According to this one website, men should never get married.... It says that most men, when they get older, regret getting married and having kids and stuff..... Seems kinda biased and not very scientific.... Here's the link....
Wow! That site really bashes American women hard...makes me glad I didn't marry one. It seems serious but joking at the same time...one lie I saw off the bat, 80% of women get postpartum depression, which is BS...most women get the 'baby blues' that subsides after a few days, PPD is much more serious and not all that common.
From the actual studies I've heard of: men become happier after they marry. Women become less happy. (in general) Seems like some people become bitter and have experiences where the woman isn't working as hard and is spending a lot of their money. Or where she's just there to get material goods from you. There are a lot of women who are b*tches to their husbands and make their lives miserable. Usually they're the ones with the nicer husbands too. It just makes us want to announce that, "hey, some of us aren't like that", but maybe there's something about the ones who are that is attractive.
You are correct. In addition, divorced and widowed men are more likely to re-marry than women and report greater levels of lonliness and depression than women on average.
Hmmm. Wonder if they are more likely to re-marry just because they want to/ can't live without it... or just because they have a better shot? Women tend to report more loneliness and depression when they are married. I wonder if they end up staying single because they want to... or just because there aren't enough men to go around? At the older ages, the men don't live as long, and at any age, the men seem to like them young...
For all the single men: The best type of woman for a long-term relationship is someone who has been involved in a lot of bad relationships where the guys have been jerks. This way, when you treat them with even a modicum of respect and kindness, they think you are the greatest. On the flip side, if you meet someone who has been involved in very good relationships, the woman may be happy at first but if you ever get into a fight or get into a rut, she may wonder "What if" even if she's "content". Everything in life is a matter of perspective.
Not sure, but interesting questions to ask. I remember reading that married men live longer if they are married but being married had little or no bering on the life expectancy of women.
I don't know if it just happens to be places I work, but most guys I talk to think it's a pain being married, but they don't come out and say it. I've seen some that are happily married, but the best of times is when Valentines Day rolls around and it's like a bunch of beatdown dogs ready for the last blow of death. I've heard varying comments from "don't get married dude, it's great the first few months, but then it's a pain" all the way to "God I love my kids, but damn that woman is going to drive me crazy". Of course I'm only getting one side of the story... The fact is, the whole "men should never get married" thing is silly. "Men should do whatever is best for them". Some guys like their freedom; other guys find that right woman. The freedom to do what I please whenever I please is the thing I would miss if I ever get married, and for me, that's a freedom I just can't give up especially as I get closer to the point where I can quit my job and run around the world/US just being a dork with no responsibilities. lol.
That's probably the dream every guy has but wusses out halfway when the back starts aching and when 5 minutes at the Y makes'em feel like he's been there for 5 hours.
I've been single for about 3 years now, and I've never been happier. Granted, I've never been married, but did have a long term relationship and shared a home with her. After I left that partnership, I felt like the prisoner getting released from jail.. ..stepping into the sunshine, looking down that long road of freedom, looking back at the prison, and running towards his freedom. I can't possibly see how I could be happy in a committed, long-term agreement at this point in my life. The way things have gone since my single status was reinstated, I don't see why anyone would give up this way of life. Of course, different strokes for different folks. Sure, I'll hear the 'just wait until you meet the right person' or the 'you just aren't ready yet'. But what's the right person? Someone who will let me date any girl I want? Someone who will give me sex on a whim, and leave when I ask? What's the compromise? Giving up part of my freedom, independence, and care-free life style? For what? To 'have someone?' Sounds cold, but ROI has to be equated in any venture. What am I gaining? What am I losing? I've seen the single guy in every married/committed man. That single guy is always begging to come out and play. As the societal chains strangle this inner being, their very existence becomes mundane and programmed. Of course, as RIET so eloquently put it, life is all about perspective. I'm either really lucky, or really pathetic. As long as I'm happy, it doesn't really matter.
I have one of the best marriages out all the people I know and the key to me is to find a woman that you think is way out your league. Every time I look at my wife, I say to myself "how in the hell did I pull that one off?" The key for my wife is she knows that I think she is way out of my league, so I appreciate her. Also, I make it a point every day to make her feel attractive.
This article is stupid, there's no reason to marry a flesh woman. I'm building my woman as we speak. Just taking a break while the soldering cools.
we have a culture that says the purpose of every relationship you enter into is, first and foremost, to meet your own needs. in my estimation, this is the exact opposite view that both persons should take in a relationship, particularly a marriage.
