I have to think about a pal who told me that 89% percent of Tinder girls in an Asian country, they just want to be taken out for a free of charge meal. Mainly upscale a la carte. After the meal another 90% just takes a leave. Never to be seen or heard of again. I had to chuckle there.
Don't take yourself so serious. Make her laugh with some dark humor. What's your favorite dark jokes?
No, don't ask her out. Girls nowadays don't like to be asked out. They find that very demeaning and it diminishes their feminism. They are evil and most of them have STI's. Try an alternative lifestyle. j/k ASK HER OUT and eventually you will have to ask her again for secks (This is much harder). http://bbs.clutchfans.net/index.php...t-special-someone.223489/page-17#post-7216487
Do not text her. Call her. Don't ask her out, but ask her when is she taking you out for dinner or whatever? Have fun with it. The majority of time this actually works and sometimes they pay. The important thing is call her. Not text.
as promised...the update: the broad loved sushi. had a great time. on to date #2. Roscoe, what should I feed her next? Chicken/waffles?
She came up and talked to you and you didn't ask her out, didn't call her later that day to ask her out, didn't call her the next day to ask her out, still haven't asked her out and will probably make another excuse to not call her and ask her out today. Look JMAD21, I know what you're going through. Few years back when I was teaching percussion in college, a kid came to me much the same way you're coming to us now, saying the same thing that you're saying. He wanted to drop out of band. His mother was a widow, all crippled up. She was scrubbing floors. She had this pin in her hip. So he wanted to drop band and get a job. Now these were poor people, these were hungry people with real problems. Understand what I'm saying? What happened to the kid you ask? I don't know. He quit. He sucked, I didn't need him.
Got an update. So I ended up calling her Saturday and asked if she wanted to hang out. She said she couldn't because she had plans with family. I said "thats okay, maybe another time?" she said yes, but I'm not sure if she knew that I meant a date, or just a casual hang out. So next time I see her I'm gonna have a whole date planned out and ask her that way. Ive chilled out a lot on the subject. She's a cool chick, but whatever happens happens. Idk what my deal is, im the most chill person in every other part of my life. But when it comes to dating i just overthink everything and drive myself crazy. Im working on it though. I normally only go for one girl at a time and put all my effort into that one girl. I think that makes me put too much pressure on myself... Thanks again for all the responses
I... don't understand. You like her? If the answer is yes... then what the hell are we 7 pages deep for? ASK HER OUT. What do you possibly have to lose? If she says no, she's leaving. Move on. If she says yes, welcome to dating a good looking girl. Edit - saw the update, well at least you made an attempt. Don't get down just because she had other plans, it actually can happy contrary to popular belief. Next time, make it a 'bit more up front about your intentions. You just gotta relax... like you said you're putting way too much pressure on yourself, as if this is the only female in this world and If she says no you're screwed. Hope it works out!
You've got to work on that confidence bro. If you like this girl or any other ones out there, just go up and ask them out. Forget all the BS internal dialogues that you are always fighting within yourself. This advice is not only pertaining to dating but all areas of life. The only way that you want to go through life is having cojones the size of Kim Kardashian's booty. Do it man, it's as simple as that. You will not regret it if you take this advice to heart. It serves me well all these years and I'm closed to sixty now.
I hear ya. I really don't struggle with confidence in any other part of my life, believe it or not. Only when it comes to dating. It's not like a fear of asking girls out or anything like that. I guess I'm just constantly wondering if I'm doing things right, or what the girl thinks about how I ask her out... Like i said above though, I'm working on it.
@JMAD21 I want to give you some serious advice. Go to a mall, park, restaurant, club, bar etc. and sit there for hours and take note of every attractive woman you see and mark down how many times you think the girl is with a guy that isn't "as good looking" as she is. You will be surprised at how often good looking women are with average or even ugly dudes. (And vice versa) Seriously, don't let the "out of my league" thought even enter your mind.
