This is the same country that exports 5000 different types of p*rn and sexually segregates crowded subways because men were literally getting out of hand. http://www.guardian.co.uk/japan/story/0,7369,1451704,00.html Japan's virgin wives turn to sex volunteers Lustless matches put country on brink of demographic disaster Justin McCurry in Tokyo Monday April 4, 2005 The Guardian Like many Japanese women, Junko waited until her early 30s to get married. When she and her fiance, an employee of a well-known firm, decided to tie the knot, she set her sights on making a home, putting away some money and starting a family. Fifteen years later, Junko and her husband are childless. It is not that they cannot have children; it is just that they have never had sex. The sexless marriage is one of several reasons why experts fear Japan is on the verge of a demographic disaster. In 2003 Japan's birthrate hit a record low of 1.29 - the average number of times a woman gives birth during her lifetime - one of the lowest rates in the world, according to the cabinet office. The population will peak next year at about 128 million, then decline to just over 100 million by 2050. The 200 women a year who seek help at a clinic in the Tokyo suburbs have not had sex with their husbands in up to 20 years, and some never, according to Kim Myong-gan, who runs the clinic. "The women who come to see me love their husbands and aren't looking for a divorce," he told the Guardian. "The problem is that their husbands lose interest in sex or don't want sex from the start. Many men think of their wives as substitute mothers, not as women with emotional and sexual needs." Mr Kim's short-term solution is unconventional. After an initial 20,000 yen (£100) counselling session, he produces photographs of 45 men, mostly professionals in their 40s, with whom the women are invited to go on dates and then, in almost all cases, arrange regular assignations in hotel rooms. Mr Kim dismissed charges that his service was little more than a male prostitution ring. "The men volunteer and pay half the hotel and restaurant bills, so legally there is absolutely nothing wrong with it," he said. He had rescued hundreds of women from despair, he said, but his "sex volunteers" would do nothing to cure the malaise that afflicts the institution of marriage in Japan. The number of married couples is in rapid decline. In 2000 almost 70% of men and 54% of women between 25 and 29 were unmarried. That bodes ill for the birthrate, as conservative Japanese society frowns upon having children outside marriage. A survey of 600 women found that 26% had not had sex with their husbands in the past year. "We are sort of room-mates rather than a married couple," one 31-year-old man, who had not had sex with his wife for two years, told the Asahi Shimbun newspaper. The government has introduced several measures to lift the birthrate. Fathers will be encouraged to take more than the 47% of annual paid leave they currently use, and their employers will be told to provide more opportunities for them to stay at home with their children. Local authorities, meanwhile, are devising novel ways to increase fertility. In the town of Yamatsuri women will receive 1m yen if they have a third child, and in Ishikawa prefecture families with three children will get discounts at shops and restaurants. The absence of children in so many homes is having an impact. Fun parks are closing and there are signs that the "exam hell" teenagers go through to secure places at top schools and universities is less of an ordeal because the competition is less fierce. The divorce rate has nearly doubled in the past 10 years, with more women blaming their sexually inactive, as opposed to sexually errant, husbands for break-ups. "The men love their companies; they live for work," Mr Kim said. "Men don't even think it is a problem if they don't have sex with their wives. They have p*rnography and the sex industry to take care of their needs, but their wives have nowhere to go. They just suffer in silence."
Who are these guys banging then? Don't tell me it's "no one". Would they rather just (pardon me) jerk off to p*rn? Do they have women on the side?
IF YOU ARE MARRIED...to the extent you're spending sexual energy on someone or something other than your spouse..that's probably a bad thing.
Junko-- I can help you. I ask only that you change your last name to "Yard Dog" in exchange for my services. CALL ME
Alright...we're sending Isabel to Japan. We're you not looking for a man who wasn't interested in you only for sex and that you could get to know on an emotional level? You can marry one of these guys and not have to worry about the sexual interaction aspect ever again but, rather, the emotional connection only.
I have some friends who are so in love with and wrapped up in Japanese culture. I love talking about these hilarious problems with them because it's always fun when you pull back the curtain on people's heroes.
I wonder if the rest of the world thinks US is only Ronald McDonald, teasing displays of sex and 50 different ways to die in a Jerry Bruckheimer production.
On a much lighter note, try reading this guys blogs. He's an American that transferred through a program to teach in Japan. It's pretty damn funny reading what he has to say. Example: Open your buttcrack.
Also for some reason whenever someone from another country tries to do an American accent, they invariably go with a southern accent. As if the whole country was made up of hillbillies.
That bit about the subways reminds me about something I read about Catherine Bell(star of JAG). I think it was an interview in Playboy. Anyways, she talks about her time living as a model in Japan and how she was often groped wherever she went. I didn't know that was such a prevalent problem.
I got your picture of me and you You wrote "I love you" I wrote "me too" I sit here staring and there's nothing else to do Oh it's in color Your hair is brown Your eyes are hazel And soft as clouds I have to kiss you when there's no one else around I got your picture, I got your picture I'd like a million of you over myself I want a doctor to take a picture So I can look at you from inside as well You've got me turning up and turning down and turning in and turning 'round I'm turning Japanese I think I'm turning Japanese I really think so Turning Japanese I think I'm turning Japanese I really think so Turning Japanese I think I'm turning Japanese I really think so Turning Japanese I think I'm turning Japanese I really think so I got your picture, I got your picture I'd like a million of you over myself I want a doctor to take a picture So I can look at you from inside as well You've got me turning up and turning down and turning in and turning 'round I'm turning Japanese I think I'm turning Japanese I really think so Turning Japanese I think I'm turning Japanese I really think so Turning Japanese I think I'm turning Japanese I really think so Turning Japanese I think I'm turning Japanese I really think so No sex, no drugs, no wine, no women No fun, no sin, no you, no wonder it's dark Everyone around me is a total stranger Everyone avoids me like a Psyclone Ranger Everyone That's why I'm turning Japanese I think I'm turning Japanese I really think so Turning Japanese I think I'm turning Japanese I really think so Turning Japanese I think I'm turning Japanese I really think so Turning Japanese I think I'm turning Japanese I really think so...
Hey, I didn't say none of that ever again! Even girls get frustrated sooner or later. where's that perfect guy who has all the desire, but is just able to keep it to himself for a while without going crazy...? I know, probably too much to ask.
