Ok so when in doubt, post on clutchfans. I just kinda wanna vent a little bit. There is this one girl in my class that I noticed since the first day that I got there. Last week, I walked with her out of the building and we were talking and it was about lunch time so i wanted to ask her out to lunch. I punked out and didnt ask her. then i promised myself i would ask her next time. sure enough next time i asked her and she said yes. we had a great lunch and she is awesome. but i forgot to get her number. which was stupid. anyway i told myself today that i would ask her out this weekend and get her number. the problem was that i didnt get a chance to talk to her, i was hoping we would walk out together again but that didnt happen, she just stayed back and went another way after class. she was walking with some guy (who could be nothing more than her friend) im just beating myself up about this and i wont see her again until next week. i feel like i messed up a chance to ask her out. i know i can probably redeem myself next week but i know that i will be thinking about this all weekend. what if it gets a little awkward after? should i be this bummed?
The guy she was walking with might just be a friend. Ask her out again. No risk, no reward. The worst thing that can happen is that she says no. Then you form a band, start playing gigs, and meeting all kinds of women!
if 1st you dont succeed, then try again. chances are if she accepted lunch, she should accept the other...
It may work to your advantage...not asking for her number so soon. Rushing it isnt always the best, it comes across as desperate. Remember what yall talked about or common interests. Plan something along those lines for this weekend (or next) and next time you see her non-chalantly ask her, before yall part ways, if she'd like to go.
Absolutely ask her, especially since you already have an in. I missed a chance to at least tell a girl my situation which will probably screw any chance I had. At the TCU/UT game, my buddy and I started talking to this girl behind us whose friends had gone to the alumni center at halftime. We ended up talking the entire second half. Come to find out, her childhood best friend is a good friend of mine that was in my wedding. Her mom and his mom are best friends. We talked about that for quite a bit and when I left I gave her my number since I didn't have my cell phone charged and we didn't have a pen. Fast forward nearly three weeks and no word. I'm guessing she called her mom, who told Corey's mom who responded, "isn't he married?". I would've asked my friend to tell her, but she was having cancer surgery last week and didn't want to bother her with high school **** like that. It'll be interesting to see what happens Saturday. It sucks because she's cute, a doctor and loves UT football. Regardless, ask her again. Rejection only stings for a minute and you can always joke about it later. What sucks is seeing or knowing a great girl and not saying anything because you're a wuss. It's been a problem of mine for my whole single life.
just do it. i have one "regret" in my life, and that was not making a move on the girl i've been infatuated with since high school. she practically begged me on several occasions, but i hesitated because she was seeing someone else (who lived in a different city). i moved away, she's been with the same guy for almost a year and a half... that's what i like to call a "bad move of a lifetime." so just do it.
Wise words from the Butthole Surfers... "It's better to regret something you did, than something you didn't do."
No question about it. You'll regret chances passed up more than you will those you took that didn't work out.
wreck, I've been there and done that. It sucks - wondering when is the right time to ask a girl for her number. You don't want to ask too soon because it looks bad on your part but at the same time, you never know if you will get another opportunity to have that chance. As someone who's been through this **** too many times to remember, ask her for her number the next time you see her. The worse she can say is no or I have a boyfriend. For some reason, rejection is tough for a guy (well at least for me) but looking back at it, it's not that big of a deal. I guess I can say that now comfortably because I will never have to worry about that again. But really it is not the end of the world if you get rejected. The sun will still come up the next morning. Good luck.
It seems to me that in this day and age, all you youngsters and oldsters want to do is "ask for the girl's number" 'cuz that's the cliché and everyone carries a cell phone. Don't you WAIT until she says something to want to give you her number, instead of you asking for it? Why does everyone want to ask for a number, like that's going to go into the trophy case? I almost wanted to do a , but a is more appropriate here. Don't beat yourself up over it. Ask for the number, but... Just don't seem so desperate in asking for her number... don't just say: "Can I have your number?"... work it in so that you don't sound so desperate... "Can I call you some time?" or "Maybe we can exchange numbers so we can give each other a call in case we miss a class or we have to study together?" With this last one, at least she still thinks you're interested in improving your education, and not just trying to get into her pants.
from the conversation i had with her it didnt seem like she had a bf, but you guys are right, i was just feeling bummed because i put so much thought into it. also from the conversation it seems like she parties but not too much and she seems to take relationships seriously. for a long time ever since high school i have been the no commit type because i dont want to end up with someone without the same goals as me. but we have similar goals. i think we can have "potential". i have also let a lot of oportunities get away and thats why i may be taking it so bad. but you guys sure did cheer me up! that was the pep talk i really needed.
Impress her by talking like Yoda: "Go out, want to?" "Numbers, may I have?" She will think you are wise beyond your years.
i agree with you that it is a cliche so i had something like "i was wondering if you wanted to hang out this weekend" i want to make sure that i am forward about it. she is really friendly and makes friends easily, so i want to make it obvious that im interested in being more, otherwise i will fall in the friend zone.
