I remember my first date with my soon-to-be wife. I was trying to go all out. A comedy club, dinner at a nice restaurant by the lake, a walk along the lake afterwards, etc. But things kept going wrong. Comedy club was sold out, restaurant was booked solid, forecast was for rain. I kept having to call her and tell her "okay...change of plans..." Finally, she just said "how about we just go get some chips and salsa and have some margaritas?" That was the moment I knew I was going to spend the rest of my life with her.
First date should just be a simple coffee shop environment that is quiet and you can just talk and be relaxed. In Albuquerque I used to go to Flying Star Cafe. Here in Houston Corner Bakery is a good place for just a casual, low stress meetup and talk. Im sure it exists somewhere, but someone should do some crazy research on this subject and then open a place specifically for first dates.
When I was 20 or 21 I was set up with this 18yo smoking hot half Japanese, half white chick who worked at a gym. I went by her house in Deer Park and picked her up and met her parents. It was super weird, the white dad was sitting in this Mr. Myagi Japanese manicured back yard in a kimono, and her mom comes out in a kimono and serves us tea. We chat for a bit and I guess I'm approved so we leave. I just take her back to my apt and I start to get the sense that she's as dumb as a box of rocks, doesn't get any jokes, no awareness of any current events, not a Rockets fan, but hey, smoking hot. So during the deed she keeps calling me Kevin and telling me how much she likes me, but I just sort of shrugged it off, didn't correct her and kept at it. I saw her a couple more times even though she kept calling me Kevin before I ghosted her. Even looks and being a freak can't make up for being dumb.
Last first (non-rando-hookup) dates I've been on: Art Car Parade (set up by friends) > live music > swimming pool (had to drive back to Houston the next weekend for the sex, she was classy like that) dinner > comedy club > dancing > sex (Austin) ranch tour/hike > swimming at Krause w/ picnic and drinks > sex
First one is now called Lindo Mexico. No idea what it was called back in 2007ish. Second one, with the dirt cheap margs, was (I think) called Panchitos. But I just looked at Google maps and am now not so sure. It used to be in the same shopping center as Hastings, but that closed forever ago and I don't know what's there now. There is another Mexican restaurant called Panchitos in a different location, so maybe they moved there? Or maybe it's a new one. Who knows. Third one was Margaritas, just off 45, right before most of the exits for Huntsville.
Ah, okay. Place I was referring to was called Casa Thomas (aka Costa TooMuch). I just googled it and it looks like it's a Mama Juanita's now. I watched the Rockets win their 2nd championship there.
Lol I got to the point first date we’re always on my couch. And at times an outdoor bar with cheap drinks anything more isnsimp
To: The Men Re: Cheesecake Factory Cheesecake Factory is highly over rated. Most restaurants are. Some if the best diners are small mom and pop shops. If a woman in her thirties or forties who is looking to settle down, rest assure she doesn't want to go to the Cheesecake Factory. She has probably been there with a dozen of uninspiring dates like yourself. Give her a chance at something new instead of reminding her of all the other failed dates.
4 star or 5 star venues, high end restaurants.......all depends on the income. If they really like you for who you are, they would go for less....it has always been that way. It just becomes a tedious convo if you do not hit it off initially, no matter where folks are.
I don't get it. CF is just faux-bougie and white-trash pretentious. Like you said, go somewhere independently owned.
It's more about the man trying to impress and not realizing there is only 2 Cheesecake factories in Houston. It's not about the price. It's about the bad memories. Yes, there is a whole other group of women who view it as a status symbol. Unless that is a man's thing to play daddy, your average guy is not looking to play daddy.
Dude, I was all about Baybrook Mall back in 84 and 85. Is it even still there. My places to hit back in the day were: Steak and Ale Papasitas Flying Dutchman Tookie's in Seabrook T Bone Tom's Clifton By The Sea In Galveston I loved the Wentletrap and Gaidos. Clear Creek High Class of 85
Usually start at a restaurant and then play it by ear. If things go well then maybe drinks, a movie, mini golf, a place with some live music, just whatever Two Rows in the Rice Village was my go to starting spot in Houston. Fajita Rita's was my go to in College Station.
First date with my ex-wife was the casino.. Cheap All u can eat buffet and free well drinks.. Memories!
I discovered early on that a movie was a waste of time on a first date. You sit there and can’t talk or really interact with the other person. I guess if there’s fondling at that point you can but why even go to the movie?
