You know, I don't usually invite people to gigs that I'm interested in for two reasons: 1. It is distracting and I have a job to do. For gigs, I don't really want to have to talk with anyone that requires that level of interaction. Sitting around and chattting with friends is one thing. But, trying to have a semi-intimate conversation is distracting. 2. I'm not the same guy at gigs I am in normal life. At gigs, I'm naturally more weird, outgoing, nutty, etc. It is a necessary part of playing and being psyched up for a show. With someone who doesn't know me that well, I'm not sure I want them getting the impression that who I am when I'm at a gig is who I am 24/7.
i think this is the best thing to do. other than that, just take it slow. there will be the perfect moment to set up a date between the 2 of you. i honestly believe there is no such thing as flukes..so whatever happens will be best. get to know her a little better and figure out exactly what she would like to do.
For real ... here's something . You did not name a specific time and place. You need to lead. She was interested... but you are supplicating. "Where do you want to go? I dunno...where do you want to go?" Ugghh. I'm sure she does like you but just needs you to lead. If she objects, she'll tell you. She might even $hjt test you, just to see if you respond. Don't. Totally ignore anything negative. Just talk about the cool stuff you are going to do and where you are going to go, and see if she will invite herself or tell her she can tag along. Being with you is the prize. Just sell her on what you want, and that she is lucky to go with you. Honestly, that's true. You are a really cool, funny guy. You're smart and fun to be around, especially where you can be comfortable and joke around. She can go with you to the grocery store, and if you get along great, you will have a great time. There's so much fun stuff to talk about, plus you get your shopping done. After, you can go home and cook. There's always frickin' Starbucks or whatever local "cooler" hangout you know, where you can get some tea and read the entertainment pages and chat about fluff topics like Brad and Angelina to see if she's still funny or suddenly goes psycho. If she flakes - you can log on to your laptop to cc.net and post an update . I'd bet that you'd likely make 2 new friends if you were just hanging out at Starbucks, and feeling chatty, anyway. Shaun Stevenson loves Ikea - because there's so many places to play act. Whatever it is - she needs to come into your reality and prove herself, and she will enjoy it . If she doesn't want to ... her loss. You won't want to live in an uncomfortable box supplicating her reality, anyway. You are enjoying your life too much to get caught up in that. .
Jeff, In reading some of these responses, I think droxford's is the one to really pay attention to. This thread reminds me that I need to give you a call sometime soon.
pasox: First off, you are my new hero for managing to use the word "supplicating" twice in a single post. Second, thanks for the kind words. That's nice of you to say. Third, I know exactly what you mean and you are correct. But, you'd know something about "leading" given your choice of hobbies, right?
Be vague, hard to reach, vacant, and then watch the chickie come rollin on in. Who's the bad boy now.
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