For me, her happiness is worth it. I'm committed to her for the long-term and don't want to be with anyone else. If stating those feelings out load during a ceremony with her friends and family around makes her feel more secure or comfortable in the relationship then I'm willing to do that. I'm not into traditions or customs so marriage is just one thing on a list of things people do "just because" that are think are completely r****ded. A smaller but still relevant factor is the social aspect. Married people/couples are accepted more in society.
You're so right about her feelings in this, I believe that sometimes when men are hesitant to get married it is because they aren't sure that this is the one woman they want to be with forever. In this case, I truly believe for her you shouldn't get married... I want someone who feels like the luckiest man on earth that he gets to see my face every day that he is alive... if you aren't sure you'll feel that way forever please please don't get married! Otherwise, lock it up and marry the girl because if she wants it and you know you don't want to look at another woman for the rest of your life then you're just setting up the opportunity for another man to walk into her life.
Damn, sounds like it's business transaction and you really don't want to get married...IMHO, don't do it if you're only doing it to shut her up and having people ask questions...and I've never understood keeping money seperate...Plus the $$$ it takes for a ceremony's is ridiculous...a complete waste...love isn't about money, or at least it's not suppose to be... Agreed...i want someone who thinks of me all the time, wants to be together and visa versa...someone who smiles when they see my name on their phone... But, I've been married, thought it was forever, but for many reasons, it wasn't...In today's society, we are programmed to get married, have 2.5 kids and live in a house happily every after...But the reality is, people evolve and their tastes change...the type of person you liked in your teens, 20's, 30's change and that's why people give up...it's easy to walk away nowadays...just look around the grocery store, mall, you can see how unhappy people are...it's sad... I'm open to the idea of getting married again, but only with the right person, as I don't want to grow old alone...who does? IMHO, people should get married because they can't live without that person, complete each others sentances and have a physical and spiritual connection...but that's just me...
Initially. Later offset by 2+ kids. No expert on this obviously. My thing in all relationship, marriage and child matters is not so much the beneficial interpersonal parts of marriage, thats almost a given. Its the exit strategies directly. Not all women want to be a career type. Some want the traditional housewife role and thats great, probably need more of that and they need to be taken care of with financial support. Its the modern women claiming self sufficiency (not needing men). And they claim financial dependence (not needing men). So since they make their own wages, why do women need so much on the breakup with divorce, alimony and child support? (which comes from men's wages?) With all these advances for women, have they done any readjusting of rates? If I'm supposed to be the guy that recognizes, honors and respects the modern woman at the START, she should be that modern woman at the END too. I'm not with the idea that women are Too Big To Fail. I'm not willing to bail them out because of love we haD. Thats all I ask really.
For me getting married was a promise to always love and support each other. It's hard work, but pays off pretty big.
