Make reservations at a nice restaurant with a low light setting. Stop by an adult video store on the way home and rent some pr0n.
OMG!! there are guys out there like you?!?! JK!! My ex was really romantic (and a bit psycho, but) he did little things like take me on picnics, nice dinners, flowers...I really liked it. My bf now isn't nearly as romantic, but I think a bit part of being romantic is not materialistic but more about truly caring and showing that you've listened to the other person and doing what they like. Just being thoughtful is being romantic. My bf sent me roses from out of the country for Valentine's Day on Saturday (instead of Monday) since he knew I'd be at work on Monday-Saturday the next week. That way I could enjoy it more. I thought that was the sweetest thing!! I'm sure she will appreciate you making an effort!!
Oh and make sure that you don't get drunk and start singing to cranked up music channels at 2am when she is trying to sleep. She wouldn't like it. Trust me.
Jump OUT OF THE BUSHES and SAY: "HiiiIIIIiiiiIIIIIIIiiii, GRANDMA!!!!" Wait... what was the question?
Talk about how cool your ride is. Pour $300 bottles of champagne all over the floor to show her how rich you are. Flex your muscles and ask her who her daddy is. Chicks dig that sort of thing.
"Romance" is often linked to age-regression. Can you be playful ? Can you draw out that sense of play with language, then do it, play with her. Do you know the difference between wants, and wishes? You might think you want something here, now, but with me, a wish is something that takes you to another place - a special place where all your hopes and dreams are fully satisfied in the special way only you really know and feel. It's like - remember when you were a little girl, and you learned that song "when you wish upon a star" ? Can you remember what it was like really feeling that, your wish could become true, if just you wished it enough, on that faraway star? With me, here, now, I know I can. Sometimes I feel it like my heart beating, or my chest moving, or it's like my feet aren't on the ground, and that's when I know that my wish is coming. It's true. Her : blah blah blah. Yes, I really feel that. Absolutely - it's just like you said : " ......." and "...." and ".....". Now, can you come with me, now, and tell me something that you really value and desire? Do you have a secret? I do... . That easy-bake thing is sweet.
It's not in the big things that require spending money and one-time events. It's in the little things and everyday behaviors. Treat her like she's someone special. Look at her like she's the most amazing thing in your life and you want to discover everything about her. Touch her gently, like you really care and like you are lucky just to get to be with her. Ask her about her day and things in her life that are on her mind. Take her out to go sit in a nice place outdoors and talk. Bring up deep things. If you know something has upset her, don't just try to make her feel better at the moment. Bring it up later and ask her how that's going. She'll be impressed that you remembered. (And make sure all these things can come naturally to you, at least once you learn how to do them, or aren't an inconvenience... make sure you're with a person who will make you feel this way in the first place.) To all you guys who made suggestions about romantic things that you did for your wives/ girlfriends: those things show a tremendous amount of caring and your wives and girlfriends are very lucky ladies.
You're mostly right. But strangely enough, my wife is one of the least romantic people I've ever met. Sometimes that's a good thing - I don't get in the doghouse if I don't do much for Valentines. But sometimes that's not so great - I'm actually a romantic guy and sometimes my romantic efforts go unappreciated. Just depends on your gal.
Drewdog, This is an article I wrote for a dating magazine. It will be published shortly. It's called "10 Dates for 10 Bucks." In fact, some of the ideas were donated by Clutch BBSers in a thread a while back. Maybe it's useful. (If not, hope that it at least gives you a chuckle or two.) _____________________________________ Love on a Shoestring 10 Dates for 10 Bucks Ten bucks. It barely buys a movie ticket. It won’t buy a martini. No way it’s buying dinner for two. But with a little charm, creativity, and conniving, you can turn ten bucks—less than the cost of sponsoring a child in Africa—into a magical date, an evening so romantic, so dazzling, it will melt her heart and win her forever. Well, no. But the dates are respectable enough to warrant sex, and that’s what counts. Use these dates judiciously. For every two bargain dates, take her to a proper restaurant. Variety matters. And ladies, stop reading now. Really. These are ugly truths. 1 “Oh my God – you haven’t SEEN that?” The key to renting a movie—and not looking like a cheap b*stard—is to lay the groundwork. Look for classic romances that she might have missed. Skip the obvious: she’s probably seen “Casablanca.” But maybe not “Doctor Zhivago” or “Roman Holiday.” If this topic hasn’t come up? Relax. Confess a closeted interest in romantic movies, chat about your favorites, and engage her in a playful debate about the genre’s all-time best. When you discover which one she hasn’t seen, feign shock. Tell her that it’s your responsibility, your duty, to make her watch it immediately. 2 Cook her dinner You score points for style, you’ve lured her into your apartment, and you save fifty bucks. Before mentioning the dinner, try and ferret out her favorite food. Prepare a dish that incorporates it. For the extra budget-conscious, just get her favorite vegetable, and throw it into a pasta entrée. Don’t forget the salad and dessert. Candles are a must. Even if the food is awful, which it probably will be, she’ll appreciate your effort, and it looks like you’re spending all this energy because you really, really like her. Heh. Plus, the whole enterprise comes off as more romantic, more inspired, than plopping your butts down at a restaurant. Added bonus: odds are good that she’ll bring the wine. 3 Sex You can use sex to save money. This requires, obviously, that you’ve hooked up before. But once you’re in, you’re in. Exploit sex to sabotage any expensive-sounding plan. Example: let’s say that at 9 o’clock, you plan to try that yummy-looking French fusion restaurant. ($80, easy.) Meet at her place. Arrive 10 minutes early. As she’s curling her eyelashes, sneak up behind her—respecting the fine line between suave and creepy—and start nibbling her ear. Worst case scenario, she’ll laugh, ask for patience, and say that she’s really looking forward to that fusion. Best case? Hours later, as you’re caressing her neck and pillow-talking, you order up some cheap take-out. Everyone wins: great sex, she’ll think you’re just that passionate, and you’re only out the chicken lo-mein and a box of Trojans. 