[Relationships] How can you tell if a guy is interested...

Guys don't know the answer to this question. They do know the answer to the other question though

 

As with girls, it's different with every guy.

 

If:

You get fat, fart a lot, can’t cook or clean, don’t make any money and your body parts start sagging…and he’s still around, then it’s true love….



Or he’s desperate.

 

If he asks you to talk about yourself and pretends to listen.

(cruisers will just talk about themselves trying to impress you in to bed like a peacock)

If he goes out of his way to do something you want to do. Chick flick, shopping, art museim etc.

If he gets involved with your family, like goes to a family outing.

If a woman with big boobs walks by and he doesn't turn away from talking/looking at you...your money.

 

As Max said, it is different with every guy but I can give you my own way. Personally, I wouldn't take a lady out, watch a movie, with her, etc. if I was just interested in sleeping with her. If I actually wanted to be with her I would spend hours on the phone with her getting to know different things about her, would go out and do things with her, etc. If if is just to get some none of that comes in to play with me.

 

I agree .

 

That's the toughest part right there. I'm glad I'm not a woman because I'm not sure how I could tell if a guy really liked me or just wanted a peice. Of course, it could be both. If a man tries, but a woman doesn't give it up after the first, second or third date, and the man still calls and seems to have a good time, that's probably a good sign.

 

You don't understand, Isabel. You're thinking like a female.

Let me begin by saying that my statements generalize the male and female genders.

Guys don't want to be friends with girls. Ever. If a guy ever alludes to the fact that wants to spend any time at all with a female, it's because the guy feels some sort of attraction to her. An ex-boss of mine once said, "a woman is nothing but a life-support system for a pu$$y. If they didn't have those things, we wouldn't have anything to do with them." While I don't neccesarily agree with that statement, it does demonstrate the general mindset many guys have.

The moment a guy calls you just to see "what's going on" - that means he has feelings for you.

Now, he may squelch his feelings of attraction. If a guy feels attracted to his buddy's girlfriend, he may not act on his feelings of attraction and may choose to keep things platonic. But he still has those feelings.

This is a VERY considerate thing for a guy to do, and this is one of the reasons why you should reciprocate this consideration by dressing like a complete slut for him and thus driving him crazy (no, I'm not kidding).

-- droxford

 

He is interested if HE:

Goes to any lengths to find out where you are...

Talks to your parents and "seems" interested or just makes an attempt to try...

Will go with you to ANY Rockets' game regardless of who we're playing against.

 

watch for boner

 

LOL, Brian.

droxford is right. Guys might say they want to be friends but deep down they don't want female friends - they want either a relationship woman or one night stand types.

 

Isabel, of couse all the secrets will be out now and guys will surreptitiously incoprorate them into their evil schemes.

You best just go lesbo if you want a real realtionship.

 

some guys do want serious relationships, and some guys do want to be just friends with a woman.

a couple of ways to see that he is interested
1 But if he really listens to what you say and not just talks himself he might be interested.
2 If he wants to take stupid bets(like saying who has got a worse bike, the winner gets a pie) just to get to see you again.
3 If he tries to be interested in your family.
4 when you stand somewere alone(like in a bar) he immediatly goes to talk to you even tough there are friends of him there.(he most do this a couple of times).
5 When he calls or sms or e-mails you everyday


A good way to see if he just wants to be friends or wants a relationship is: tough him on the uper arm if he does not reacthe probably just wants to be friends, if he freezes or reacts he probably wants more then just being friends.(this one is not perfect, there can be errors, but that is when he doesn't react it can still be possible that he is interested).

 

The best way you can tell if a guy is interested in you is if after you have sex, and he's done, he is still interested in you. At that point every sexual urge is no longer there and you get a peak at who he really is.

So I recommend that you sleep with him and then you'll see if he's truely interested.

 

I will take a different stance on this. I have a few women friends. I am also good friends with most of the wives of my friends. Only one of them do I find attractive.

 

You know the funniest thing about this is it's probably true. If you sleep with the guy early on and he still calls, wants to hang out, etc. then it's probably a good bet he likes you.

There's no real way of knowing if he's sincere or just acting the part to get laid. In other words you're screwed, you can either trust him and probably get hurt or just give up all together. In the end all men are dogs, you're best bet is to become lesbian.

 

Give her attention by emailing her everyday. Email seems to work better than calling at first for me. It lets her know I am thinking about her and am interesting in what she is doing. I try to ask her things about work and her family. I don't like to call much at first because if she is not there and you call too much and are always leaving messages it starts to feel pathetic.

From there I try to see if we can start talking on the phone or maybe go out for coffee. The main thing is that I try and show her I want to spend time with her and give her attention. If she responds then I just kind of see how it goes from there.

 

I'm with giddyup. I actually have quite a few women friends. I play music with some of them and others I just hang with. Many of them are attractive, but I just know they aren't my type or they are with someone else so I don't even think about it.

As far as how to tell, it is completely different with everyone. And, frankly, most of us could ask the same question of women because they are equally confusing when it comes to this topic.

I wish we all just had a little sign on our heads that would light up based on our needs:

Available
Desperate
Think you're hot
Want to marry you
Want to sleep with you
I'm a stalker

etc.