Go for it. You're 19. You'll live. Screw it. What a bunch of nannies you guys are. Go knit me a sweater. You've got a Clash user handle for god's sake! Take a chance.
I guess it depends on the situation. I have been dating a girl I met at work for 4 years, although she works in a different department. As long as you handle it like adults I dont see any problems as long as you are discreet and do not act like "love-birds" at work.
I agree with ROCKSS. I couldn't have done it at 19, but if you're both mature enough to handle it maturely, it can be done. Many people meet their soulmates at work ... why make a 'rule' to not date coworkers? Because it can get tough? Who said dating should be without risk and painless? That doesn't mean to jump in a vat of boiling oil. E.g., if she seems moody, is the boss's daughter, and the last 3 guys who went out with her were never seen again....don't do it, but IMO it's silly to to make hard-and-fast 'rules' when it comes to dating.
What ROCKSS and Cohen said. I have had experience doing this and it can make for a sticky situation. You also have to make sure that your company doesn't frown on this as a lot of companies do. If you work in different departments or different buildings and you KNOW that you won't run into her every day, then I would do it. However, if you know that you will see her every day because she sits in the cubicle next to you then you might want to re-consider. Because it is an awkward feeling to be around someone that dumped you or you dumped them.
Oh my god people!! hes 19 19 frekin years old. its just a job as he said, and it is not at all like it has the severity of career implications. not only will I tell you to go for it, I will tell you why, and how to go about it. why go for it? because statisticly the workplace is the most common place to meet your wife. the next closest is through friends. You can get a better job if you loose yours. She is the only one that you should worry about. how to go for it. there are 2 i came up with. one of them is not realistic, but it would require you to be extremely ballsy and well pretty much put everything on the line all at once. walk up the the rep, make sure female is near by. and ask clearly and directly for all to hear. " Excuse me Representative Smith" "yes london" " I was wondering your polocy on office dating? because I was seriously concidering asking suzie out" sure Suzie would be embarassed, but no one can get fired for asking the rules. and she also knows you are interested, and the embarassment is also proof she is flattered. a little known rule is that every woman is flattered when someone shown intrest. as long as the intrest in genuine, and not Psycho. As long as the interested party is not completely disgusting to the woman. now a more likely approach. Just bring this up to her one day at an appropriate time when you two are talking. say something like this " look, I am reallyinterested in you, but i have been afraid to say or do anything about it. see i know you really want this recomendation and i dont wast to risk your recomendation. to me this is a job, and i dont mind so much losing my job for something worth while, but this recomendation could be big for you right? I dont know I guess I am gettin ahead of myself. I guess I am trying to say i am interested in you, and hope you are interested in me, but Im worried about doing anything to jeapordise your recomendation." i prefer bold and brazen, but whatever. now that was fun.
You said the job comes before her, and her job is important to her as well. So I don't see a point going for her. Of course, if your job comes after a potential romantic relationship, then why not? The most big deal is to quit your job and still get to shag her.