4 Happy Hour So obvious it’s easy to overlook. Even in pricey cities like New York, you can find plenty of bars with 2-for-1 drink specials or $1.50 well drinks. Again, the art is in the presentation. And the white lie. Say you’ve “heard good things” about a bar. Find out when happy hour begins, and get there that very second. Don’t mention the happy hour. If possible, lounge with your date in the corner, and buy the drinks at the bar. With any luck, you can score at least two, maybe three rounds of drinks for under 10 bucks. If you’re feeling particularly unchivalrous, buy every drink during happy hour, then let her buy a final round when the prices spike up. 5 Picnic in the park Oldie but goodie. Just because Ben Affleck and Liv Tyler made a mockery of this date in “Armageddon”—don’t ever, ever flirt with animal crackers—you don’t have to avoid picnics forever. Pack a blanket, snacks and frisbee. Ask her if she has a favorite kind of specialty cheese, and then bring that. Pretend that you care. It’s best to meet up in late afternoon, so that you can soak in the sunset and hope for other, less PG-rated activities. 6 Massage Not for the first date. Probably not for the second or third. But once you have the right rapport, a massage is cheap, fun, and sensual, and will almost certainly lead to sex. Make sure you know what you’re doing. If you haven’t done this before and received (genuinely) good reviews, you might be causing her more pain than pleasure. It’s worth checking out a good massage book, such as—yes, it does sound hokey—The New Sensual Massage: Learn to Give Pleasure With Your Hands by Gordon Inkeles. 7 Community Service Nothing says romance like the soup kitchen. Okay, so it’s not for everyone. Employ this date with caution. And yeah, if you’re as cynical as I am, it’s tough to keep a straight face when suggesting that you pick up some crap off the highway together. But if you can pull it off, you win all kinds of good-guy points, you have fun together, and you don’t spend a nickel. Plus, it’s always fun laugh at the elderly and homeless. Girls like that. 8 Shoot pool Call ahead. At some point during the week, even the ritziest pool hall has a special rate. Plan accordingly. What if it’s Tuesday at 8:00 pm? So be it. She doesn’t know the discount schedule. Tell her that you have a hectic week, and that Tuesday at 8 is your only opening. Regardless of your talent level, or hers, pool is a game that’s designed for flirting. Raise the stakes by making some playful wagers. Plus, pool is an especially good activity for a girl that you really don’t have that much interest in talking to. 9 The beach An underutilized date. Free, warm, and full of good vibes. The beach is also the only date where her entire outfit consists of what amounts to bra and panties. Keep the ogling to a minimum, and don’t get caught gawking at the other bikinied eye candy. Make it fun—bring a football or volleyball. Wiggle your toes in the sand, splash in the water, bask in the sunshine, all that crap. 10 The Museum Fool her into thinking you’re sophisticated. It’s cheap, it kills a few hours, and it gives you something to talk about. Okay, so some museums might cost more than $5 each. If you’re really strapped for cash, pay for her ticket and skip the suggested “donation” for yourself. (Do this when she’s somehow distracted.) All kidding aside, thanks to the culturally rich, stimulating nature of the museum, you might actually learn something important about her, about art, about yourself. Just kidding.
good ideas.... keep them coming..... Im so laid back, that I never even think of doing these things. I mean Im affectionate with her and everything, but I guess I take for granted when we do spend some time together..... I think paying more attention to details will definitely help.
Drox! Dam you! Are you married to my wife too! drew just be confident in yourself. And talk to her. I guarantee you come home every night after work and before you start dinner, before you get on the computer, whatever! Sit down or take a walk and talk for an hour. She'll be yours for life!
Find a body of water near you. A lake, pond, river, etc. Go out there about dusk right off the shore in a quiet place that you would feel like the you are away from the world. Lay a blanket down to lay on. Bring a battery-operated radio with a CD player on it and play a cd of the romantic classics. I usually go for the slow romantic songs from Sinatra, Nat King Cole, etc. Sit/lay there, with the music playing and just talk. Maybe bring some light stuff to munch on and that you could feed each other like grapes. No strawberries. They seem to be stigmatized as a foreplay food and you don't want her thinking that you are after sex. LISTEN, LISTEN, LISTEN and make sure you are touching her at all times. No, not gropping. Hold her hand, let her lay her head on your lap, entangle your feet, whatever. Cheap and easy. You basically let the setting and surroundings do all the work. Bingo, you have a night to remember and you are "Mr. Romanti'c"! This worked GREAT with my wife (was just dating at the time). I was as broke as could be back then when I was on the dating scene, so I had to come up with creative ways to make nothing into "he's the most romantic guy I know". I found 'romantic' is not monetary but just a little thought and effort. With my wife, those have ALWAYS gone alot further than any piece of jewelry I have bought.
It was late last night I was feeling something wasn't right There was not another soul in sight Only you, only you So we walked along Though I knew that there was Something wrong And a feeling hit me oh so strong about you Then you gazed up at me and The answer was plain to see 'Cause I saw the light in your eyes Though we had our fling I just never would suspect a thing Till that little bell began to ring in my head In my head But I tried to run Though I knew it wouldn't help me none 'Cause I couldn't ever love no one Or so I said But my feelings for you were just something I never knew Till I saw the light in your eyes But I love you best It's not something that I say in jest 'Cause you're different girl from all the rest In my eyes And I ran out before but I won't do it anymore Can't you see the light in my eyes TR sing this song to her!
The irony... it always seems like the people who want or appreciate romance end up with people who don't care. Why is life like this?
