My good friend passed away this morning. He was 41, and left his wife, 7yo boy and a 3yo girl. He was mowing his lawn and his wife and kids went to get flowers for their flower beds. They came back and he was lying in bed, unresponsive. His wife did CPR, paramedics did too, but it was unsuccessful. RIP, Tommy. I’ve lost a few other friends (and one friend’s 12yo son) very suddenly recently this way. No warning, just gone. **** this ****.
It's nice that most of us are sheltered enough from death that it's shocking for most of our lives. We're all going to go, not a moment is guaranteed, life is incredibly fragile at every stage. Sorry about your friend(s) man.
Sorry to hear, Xerobull. That's way too early, especially with such young children. Did he have any known pre-existing conditions?
Not that I know of. He has some condition with bone growth but nothing obvious. Agree on all counts. Thank you.
Sad to read this news about your friend and his family. That must have been devastating for his family to come home to. I couldn't imagine.
Damn, sorry to hear that. In 2007 the original drummer for my band died suddenly. He was only 36 and had an embolism in his lung. He was a convenience store and suddenly collapsed. The staff there called the paramedics but he died on the way to the hospital. It's scary to think that stuff like that can happen but human life is very fragile.
Sorry to hear about that RIP. I’m also 41 and have begun to see people I work with have concerning health issues. You spend the first 30 years or so feeling indestructible and now every little random ache or pain you wonder if it might be a blood clot or tumor or who knows… Hug your loved ones and appreciate everyday guys.
Sudden heart attacks will do that, lost my father to one last year totally out of the blue. Reminder to get checked up
Not a close friend of mine, but a close friend of my best friend got put on hospice yesterday. 32. his father passed in February and apparently he spiraled out of control with depression, stopped eating and only drank booze. He lived by himself and by the time someone checked on him and took him to rehab his liver was failing.
sorry to hear that. I've recently lost a few friends in their 40s and its too friggin early. according to my grandfather, who died at 93, living long is a blessing and a curse. the curse is seeing so many loved ones pass.
Sorry to hear that. It sucks. I feel for you and that man's family. I can only imagine what that experience would be like. I hope the best for his family going forward.
My condolences, man. Sucks. My 46 year-old aunt was recently diagnosed with terminal cancer. F*** cancer, too. Also, I had a weird dream today that I was in the throes of death. Scared me like crazy, considering I was sneaking in a nap while my 4 year and 15 month old did (the stars aligned). It was a lucid type dream, and I've had some workload stress/anxiety. As I'm laying there, having this dream, my mind briefly thinks about what the kids are going to do until their mom gets home in 8 hours. It scared me.
Sorry, buddy. I've been mostly blessed with only a few personal friends dying. But as we get older, it will uptick exponentially. I do know there is an afterlife, but I'm as scared as anyone to see where that takes us.
Thanks for the kind words, clutchbros. I process change very fast and while I’ve lost loved ones to disease, these bolt-out-of-the-blue deaths hit me very hard. There’s no rhyme or reason to them. As much as I’ve been knocked around in my life I’m still going strong and still have that semi-invulnerable feeling even at my age, and I’ll be 50 in 2023. I’ve broken about 10 bones, had stitches a dozen times, surgeries, fallen out of trees and off ladders, played rugby, been in car wrecks, been beaten up several times, overcome terrible migraines and generally run into random obstacles on a daily basis. So it’s hard for me to think that anyone younger than me could die of some health issue. With my friend, he apparently had some very bad, consistent ‘heartburn’ a few weeks ago. He got an EKG and said it was fine but had a follow-up the upcoming week with a cardiologist. His wife thinks he may have been downplaying some issue, which was his style, because he didn’t like to worry anyone. So it’s a ****ing shame but it looks like it was probably his heart. At 41.
