone to hit me. I want Jonathan Feigan to get so fed up reading my crap, he talks Jim Boylen into registering and slamming me hard by telling us what our system really is. And likewise, I want CD to get so fed up with oeilpere's sources that he gives us the real scoop. yeah! I just want someone *big* to hit me!
and i forgot to show my signature on the last post... ------------------ "The BBS is cc.net's version of Fight Club," Clutch "I want you to hit me, as hard as you can..." ZRB
The thing is. . . WE KNOW with a CERTAINTY If people thought like me. . .then we'd all get along and the world would be a better place. . . . The funny thing is. . . WHAT A BORING WORLD Brian knows the way the world should work the thing is so do you so do I The problem is they are different So we argue our points and reach a COMPROMISE which is what america is suppose to be a compromise to live together while holding onto our beleifs It's just when some issues cross and cut to our FUNDAMENTAL beleifs that we get a bit more abrasive or I'd rather say PASSIONATE Take abortion . . .a HOT BUTTON ISSUE Because it just across religious beleif Moral Ideals etc. . . Their is not clear answer much less an easy one without this we would get boring and stagnant I've thought Brian has some Right wing crazy IDeas but I respect them [even if sometimes I don't act like it] I'm quite sure he has nearly fallen out his chair at my 'stupidity' [in his opinion] I doubt If I meet him he'd punch me out though [I would hope not] and vice versa I doubt and argument here will come up at the game against Minn. I never take arguments too personally Rocket Rive BELEIVE ME people say things over the net THEY WOULD NEVER SAY IN PERSON [which is good and bad cause u see some folx are deep undercover evil *ssholes but then again us find some gems] ------------------
you know Rocket River...I hope you don't take this as "confrontational", but are you "offended" by punctuation. You are like the complete opposite of me...I love random punctuation...I can't stand people who make me read poetic license layout just to find out they STILL BELIEVE! I want to punch you sometimes...except you are such a Believer! [This message has been edited by heypartner (edited April 05, 2001).]
I don't know what argument w/ Kagy you're referring to, but I don't think too many of us take too many 'arguments' seriously. I was taught that arguments are merely sets of premises and conclusions, not that they have to be aggressive. Unfortunately that doesn't hide the fact that we are inherently political animals. Sometimes, we will get emotionally caught up in an issue. And I have to admit to myself, "shouldn't you get caught up in an issue of importance? If abortion is an injustice or the environment is being degraded... something wrong is occurring, we're not just having word games". Anyway, I doubt Brian is ever offended. He comes into arguments in full swing and doesn't hold back... I doubt he'd respect you for anything less. ------------------ \../
I remember the days when the two of you would break dance to determine the winner. Much simpler days. ------------------ humble, but hungry.
LOL!! Actually I prefer who can do the most Tequila shots ------------------ Everything you do, effects everything that is.
I don't take these fights to seriously. I'll get into a bitter, knock down fight with you today, and then bum money off of you tomorrow if I could! ------------------ Meow!
I have so many enemies that are jealous of me and always trying to learn my secrets. Therefore, despite my peaceful nature, I feel that I am always forced to "blows." Luckily, I am a genius and can mentally kick anyone's ass, if I so desire. I try to avoid all confrontation in my real life...I find it draining. In fantasy, BBS land, I try to keep it civil, but probably can come accross as an ass. It is only because I am so superior that I cannot help it. Crisco will one day feel my wrath...on the basketball court. ------------------ Whitey will pay.
To quote the CriscoKidd from yesterday: rimbaud, I think that confrontational invitation to blows went right over your head.
"Confrontational"? Hmmmmm, maybe. But, not in a bad way, more in a competitive way. I think people who do not "like" confrontation do not perform well under pressure (just my opinion from my experience). I like to know things (as I said in another thread), and how else am I gonna find things out without asking the people that live the way I have questions about? It just seems like the easiest way for me. My problem with the BBS is my sarcasm and humor don't translate very well in written word. In person, I rarely get agitated during a 'discussion'. I am a very easy-going guy and I don't take things too seriously very often. ------------------ DREAMer's Rocket Page
I think RMT is right. It's kinda impossible to tell though, cause none of us know how we'd all act in person. Personally, I've never blown up at anyone by email or bbs. I find it completely useless-like RMT said, how can you hit someone through your computer. If I get mad enough to hit someone, I want to be able to hit that person. I use to blow up a lot in person, but I've realized that's been unproductive also-getting kicked out of clubs, bars, police involvement, all that stuff really doesn't make things better. But if people blow up on their computer and don't in real life (I saw something report on channel 2 about that), I think that's weak.
I do not "like" confrontation, but I have a history of performing extremely well under pressure, in front of large groups, etc. Sorry, just don't like generalizations (I know you said just from your experience, but now that is expanded!). ------------------ Whitey will pay.
We could start up the Clutch City Fight Club. HeyPee can head up the Houston Chapter and I'll get the Austin Chapter rolling. Smeg, you got the Aussie Chapter. One thing though, I'm not making any soap out of liposuction leftovers! ------------------ Don't sweat the petty things and don't pet the sweaty things.
