(1) You interrupted her three times. That's ridiculously rude and childish. (2) She's trying to communicate her feelings to you and you keep cutting her off. (3) Your tone sounds demeaning. I would suggest.... (a) keep your mouth shut and let her finish what she's trying to say (b) try to understand that your actions have made her upset or unhappy about something. (c) Don't make her feel like you don't care about what she's saying (d) When she's finished, say simply and sincerely, "Okay. I'll make an effort to remember to take out the trash more regularly." (e) Make an effort to remember to take out the trash more regularly. (f) be happy that something so simple can make her life a little more enjoyable.l
Agree. I was going to post similar stuff, but I didnt think the OP was really looking for solutions... And I didnt want to come off all "expert on women's needs", being that I'm mostly clueless myself. I've been in a roommate situation cleaning up after everyone else's selfish sloppity asses. After keeping my mouth shut about it for a while, when I finally voiced up YEAH I had more to say than just "your turn". As much as it pains me to say it, I can understand where the woman is coming from on this....
That's sound advice, and a kick in the pants when laid out so simply. It is rude to cut someone off. I'm a proponent of the Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, and one of the things it teaches you is how to listen. I've certainly gotten away from that. Based on the 7 habits, I would add to (d) a basic synopsis of what she said, and then what you said. Thanks, Droxford. And everyone else who posted, even if you got a bit snippy.
Bwa haha hahaha !!! I got this one tonight, Xerobull, and thought of you! her: "Is that dish...?.... that dish isn't microwave safe!" me: "I've used it in there before with no problems" she grumpily looks at the underside of an identical dish. her: "It just says it's dishwasher safe. It doesn't say that it's microwave save. I'd appreciate it if you wouldn't use these dishes in the microwave again. We have these glass dishes down here, use those. me (after patiently listening to her): "....... umm... okay."
