That marketing works. I would much rather be sleeping with a Persian than an Iranian on my resume'. No question about it.
I mean, if you have the energy for it and you're not cheating on anyone you're serious with, why the hell not? Sounds like the best possible way to get the experience of knowing the sort of person you'll finally want to settle down with. My mom dated all sorts of guys in college, by her description. Some were less serious, some were more serious. In the end, she didn't end up marrying any of them. She met my dad after undergrad because they happened to both be in summer school at the same university (her in grad school, him in undergrad, they're 5 years apart), took a shine to him, and they got married in about a year. That was 50 years ago next month. Meanwhile, I don't know anybody, personally, of my generation (older millennials but including my sister who's 6 years older) that didn't find a person and latch onto them indefinitely until things fell apart (unless they didn't.) That includes me. Eight years in my first serious relationship, nearly three year and counting trying to win her back.) I always envied my mom being able to just casually date people for fun, something that seems extremely hard to do nowadays. Times are different, values are different, society is far more isolated. If you can make it work for yourself, why the hell not?
This is a very thoughtful post and I agree with it...but I think you should know that the OP is in his late 40's.
Me too...but I’m in my 20s. Aren’t you late 40s or something? Why are you even on tinder/bumble. No offense, but nobody worth your time is going to swipe on you there (your age/looks—again no offense just the truth). Regarding your issue, I had the same thing going on where I thought I had a problem. Met someone who looked/had the personality of everything I wanted. Got out of the game right then and there, that was my first clue that I’m just trying to find the right person. I moved away, long distance doesn’t really work and now back in the game and going on dates regularly again. Maybe it’s the fear that I’ve been too picky and don’t wanna be single into my mid 30s, or your age. But making an active effort to be more flexible and know that the unicorn I may be looking for is impossible to find is something I am more aware of now
LOL at all these "Yeah man, get your groove on! You'll never know who the one for you is unless you date around! You've got time! I didn't get married until I was 35!" posts. Y'all realize that Fatty Fat Arbuckle is like 49 years old, right?
Sidebar: As young lads when we were exploring da unfiltered internetz with yahoo, we typed in persian cat and didnt get what we expected but we didnt leave disappointed(knowwuhimsahying....). I think it was whitehouse.com too that had the goodz, all while unintentional.
As to tonight? She was about 30 minutes late which is no issue. Actually talked with a mutual friend from High school about seeing her again while I was waiting. Anyway, he was finishing a banking meeting and actually joined us for a couple drinks. We tried to keep her out longer, but she had to leave. Regardless, albeit expensive, it was a fun reconnect, and I'm sure I'll see her again. And I have a girl that is coming over to try out the pool in about 12 hours.
I may have issues, but self loathing isn't remotely one of them. I love life. Wish I did better, but don't we all?
That would be the Persian/Iranian. Just loaned her $400. She is front of the line and one I would commit to, but I may be a schmuck. I've talked to my girl friends and they say I'm being a gentleman, but time will tell.
