About to drive out to my bio Dad's house and literally kick his front door in

Talk to her. Don't talk to us.

I hate my dad, too. And he's not just my "bio" dad, in your explanation. I lived with the mother f1cker all my life while he was raping my sisters. (I kinda knew, but was too young to know. I learned later...weird how memories work that way. I don't remember anything prior to age 6)

That ******* was one of the ruling kings of my small town. I never wanted to hit him though, I was the youngest. I don't know. But I wanted to hit something.

I wanted to protect.

Do you want to protect? Or do you want revenge?

 

He posted in the first post that he has kids.

 

Chill brother. I wanted to explode many times, too.

you're not alone

 

thanks to heypee for coming in this thread

 

You have kids. Your duty is to show them a good example and NOT be like your bio father. Be careful now.

 

I was providing broader perspective in the midst of what seemed to be an urgent and dangerous situation with genuinely self-damaging choices stemming from a sense of moral outrage. Your initial (and continuing) foul insults and disruptive quibbling about phraseology certainly didn't contribute anything.

 

Go be with your wife and kids bro, do what he couldn't and be a real man. Enjoy your real family because its all you got, go cuddle your wife and hangout with your kids tomorrow.

 

I don't understand why you can't sober up, wait till its at least daylight, then go over there and ring the doorbell and have a conversation?

 

I like your sense of fight. **** it. Go for it. But I've been drinking to.

More sober heads might say it's not worth it. They might even say it validates his behavior if you act this way.

I say kick the assholes door in. Give it to him. Then give us photos. That would be AWESOME.

Or maybe not. Not sure what you want from your life. Honestly, doesn't sound like much to let this SOB work you up like this.

You might be better off studying acting, getting an agent, winning and Oscar, and flipping your dad the bird as you give your acceptance speech.

I work all night. The sun is just coming up. Thanks for letting us into your drama. Good way to end the night.

 

What I would like to know is what does he owe you?

Think about this, lots of people have it worse. There are kids who have worked to support their families because their parents didn't make enough or didn't know how to spend the money wisely.

Be thankful he got out of your life at a young age instead of intoxicating it with his lifestyle.

 

Don't do it OP. It won't help you at all. But, if you do, post pics.

 

You should see that all this hate is hurting you...not him. And personally I don't see where's he's worth it.

You have a good life in spite of him. Focus more on returning the kindness to the people that helped you and love you. Stretch it out even and help those you don't know because who knows what that act of kindness will do to change that life (though expect nothing - it's a gift).

Also you might want to talk to someone - a neutral party counselor type because this seems to have been eating at you for years. If you want closure, this beats kicking in the door every time.

 

Try to forgive and move on. It's for your own good.

 

You should periscope it.

 

Both of my parents have been gone for years. Think of the opportunity you still have here.

Take a step back.

He is at the age where will be starting to feel his looming mortality. You may be surprised to find that he could possibly be open to meeting and getting to know you now. Maybe even willing to make an effort to try to make amends for something which has clearly hurt you throughout your life more than you knew. To make a connection with something which is grounding, which makes us feel like a part of ourselves will live on after we are gone.

I mean look at yourself - you find out his address, and then by 4am you are drunk and threatening to kick his door in and demand.. what? 'Stuff'? Is THAT what you were missing? Toys? Come on.

Sober up, be mature, and call him back and apologize, tell him you were overwhelmed when you learned about how to contact him, and you would like to meet.

Give a sensible approach a chance, at least. You will certainly, as the saying goes, catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.

 

Why do you need restitution if both you and your wife have proper jobs and doing well for yourselves? In the end nobody owes you jack. Not the government, not your parents, not even your wife. It's all on you to make what you want out of this world.