Have you ever gotten back together with an ex? Did it work?

I tried once but I quickly found out that I was doing it out of lust. I was looking for those good times we had in the past and trying to merge them with the present. That just doesn't work. Luckily we both realized that we were trying to get back together for all the wrong reason and were able to walk away happy to be able to still call each other friends.

I also had a girl try to get back together after she left me for my best friend. (We were thinking about getting married.)

My friend kept telling me that she was coming on to him all the time. He was about to move to Portland and she was telling him that she wanted to leave me and go with him. When he told me everything I figured that she already made her decision, so I told him to tell her, "okay lets go." She was rich girl so she could afford to pay for a lot of stuff and save him a load of money. She even paid for the entire move.

After about three months of him stringing her along and having her pay for everything he finally tells her that he's gay. Well she calls me up crying saying that she made a mistake and wanted me back. So I asked her if this change of heart came after she found out he was gay. (She didn't know he's been telling me everything.) Right then the tears stop falling and in a serious but confused tone she asked me, "You knew about everything, from the beginning. Huh?" I told her that she made her decision. That was the last time I actually talked to her.

After about two years, we are starting to patch up that friendship we once had through e-mails and letters. I'll never date her again but I think we can become friends once more. As for my best friend, we still are and planning a road trip in a couple of months.

 

Franchise2001,

I would not get in touch with her. I think you are setting yourself up to be very hurt or at the very least, extremely disappointed.

I remember thinking I was in love with this girl who was 19 at the time. Girls at that age (and really up to 24, I think) are so flighty and really don't know what they want (even though they will say that they do). I don't know how old she is now, but if she is under 24, there is a very good chance that she is still hurt about you not getting back in touch with her.

Forget about her and move on with your life. I know it sounds cold and heartless, but TRUST ME, it is better not to try to get back with her then to do so and get hurt even worse.

 

I have two words for Franchise2001,

Topless-Bar

 

If you want to see if she's matured, talk to her when she's 31, not 21.

Personally, I think getting back with an ex is a little silly. There is something to be said for moving on. That's what life is all about. Move forward, not backwards.

 

This is the most poignant relationship advice I've come across. I'll remember this.

 

Don't do it franchise2001. C'mon man your better than that, there are plenty of other fresh babies out there just waiting on the money man to come up and get some air. You know what I'm saying baby your money.

-Vince Vaughn

 

Dude, if you do talk to her ask her questions about what or who she was doing all this time you have not seen her. You don't want to go through all this trouble and get back in her pants and its all worn out.

I had that happen to me I had a girlfriend she sent me a dear john letter when I had went away for a while and then I come back and she wants to get back with me and I find out she's been stripping and doing who knows what with how many guys. Just be careful...Take things slow and don't give her too much information about you. Get all the info on her first. Then decide which direction to go. Good Luck.

 

Depends on how things ended. If it ended neutrally, then go for it.

NEVER NEVER NEVER get back with a liar, a cheater, a theif, or someone who was careless with you.

 

Man, that's horrible.













You don't happen to have her phone number, do you? Thanks alot

 

You don't happen to have her phone number, do you? Thanks alot [/B][/QUOTE]


I doubt you would want this one. She still tries to call every now and then but I have yet to see her. She probably got fat and can't make the big bucks like she used to over at Treasures...

 

Bad time to ask me this question........

 

I would advise checking yourself into a monastery.

It's a quick cure, but a thorough one.

 

Franchise2001,

Do not send that letter. The things you say should be said in person. I would suggest inviting her to lunch, and limiting the conversation to what you've done over the past 2 years and what you're doing now. The conversation will then allow you both to find out where the other person is mentally and emotionally. If a reconciliation (or rekindling of the relationship) is possible, you'll know without having to forcefully discuss the past. Eventually, you will later be able to discuss the issues that split you.

If, however, you really do not want to see her again (or your initial lunch leads you to that conclusion) and need to get everything off you chest, then you can send the letter. Otherwise, it (even one that is meant to be "friendly") only will come across like you have no interest in hearing her side of things (which might include an apology, BTW).

 

yep, I did once.


It didn't work out though. It was my fault. She was trying to make it work out, but I started to date another chick just before we tried to get back together. And I made the choice that the new girl I was with was worth trying for. I couldn't help it...she was FINE..(and a great personality )

 

I did it one time and promised never to do it again.

 

Yes, I have. It was the single worst relationship decision I've ever made.

But everyone's different.

 

Good luck - keep us posted on what happens. A lot of this stuff is easier said than done, but by letting go/getting over your past you will realize some amazing things that you've been missing out on.

 

If I were in your situation, I would take a polaroid of my weiner then mail it to her.

Hell, I'll do it anyway. What's her address?