So my g/f and I are arguing...

I agree, having a bird in hand is no reason to let yourself get out of shape. But, it's also human nature to take what you have for granted. Everyone does it. So, I was just pointing out that while it may have been an idle threat (losing weight), there's probably some truth to it. Btw, I would think it was also an indicator that she's been giving some thought to her post-macalu dating life. She's been strategizing.

Btw, she might be pushing for sushi because she wants to make some reforms in her diet. Hard to lose 30 lbs when you're eating at Bennigans.

 

Well, there's your first mistake. Dude, one thing to learn and learn now is that relationships are about compromise. A good rule of thumb is, "If you won't remember the argument in a month, let it go."

Part of the problem here is no one bothered to offer a compromise. Couldn't one of you have just suggested you go someplace else altogether? And that whole, "Are you paying?" thing is way out of line. I mean, it's not about money. It is about enjoying each other's company.

Look, take it from someone who had WAY too many arguments over where to eat because his stomach has a life of its own, that is one of the dumbest things to argue about ever. It is so completely un-important.

Both of you sound like you need to learn some better inter-personal skills.

 

I hear ya man. I would do the same thing. I got into some arguments with my g/f a while back because she said all I wanted to do was have sex all the time. My response was "there are millions of women in this world that wished they had a man like me. Why don't you go tell your friends who don't have a man about how I am in the sac. See what they tell you." Well, we are still together and things are going pretty good. Sometimes you gotta be very blunt and sound like an a hole but hey if you don't put em in check someone else will.

 

Jeff, I get the feeling there were other, deeper issues involved, and the restaurant thing was just a catalyst

 

Very, very stupid comment.

 

lol i seriously have no clue if you're full of **** or not and you're probably just joking around, but that's some funny **** hahaha

 

That sh*t doesn't work. TrimSpa is a scam.

 

Let her go, chances are she will gain 30 more pounds.

Find some slim honey who is nice and doesn't like to argue.

DD

 

It doesn't work? Call me naive, but after seeing Anna Nicole, I was a believer.

(Besides, I'm talking about the gesture of placing a dietary supplement in front of your girlfriend. I just find it funny imagining the look on her face.)

 

Don't take it too seriously.

I'm sure you both will find other people once you reach high school.

-- droxford

 

Ouch.

Please explain.

 

why don't you tell her that it appears she's a little too much of a lard ass to get up and leave you, seeing as it would require an ounce of energy.

and when she castrates you you'll never have the need for women again.

 

Clearly, but this is the BBS, not the psychiatrist office, so I felt like giving the simple version.

 

The way you claim to treat women is more like the way people treat circus animals than humans. You use threats and degrading comments to manipulate people into staying instead of actually caring about people's feelings.

I mean, would you let someone talk to your mother that way? If not, why in the world would you ever talk to someone else that way, especially someone you supposedly care for or even love.

Oh, and I should add, you make the rest of us look bad for it.

 

Ditto.

 

a deck of cards can solve many-a-problem.
highcard decides, no exceptions.

maybe we're just weird like that.

 

There is a fine line that needs to be walked sometimes, also, though.

A respectful relationship is obviously best. But sometimes women do need to be told when enough is enough. Otherwise, they will walk all over you. It is human nature. Of course, being an a-hole is just as bad. No one is "in control" in a successful relationship.

Age has a lot to do with it, also.

Eh, what the hell do I know? I have still been 100% unsuccessful in every relationship, so far.

 

There's a lot to be said for the trial and error method.....

 

That was a ****ty thing to say, but you need to give it a rest. And, I try never to say anything about my wife I wouldn't say to her face because you have no idea if it will get back to her and, more importantly, it's not cool to blast someone when you know they aren't looking.

"It's about her 'fat ass' not going to the gym..." is a good example.