Would you get into a long distance relationship for a $15k raise?

IMO those are not the questions you should be asking yourself.

The money would not be the impetus for the move for me but if the move would be better for my career or just something I want to do.

If it is just about the money, I think being around my girl would be worth more than 4k.

I think the biggest thing is your current working environment, if you like the people and your bosses I would stay, because you have no idea how that will change in a different place and I had to learn that the hard way to many times.

A good working environment is hard to put a price tag on.

 

Depends on how much you value $3,500. Everyone's price is different.

Personally, that amount is little more than the extra gratuity I add to the bill after dining with Mexican industrialists.

 

going to need to see a pic of the GF before i can give any advice.

in all seriousness though, if youre serious about the girl then it seems like an obvious no. the long distance thing wont work long-term so youre basically ending your relationship if you move. if its serious then maybe ask if she would move with you.

but if youre looking for an exit strategy from the relationship i think this would be a good move. you can get out of it w/out actually breaking up with her.

$3500/year is a really an insignificant amount of money when it comes to moving to a new city...youre going to transfer to a new job/life/city just for $3500? if you are already looking to move than the extra money is a nice bonus, but i wouldnt uproot my entire life for that small an amount of money.

where are you moving from and to?

 

You going to marry this girl?

For me it would be about future opportunities.

Also - have you negotiated salary yet? I'd lay it out like you just said and say you need more to make it worth it. Generally, first offer is never the best offer.

 

She may want you more due to the separation but traveling back and forth and may add that component.

That said if its far you will not travel between the 2 places as much as you say and that is probably not worth 3,500

3,500 isn't much so it's more about the new job and how good. Also the relationship. If she is needy and you are needy I can see it being a strain and especially after 12 months it gets old

 

No. Tack a few zeroes on to the end of that number to cover travel and quality of living then we can talk.

Several more zeroes if the new living area is Dallas.

 

fwiw my wife and I lived apart for two years after we were engaged. I commuted back and forth weekly from Boston to upstate New York to hold down two jobs and keep my benefits with one. We made it through that period and got married a year after I moved back to NY for good. If it's meant to be it's meant to be. And honestly it's not really about the money, it's about whether the job move represents a step up and/or progress in your career. Multiple and conflicting values at work here.

 

Im going through a deal that is asking for 'relocate' Dallas barf

 

Do you like where you are currently working?

Do you just want a change of scenery?

 

Deal breaker for non-lifechanging money. By that I mean you can buy a square mile and turn it into whatever you want to block out the D-holes

 

I`ve done a long distance relationship for 3 years, 2 hour flight to Omaha that we we both do every 3 weeks or so, works for us but then again I have no desire to marry (nor does she, been there done that) and this works out great for both of us, keeps the spark going. Good Luck though!!

 

Dudes are in here lobbing Dallas missiles all over the thread and this guy just drops an Omaha bomb on everyone.

 

I moved away from my GF to another state without the 15K raise. Created a natural separation and even though she said she doesn't do long distance she's been to visit me twice and I've been to visit her once (headed to her place again this weekend) and our relationship is doing OK.

My kids are 19 and 21 and her son is 7. I'm not interested in being a full time father to her son and won't ever get remarried, but don't mind being a good influence when they're around. I've told her if/when she needs more from a relationship all she has to do is say so and we can go our own ways.

So far so good but everyone's expectations and circumstances are different. Good luck

 

Neither. Woman come and go. Money come and go. Seek your happiness regardless of the two.

 

If she's not your wife, career comes first. If she loves you, she will follow you. Be the leader.

 

Your goals at this point should be to become the manager, not get closer to suck his tit. Not to be rude...

 

The raw dollar amount doesn't matter nearly as much as how much of a percentage wealth increase 15k is to you.

Going from 35k to 50k is fairly life changing.

Going from 100k to 115k is only mildly noticeable.

Going from 185k to 200k is basically a fart in the wind.