Yesterday was my 9-year wedding anniversary, and my opinion is... The extreme sacrifices an individual (male or female) must make in order to make a marriage work are frequently extremely unpleasent in regards to short-term and shallow happiness. However, there's much long-term and deeper happiness that cannot be truly satisfied without a very long-term relationship such as marriage. -- droxford
hmm....I was about to write "yeah men shouldn't get married b/c they annoy the hell out of women and somehow can't do anything for themselves after they get married." But yeah....what you said. (no really, that was very well said and anyone who is married should take that to heart)
And leave the exact specifications to someone else? UNLIKELY. The last version I bought on eBay had carpet instead of pubic hair. That was a messy breakup. Me: "Look, I just don't think this is working out. I think we should see other people and/or appliances." Her: "INTRUDER ALERT INTRUDER ALERT" Me: "See, that's what I'm talking about. It's like you're from Mars and I'm from Venus." Her: "THE HUMANOID MUST NOT ESCAPE" Me: "OK, you can say whatever you want if you're going to try to hurt me. I'm not listening." Her: "CHICKEN. FIGHT LIKE A ROBOT." Sad but it happens. I still have a picture of us on our vacation in Cabo: That's me on the left. Sigh. I miss her sometimes.
If there is one thing I learned from my marriage, it was that, yes, there are sacrifices, but there also must be boundries and the ability to retain your sense of independence, your sense of self, (proportionally depending on how independent you are to begin with) is essential to creating a happy loving relationship. And, if one of you is unhappy with those boundries, you both will be miserable.
Between this line and BK's Atari breakup, I am going to have to stop drinking when I read the bbs. My monitor is not going to be able to continue to function with the all the liquid that has been spit on it.
The guy with the born again wife should try reading. There are some pretty interesting phrases in the OT that basically say she should submit to his will whenever. What book is she reading? Probably that re-written pro-abstinence Bible with the book of Lunatic that encourages that we teach kids that condoms dont stop STDs. I dig marriage.
You should've sung this song to her: Would you like to smoke some pot, BERSERKER My love for you is ticking clock, BERSERKER Would you like to suck my c**k, BERSERKER Would you like some making f**k, BERSERKER
This site is hilarious...Being divorced, there are some aspects of marriage that I didn't like, but for the most part it was good...I love my kids, but in general, the sex did slack off, but that was due to the problems we had, not desire...
I disagree. I know several people who have been single for a long time and they seem (at least to me) very happy with their lives. There is this perception in our society that if you are not with someone, then you are going to be so lonely. Some people prefer to live alone. It is whatever God has in store for you - if His plan is for me to be single, so be it. I have all the confidence that He will provide me other things in my life to take the place of a family. And honestly to tell you the truth - I know I am not ready to settle down and have a wife and kids (I might *possibly* be ready to have a wife now). It just seems like such a big change in lifestyle and yea, I am a little selfish - I am just not ready to give up the things that I know would go away if I was married. It is like coma and RIET said - it is all about perspective and being happy. If you are happy being married or not, then that is all that matters? Right? Right.
This is for all the lonely people Thinking that life has passed them by Don’t give up until you drink from the silver cup And ride that highway in the sky This is for all the single people Thinking that love has left them dry Don’t give up until you drink from the silver cup You never know until you try Well, I’m on my way Yes, I’m back to stay Well, I’m on my way back home (hit it) This is for all the lonely people Thinking that life has passed them by Don’t give up until you drink from the silver cup And never take you down or never give you up You never know until you try.
NT, too. There is scripture that says when you marry, your body belongs to the other person. The two are one. Always in a respectful way, of course...not demanding or jackass about it!
Being married can be great. All I did is marry my best friend that I get to do it with. And I don't have to kiss her ass and tell her that she is pretty every day, she's not into that. I just have to make her laugh and she does the same for me, but that comes naturally. We don't want kids however...
that's an awesome model, Meowgi. i'd say the same about my marriage. we have kids, however! but in many ways...for us...that's made things even better. there's a sense of a job we're both in together in raising these kids that has drawn us closer together than i imagined. i know for many, a marriage is never the same after kids....but i was given this advice, and i think it's maybe the best advice i ever got: if you want to love your kids....show them how much you love your wife. there's a sense of stability for kids when they see that which is invaluable.
I went to Lowe's a few weeks ago to get some weed killer. I ran into their "Master Gardener" there and started talking about weed killer and what I should probably get. Eventually we just started chatting about things in general. I started learning about the stuff he did. He said he only worked at Lowe's for a few months here in the Dallas area before he flies off to Alaska and lives there for a few months. After he's done there, he runs safaris in Africa - he said he'd been doing it for several years. I told him that one day I wanted to visit Africa and run around Olduvai Gorge, observe the Serengeti, visit the Pyramids/Valley of Kings, etc. That's when he told me he ran a safari in Namibia or Kenya (I don't recall). I told him about Louis Leaky and Zinjanthropus and my fascination with early ancestors of man. He goes on to tell me he met with Leaky many times while in Africa - said the dude could drink some booze. lol. He said he repeats this cycle every year. He was one of the happiest human beings I've ever met when I talked to him. He doesn't understand the nature of people in the city, the hustle and bustle, the one-upmanship in salary, housing, etc. He said he's never been married and doesn't have kids. He said everyone asks him does he have any regrets about never getting married, to which he always responds that he has absolutely none and that he is happy with life. There is nothing tying him down, he has very few responsibilities, and he doesn't have to ask permission or compromise. Like I said, when I talked to the guy, he seemed like one of the happiest and most content people I've ever met. The point of this? Society may dictate that you get married and have kids, but in reality, your happiness is controlled by you and your needs/desires. If you aren't content with the way you're living, what makes you think that any relationship you're in will be a content one? Some people point at this and say it's selfish. I disagree. Some people need to be married and have the 2.5 kids to be content. Others just aren't meant for that lifestyle. To each their own.
This is all you really need. "www dot realdoll dot com / intro dot asp" Not safe for work, even though they aren't really human.
I always wonder why people end up with marriages with no sex, unless they absolutely hate each other. I mean, the other aspects of living with each other... or being disappointed in each other... may not be so easy, but at least you have the benefit of getting to enjoy each other physically. As long as you're a healthy (hetero) man and woman, doesn't that part come naturally? Even if you are having trouble with each other, as long as you're still officially together, wouldn't you want to keep trying to get close? Or at least use each other to take care of that desire.
