So, I'm pretty much a laid back guy. Usually, I'm the most easy going person in the room. I've always been that way. Things just don't bother me like they should. It can be a detriment, really, but I don't mind it. I'm one of those guys that doesn't get upset, but when I do, look out. If I were to say it happened once a year, I might be overestimating it, to be honest. Some times people take advantage of this. And it still doesn't really bother me. But right now is that one time a year. There's a guy at work that has been going out of his way to bring any mistake that I make at work to the attention of my boss. Everyone at work knows what kind of guy he is. He's that catty female that you hate working with. He's been doing this for the three years that I've been where I'm at, and mind you, the mistakes don't happen that often, everyone makes them, including him, but I'm the only one he rattles on. The kicker is that they literally have nothing to do with the integral functions of my job. Thursday, he was working with the boss and purposefully waited until she was around to point this out. Then, Friday, I got an email from the boss that an anonymous co-worker had reported some mistakes I had made. Once again, not related to the integral functions of work. I had had enough. I stormed into the boss's office, flipped out. Made sure he could hear me. She calmed me down and told me it wasn't a big deal, but I told her I was going to confront him. I did. He backed down. Then proceeded to kiss my ass the rest of the afternoon to where my co-workers were nauseated by it. That's just the kind of guy he is. Well, he was off yesterday. I found four mistakes that he made, that are more important in our job. You can bet your sweet ass he's going to hear about them today. I'm not going to the boss. I'm going to just tell him about them man to man. In front of the co-workers. I want to watch him squirm because it's entertaining, and pretty much everyone is sick of his crap. He'll make up an excuse, because that's what he does. It'll just make him look worse. I've never been the kind of person not to get along with anyone. I don't think I've ever had a problem with a co-worker. For some reason, this guy just doesn't mesh. But you know what, having that kind of person hating on you is empowering. I never knew it. I've never experienced that. It makes me lift a little harder, run a little faster, and just in general makes me feel a little empowered. I kind of like it. I'm trying to use this as a personality boosting, positive overall experience, and that feels good, man. Let's see what happens. Worst case, I get shot. Lol. /Rant
Usually people like that don't last long. Not good commentary on your boss/employer that this little **** has hung around for 3 years. I had a similar although not as bad situation where someone was combing through my work and trying to find things. Although this person would then LOUDLY announce to everyone around something like "Ummmm Haymitch, are you going to do this thing? Because this thing is important. I know you might not think so, but it is important." Always some passive aggressive bs like that. Happened a few times until I just as loudly put her in her place. Also helped that my (/our) boss had my back, and that I'm the better employee.
Meh. I said something to him. He totally backed down like I knew he would. I was hopeful ng he would get very uncomfortable, to be honest. He did kiss my ass all morning, though. I waited till that was over before I said something.
I think this behaviour unfortunately rewarded under the "competitiveness" aspect's nature at work places , last year, our head of department in a hospital ( one of the great personal) , suffered traumatic brain injury . Can't think of any Consultant who didn't work 7:00 to 7:00pm for about 2 months aiming to be the next Head of the department replacement, many couldn't hide their disappointment when that guy showed up later perfectly healthy
Ive never understood the petty things some people will do to go out of their way to make someone else look bad. Some people just need a good ass whooping. How bad is their personal life that they do things like this. I think everybody has had a similar experience in the workplace and if you havent, maybe you are the scum that needs the ass whooping.
Do you guys work at a Jack in the Box down off 288? Because I've had it with those clowns. One day they forget the secret sauce. Another day I get regular fries instead of curly fries. They probably don't think these errors are integral to the function of the job. But, I beg to differ. Come on guys, get your act together. /Rant
The best thing to do is to tell an employee off right at the first instance something like that happens. Don't let them get any confidence or think they can get away with it at all. Most of the time People like that are punks and do it because they think no one will say ****.
Ask him to cook you a medium burger in the break room. If he serves it to you well done, then KILL HIM!!!
I am very much like you. I'm a pretty big dude but I'm all about non-violence. I don't like confrontational situations. My brain doesn't process the feelings of other people quickly enough to have arguments. I need time to process and think. I put up with abuse from a "coworker" for about 3 years. I just didn't really have time for his BS so I just said whatever I could to amuse him so he would leave me alone. Most of the time he was just annoying, not abusive. He didn't do this to just me either, he pretty much annoyed and constantly verbally abused everyone else in the office too. There were 4-5 instances where he got belligerent and yelled at me for things I hadn't even done. I reported it to management and they "handled" it. The thing is, this guy is family to ownership so there is nothing I can do to actually get him in trouble. He knows he is family so he treated the office like his personal hangout where he could do and say as he pleased. One day I just had enough. He started getting in my face telling me I had tried to setup a deal behind his back, when in reality the owner came to me directly and told me to close the deal WITHOUT THIS GUY INVOLVED IN IT. I told him "Sure, but you're gonna have to let him know at some point or else he's gonna go off on me". They did nothing of course so Monday morning, guy finds out and starts laying into me about how I went behind his back. I went off on his ass. The owner and manager of the company were standing right by us while it happened and they were stunned to see me pushed to my limit. They had seen me deal with the same situation for 3 years and never lose my cool or raise my voice. I got right up in his face and told him what was what. I was fuming. I basically told him I was ****ing sick of having to babysit his fragile ego when he doesn't get included in something, and that he was making it impossible to my job and that he needs to stop acting like a teenage girl. Now despite all of this, I don't hate the guy. He was a very peculiar person and I think he was just honestly bored at home so he came into his family's business just to amuse himself. There are just some times when you've had enough and you gotta show people that you aren't always going to be a pushover.
Sounds very much like me. Haha. I usually just let things go until I have enough and then once the flip switches, it's on like Donkey Kong. The flip has switched very few times in my life, though.
