Here's the angle that I would try. Tell her that you've had a lot of relationships that haven't worked out, and are also weary of starting a new dating relationship. However, you really like spending time with her, and would like to see her as friends, no big whoop... Hang out with her a few times, try to build positive feelings together, then call her up sometime and say something like "I was trying to be just friends with you, but I really like you too much to be just friends, blah, blah, blah... Will you go out with me blah, blah, blah....?" So, keep it low pressure for a couple of weeks, then press the dating issue. If she's gotten to really like you, my guess is that she will put her reservations aside and go out with you even though she's still getting over her breakup. There's nothing like somebody new to get over somebody you're hung up on.
Yeah, that was way too long a story, but the point of the background was basically to get across that I really feel like I was "right" to go out with girl #1... I had a certain feeling of comfort with her, and #2 and #3 I didn't. And I didn't pay attention to that much at the time. And with this girl I get that feeling again. Oh well, it felt good to get all that off my chest anyway. Yup. Though neither of us are in Mccormick... that's the uber-****ty freshman dorm. DEAR GOD MAN, you still remember that!? That was like 2 years ago! Wow, that was a nutty situation if I ever saw one... Oh, and to answer your question, no, she's quite white. Hmm... that sounds like an excellent plan but very... deceptive? I guess all this other stuff is too, but man... your plan gets the sneakiness award. These are exactly the thoughts I had in the back of my mind, but nobody else was saying them, so I thought maybe I was crazy. I gotta think some more.
I know, I just saw your name by a girl advice thread and it all came back to me. Manny is the only other loser around here with a steel trap BBS memory like that.
All the good advice you have gotten so far is simple and revolves around this. If you like the girl then hang out with her and see what happens. #1 if something happens then great thats what you wanted. If not then its cool you guys can just be friends. If you thought she was a fun person to hang out with in the first place then it will be ok to just be friends with her anyways.
Actually I don't remember that one, moe (one of the few times) but I will take credit for what you said. Well whatever you decide, Drexler, good luck with it!
We worked this all out a few days ago..... Tell her she kicks a$$!!! When she looks at you all confused, hit her with it again, but this time end it with a little dance. Im telling you....the ladies love it!
If I were you, I wouldn't date chicks with number names... "Who... does... number... 2.... work... for...." - Austin Powers "Which one's Trudi? The one with all the **** in her face? - Vince "You're the ONE that I want... wooo-ooo-hooo...%" - the Grease Chicks and Dudes "He IS the ONE that will bring balance to the force, you must see that..." - Qui-GONE-Jin "I'm trying to free your mind, Neo. But I can only show you the door. You're the ONE that has to walk through it." - Morpheus AND FINALLY (two in one BONUS): "And now for my #1 killer... Number 2..." - Dr. Evil "no ONEComing back from back from the SIXth seed... got [sic] down in the series..." - Rudy T
Dude, Hang out, no pressure, she will come around. Some of the best GF I ever had I did the friend thing first. DD
Drexlerfan, You seem like a nice enough guy. Don't be in such a rush for a relationship. Just have fun. It sounds like that's what she wants to do. Once you've hung out together long enough, you'll find out if she right for you and vice versa. Don't get into talking about previous relationships. That never works.
Woman Suck...not all women, but why does it have to be a game...why the drama...why can't it be simple, you know, yes I like you and be done with it... My advice, she'll tell you the complications with her ex when she's ready...If your willing to wait, wait...if not, move on to the next one...enjoy the journey...
It's funny, but one of the most common theme you pick up from women by just gleening through the personal ads in the paper is "NO GAMES, NO DRAMA." Why don't I believe them?
I've ALWAYS checked the personals for fun. Hell, my wife and I used to read them and LAUGH our asses off at some of them. Plus, when you sit and eat lunch at a restaurant by yourself, there's only so much of the Houston Press to read that is mildly interesting.
Want advice? Don't bet on a horse with a limp Want girl advice? Ask a broad...not a bunch of rocket fans
Im in this situation, except for I never asked out. And I dont know what to do? because she dont want to talk with me about why she changed.
Huh, that's funny. I wonder why she wouldn't want to tell you. That's pretty damn harsh. My girl would've love to tell me, but she just really had no idea why it happened. I was pretty shocked at the things she said about herself though. She looked me in the eye and straight-up told me "I've been a total b**** to you the past few weeks. I'm just not as warm-hearted a person as I was last semester, and I'm okay with that." I mean, it was kinda true really, but you just don't expect anyone to say that about themselves. I wonder how I'm still such good friends with her. I guess I just like honesty. Nothing like having a relationship that was going great end because the other person changed and they don't even know why. Grrrr. I feel for ya.
