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Would you get into a long distance relationship for a $15k raise?

Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by TheRealist137, Jun 23, 2021.

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  1. TimDuncanDonaut

    TimDuncanDonaut Member

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    Go for the job.
     
    #21 TimDuncanDonaut, Jun 23, 2021
  2. jo mama

    jo mama Contributing Member

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    you just answered your own question brah!

    /thread
     
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    Unless you and your GF are in lockstep on this decision, you can assume you'll break up soon thereafter. Even if you ARE in lockstep now, you probably still breakup anyway. Frankly, odds are you'll break up no matter what. 50% of marriages end in divorce.

    Similarly, you not gonna retire from this job and as your career advances, you'll earn more money anyway.

    You need to decide what do you value in life. When you are on your death bed, will you lament that lost job opportunity? Will you lament that lost girlfriend? At a young age, it's hard to know but you need to prioritize what you think is important. I can tell you one thing, most people reflect back on their lives as they get older and their fond memories come from great relationships and life's experiences/adventures. Very few people think back about their fond memories of that job they had when they were 25. But this job could be a great opportunity that sets you in the future. But chasing money rarely brings happiness. A certain baseline of money does brings stability but if you are generally stable, seems to be a correlation between money and added stress.

    Step 1: Go look up a website about guiding principles.
    Step 2: Find ~15 principles that mean something to you.
    Step 3: Then rank those
    Step 5: Look at your top 5.
    Step 6: Re-evaluate your decision to move.

    Examples Principles sites for inspiration:
    101 Timeless Principles to Guide You to Your Best Life (lifehack.org)
    18 Life Principles For Greater Living | Thought Catalog
    Core Company Values: 100 Examples & How We Built Ours | Hotjar Blog
     
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  4. jiggyfly

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    I would stay then, you never know how working around your boss and leadership will go, he might be an ******* or most likely he will have assholes around him and they will undermine your shine.

    Or most likely working around your boss and leadership will not matter at all and you will not be as happy and away from your girl.

    I would stay in an environment that makes me happy.
     
    #24 jiggyfly, Jun 24, 2021
  5. KingCheetah

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    $3,500 will buy some nice rims.
     
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  6. TWS1986

    TWS1986 SPX '05, UH' 19

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    ok TJ ;)
     
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  7. TWS1986

    TWS1986 SPX '05, UH' 19

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    ****. That. ****.
     
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    Thanks. I am leaning towards staying. The money is a bonus but people are right that chasing money isn't really what's going to make me happy. I know that I am happy professionally and personally here, and in all my life there's very few instances where both things have been going well for me, so why end that prematurely?

    It would seem like being more visible with my manager and leadership would help my career but it is possible that it would be the opposite, which I hadn't thought about.
     
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  9. jiggyfly

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    Good ****.

    Took me a long time to realize work environment is very important and the mostly people are shite so when you have a good environment appreciate it.

    Now if it was for a significant amount of money I would adjust accordingly.

    Now don't get complacent always be thinking about the next move.
     
    #29 jiggyfly, Jun 24, 2021
  10. Blake

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    Nope
     
    #30 Blake, Jun 24, 2021
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    How much is the second gf in your new city going to cost you?
     
    #31 Mr. Brightside, Jun 25, 2021
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    no
     
    #32 Jontro, Jun 25, 2021
  13. heypartner

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    I think you are miscalculating GF savings from not being in the same city. You probably save money, even including the twice a month budget for long distance dating ... not to mention time-savings for yourself.

    I’m betting you save money, not lose it
     
    #33 heypartner, Jun 25, 2021
  14. Xerobull

    Xerobull You son of a b!tch! I'm in!

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    Straight jackin' saves you money!

     
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  15. TimDuncanDonaut

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    [​IMG]
     
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  16. KingCheetah

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    Long distance relationships always work out.
     
    #36 KingCheetah, Jun 25, 2021
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    B-Bob "94-year-old self-described dreamer"

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    Thread is slightly misleading, TBH. So many males are like... "in a relationship? any relationship? Yes, pls."
     
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  18. KingCheetah

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    Rims to save the relationship...
     
    #38 KingCheetah, Jun 25, 2021
  19. daywalker02

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    Give me 50k tho......
     
    #39 daywalker02, Jun 25, 2021
  20. daywalker02

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    You have the speed to run back and forth.
     
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