[Relationships] How can you tell if a guy is interested...

lol. Those are all things we do to keep getting sex. I don't think you can just eliminate that as part of the relationship. That is half of what a relationship is all about. The other half is being friends. The problem is that we all have friends. And the other half of the problem is we want to have sex with them all. So you can't really put more weight on one or the other to guage interest. Interest is gauged by which friends will give sex to us. If you can give me sex I'm interested. I may not have even been attracted to you. But now I know you can give me sex, so suddenly, you got a lot more attractive. I don't care who you are, really . I have interest. Now the question you really want to get to is do I have feelings for you.

Once you've had sex. You've got to keep giving sex. He can get friendship with a woman anywhere. He can't get sex anywhere. So keep giving him sex and if he stops having sex with you then he is no longer interested. I guarantee you that. But it's more than that. It really is. He's not going to give up sex without having the chance to upgrade. This is where your question really comes in. Is he just having sex with me or does he have feelings. Let me put it this way. He's interested otherwise he wouldn't be there. He's not going to give up sex for nothing. If he does give up sex for nothing your personality really sucks. Because sex with a bad girl is hot too. Plus sex with nobody is really lame. To give that up, you are really a biotch. I doubt that is the case. Like I said, we can be friends with anyone. Especially if they are giving us sex. So the key is to give a sex upgrade opportunity.

If you keep having sex, despite his chances to upgrade his partner sexually, then he is interested. So make sure he has chances to upgrade his sex partner. Now you are saying he will always upgrade according to your theory. Very true. But we can only upgrade if the upgrade is going to give me sex. If that doesn't happen then he will have some kind of feeling for you. That's how you know. He's got no other options. He's as high on the mountain as he can go. Nobody better is giving him sex. So it is inevitable, He is love with you. Not because he really has feelings. He has maxed out his potential. He doesn't think he'll do any better.

The problem here is that you probably think you can do better. So you leave him.

The key is to arrive at this point at nearly the same time. If both of you think you can do no better you find love. The Architect was wrong. This not about choice. But perception.

Now you are asking yourself, I know many men who have been given the chance to upgrade, but they don't do it. That is what we called whipped. The anticipation of sex. You want to whip your man. You put him on the edge of sex. This is what happened to Nick Lachey. He was whipped. Now that he got sex he is back to normal. But look where it got him. You don't want that. Give your man plenty of sex with the chance to upgrade. You'll find true love that way.

This was just an attempt to figure it out myself, using the sex perspective, but I'm kinda lost, so don't pay much attention to what I've written. I'm still working on this angle as I watch the Pope and try to figure out what the hell happened to that guy.

 

Personal experience ...

If he talks about himself more than he talks about you, then he's treating you as a friend, a confidant, or he's simply bored.

But if he's mum about himself, wants to know more about you, your problems and frustrations, and gives advise and support, regardless of whether he's busy, tired, or broke for the month, you'll know what he's up to.

If you notice for all the guys that you know, this one happens to treat you in an unfriendly way or avoids you, which you can't explain why, he might be hiding his true feelings.

 

Personally I do not think it is true. My point of view: if a woman sleeps with a guy the first time they meet or too soon after that and he does call her up and stuff, how does she not know that he thinks that she is an easy lay, which is probably what most guys would think anyway. Personally, if a woman sleeps with me the first time I meet them or not too long after that I would feel uncomfortable starting a relationship with them especially if they are willing to do such a big thing before getting to know me. I didn't even kiss my current girlfriend until 2 weeks after we started seeing each other and I didn't sleep with her for 4 months afterward. That is just my personal opinion because unless it is just sex I don't see why anybody would stay with some person that they up and slept with so soon.

 

C'mon Isabel, you interact daily with sensitive, mature college males...this should be easy!

My advice is to get some glasses...Even if you have perfect vision, just get some glasses with regular plastic in them. I don't know why, but teachers with glasses are uber-hot...

 

i kinda agree. i wou;ld not like it if a girl would sleep with me that soon. I would not think that she is able to be in a serious relationship.

BTW. lil pun 2 weeks before a kiss? and 4 months before sleeping with her. damn i oculd not wait so long with my girlfriend

 

I think that it is stupid to say guys don't ever want or can't ever be friends with a woman. If that is a fundamental truth of being a man then I guess I am not a man. Yawn.

All I can say, Isabel, is that if a woman cannot tell if a man's interest is genuine then it most likely isn't genuine. It just takes time to guage that kind of stuff. People are fairly simple when it come down to the basics like emotions and human interaction, so-called chemestry. As long as a woman is smart and thinks of protecting herself first, she can learn anything about a man she wants. Women need to realize that, in general, they have most of the power and advantage in male-female relations.

 

Anyone else notice that we men seem to complain an awful lot about the emotional complexity of women and how that is a detriment to our relationships, yet here we are in this thread telling a woman asking for advice to have sex and see if he calls, don't have sex too soon or you're an easy lay, have sex but realize that any guy who doesn't look to ditch you is whipped, men can't ever be friends with women, etc?

I mean, which gender is the ****ed up one again? I'm confused.

 

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"BROCK, she's annoying but I'm desperate...she's annoying but I'm desparate"

My advice? Buy a parrot.

"Tough luck, pretty boy....BROCK"

 

Jeff, I was saying from my point of view but I also agreed with Max, all guys are different. Yes, both genders are messed up but I thought me knew that already.

 

Women, right?

 

Girls who are boys
Who like boys to be girls
Who do boys like they’re girls
Who do girls like they’re boys
Always should be someone you really love

 

As you can see from the variety of answers it depends alot on the other person's personality and values. IMO it also depends alot on age and maturity level.

I assume you are younger rather than older. As you get older having sex at a certain point in a relationship becomes less of a formula and more of a feeling. I had relationships where the sex never happened and relationships where it happened on the first date.

A good sign in the relationship is if you don't feel the urge to play games with the other person to get what you want out of the relationship. In other words, you have an open relationship where there is mutual interests, similar values, thoughtfulness, and you communicate well about your mutal feelings.

 

No question!

 

If he doesn't give a **** about you and avoids eye contact at all costs.

 

What happened to Ferdinand?

 

The equation:
(1/First Sex - First Kiss) x (Avg. Upgrade Opportunity Rating - Girlfriend Rating) x (Avg Sex in first 60 days) x 10 = % probability of True Love

Given:
First Kiss = 1
Sex = First Sex - First Kiss (days)
Average Sex = Number of sex in first 60 days/2
Upgrade opportunity = Rating of Females at work/school

Problem:
Does your partner have feelings for you after 2 years and one day?
Given:
Your scale rating = 8
First sex = 14 days
First Kiss = 1 day
Average sex = .33 day
Upgrade Opportunity = 8.7


(1/First Sex - First Kiss) x ((Avg. Upgrade Opportunity Rating - Girlfriend Rating) x Years in Relationship x 1.5) x (Avg Sex) x 10 = % probability of True Love

=(0.33*(1/13) *10)*((8.7-8)*2 *1.5)
=.53% Probability of True Love

 

For those that need an equation, ignore my first equation, and review the one near the bottom of the post. I made some adjustments that could be critical to your happiness. I am checking data to see if the equation holds true.

 

Purely hypothetical?...

...darling?

This COULD have something to do with not wanting to impose. He could figure, "I'm always willing to see her, and when she wants to see me, she'll say so." I've done that.