I don't know, dude, I tend to side with the "uptight girlfriend" answer. I would find that **** HILARIOUS if my girlfriend made a similar reference to what you did...and obviously you're not serious...at least you wouldn't do it with her WATCHING... Or would you... But I think it just depends on your own personality--judging from your one-liner, I think you need a chick who can handle a joke (and one that I found pretty damn funny, by the way).
Pretend like nothing happened; she wants to put it behind you, so leave it there. (I agree with an earlier poster who said this was caused by both parties overreacting.) If you're going to fight, at least pick something worth fighting about.
"JuanValdez Arnel, is this a formula for a relationship or a power play? Do you find this method to be successful in creating long-lasting, loving, trusting relationships? " There is an entire bigger picture to all that, it's not just a few lines that I listed straight out of my head, but this is how he would be best off handling this situation, but it looks like she's wililng to compromise anyways, which is good, just don't become a wuss again, tell her you both overreacted and that's it!! Drop the topic and dont' bring it up again, and next time dont' let her know she can intimidate you with her WORDS. Relationships are supposed to be fun anyways, and todays "experts" make it all serious, this is why he would be better off staying cocky and funny like he is which is what most of the girls like anyways, and probably this one as well. The only thig is, you have to have a backbone, dont' appologize for stupid stuff. Unless you really messed up and in that case it's good to be a man and appologize quickly and get over it. I guess the point I'm trying to make is don't look for approval, because once you make a girl your mommy, she's out. (Some of them may stay even if they have low interest level for VARIOUS resons, she can be lonely, she can be used to you, she can be using you, or she can be waiting untill she completely doesn't feel ANYTHING anymore for you and then after dumping you she will not feel bad at all because she spent her "rebound" time being still with you and losing interest, this is why guys are usually the ones who get dumped and left hearbroken while our so called "emotional" female society easily moves on to another succer to take over his reality, if he let's her that is). And to answer you question, or maybe not answer it, I do not find a relationship in which girl gets TOTALLY upset over a cocky and funny answer that teases her and acts like she's ready to leave (and if she's serious) I DO NOT consider taht healthy. Taht is why he has to answer her tests in such a cool manner to let her know "hehe, you dont' intimidate me, but it's kinda cute" and never beg for her to stay. Females will test you the most in the beggining of the relationships and as her interest level rises, she will test you less and less and be way more consistent. WOMEN with HIGH INTEREST level are consistent! Your relationship is either pretty new or you may be starting to be a pushover around her which turns her off because obviously your natural personality is a cocky and funny guy that is fun to be with so she should consider her self lucky. For a healthy relatioship, from my experience and research and studies, you have to keep things light, and funny, and fun, never get into too much serious stuff. She's not your "best friend" so dont' treat her like one, and dont' become her girlfriend. You're her man! Once you have the right attitude and realize that you're only being tested you'll get over these things very easy and they'll occur less and less, but they will never comletely stop, because she as a female has to know that you're keeping your edge and that she can trust you to be a man. Once again, I going to deep with this, if you or anybody has a specific question and wants "opinions" feel free to e-mail. Later guys, and rockets better win tonight, it's getting rediculous.
Dude, paragraphs are your friends. Use them. And I guess your signature defines your chances of having a lasting, meaningful relationship.
haha, thanx BEHAD, I should have used paragraphs so I appologize folks. I was just in a hurry. And anybody can believe what they want, but most of the guys that are naturally great with women will agree with my opinions in this case, but hey, whatever suits you BEHAD. I was just responding because somebody asked for help. And isn't it kinda ironic that your signature reflects what type of relationship a lot of guys out there are in. Pay real close attention to the last sentence of your signature! That's your future BEHAD .
Asking for relationship advice here is always interesting because the feedback you'll get will always run the gamut. Some of it will be wise and some foolish. You've got playas are loyal husbands and everything in between all casting the reflections of their own relationships onto the BBS as advice. Some of it will be relevant to the person asking and likely most of it will not be. I wonder if it is at all clarifying for the people who are already confused about what they should do.
I think 17 years of marriage would prove otherwise....but thanks for your advice. I'll try it out on my wife. I'll just let her know I've been doing it wrong all these years.
Thanks guys for the comments. Update: Well I had dinner with her last night. Funny thing was both of us just pretended like nothing happened. So I guess we are back at where we were before anything happened. The bad news: Now I have to go with her to the mall on Saturday.
Take her by Victoria Secret and buy her a fancy g string and tell her you want her to wear it so she will look just like Christina.
Look, for those of you giving Behad a hard time, what's the longest relationship you've ever had? A year? An entire school year + 2 summers maybe? The "afraid" thing is a common joke -- sort of a wink-wink/nudge-nudge thing between those who're married or have been with someone for more than a few years. Anyway, it comes up all the time, and it beats the pants off of us simply gushing in sugary terms about how much we still love our women. That would get disgusting. Dark humor is much better. It's not like that freak who plays for the Kings.
