Best of luck to all. I can't tell you guys how timely this thread is for me. This site rocks. You guys rock!
http://www.survive-divorce.com/save_your_marriage_home.htm or: http://www.fal.net/content/divorce.html or: http://www.roulettestudios.com/illustration_pages/pages/divorceLarge.html
So sorry, MB... what an awful situation. It's got to be a lot to deal with at once. Good luck getting your kids back... I can't imagine how you must miss them, and I'm sure they miss you just as much. Prayers...
i'm very sorry for you MB. that must be a unbelievable situatin. no body should have to experience that. good luck and be strong, i know you wil get your kids back.
since you guys are all expressing symphaties and well wishes, i'd just like to add during christmas i broke the hell out of my right leg on a ski run. it really hurts
Man, I'm real sorry to hear that, MB. I really hate hearing stories like that. It's a damn shame that fathers always get screwed in the courts when it comes to the children. You and your family will be in my thoughts. Be strong.
wow this thread has gone from bad to worse. MB - Good luck with your wife (soon to be x) and the kids. Isabel - Best of luck trying to work it out. Sometimes guys can come around if they know what is desired. Jeff - I said it before but best of luck to both you and Mrs.JB. It sounds like you both thought it through and determined this is best.
Hey, at least everyone is distracted by MB's story now and not asking you extremely personal questions anymore.
Damn, I feel more sorrier for MB... That is tough, but unfortunately, even though she's the mother of your kids, women get very controlling and vindictive in divorce cases...Its just a fact and I've been through it... Sometimes your like, damn, I've shared my life and soul with this person, now I don't even know her...It's apart of the process and you'll get your kids back, but it may take some time... A question, was this before you guys filed for divorce...If so, you wouldn't have agreed to visitation and now its up to her to prove what she did is best for the children, as the court looks at that, not how bad you guys were as a couple... Good look and you'll be in my prayers...
In 1991 I gave my now-ex-wife 2/3rds interest (1/3 hers and 1/3 the children's) in our nice family home in a historic district just outside of our downtown area. I wanted them to be able to stayi in that neighborhood with our friends even though she had never paid a dime for the house as I was putting her through undergraduate and graduate school. A year later, she gives me 3 days notice that she has a job offer which she needs to respond to that would involve her moving an hour a way. She "promises" me that she will only stay two years and then she will move back "home." Ha! A year later she buys a house in the new locale and sells our family home that I had paid for with my money. That was 12+ years ago. <b>Don't let her get away with anything, MB. Don't be sentinmental now because events may make that choice regrettable as they did with me.</b> I spent 10-12 years of my children's school years driving an hour over and back to see a school play or a volleyball game. It was impractical to have them overnight during the week. I got them half the time they were not in school, but their lives are there not here. That will never go away. Thanks for allowing me to vent. I'm sorry for your troubles MB and I'm hoping that Jeff and Mrs.JB can continue with the friendly dissolution of their partnership.
Um...this thread is kind of ruining my faith in marraige as an institution. Can someone please post something to balance it out?
I'm getting married on the 18th of June and we're doing a cocelebration with my fiance's parents who have been together for 50 years (they got married the exact same day 50 years ago) and never had a fight, raising 14 kids (I get the youngest!)
I know exactly what you are saying. I dont know her and I never thought the things she that is doing right now were possible. I spent the weekend at the house with her and the kids the weekend of December 4,5. We talked about things and said that we should go to counseling and possibly work things out. I said that I didnt want to move back in until I felt everything was resolved. We made love to each other and I left Sunday night only because I didnt have any clothes for work on Monday. I talked to her Monday and everything seemed fine. Tuesday I couldnt get a hold of her all day. Finally that night, worried something was wrong, I go to the house to check on them and my house is completely empty. No hi, bye, kiss my ass. I didnt get to even say goodbye to my babies. I went to my lawyer and filed for divorce and custody of my kids the next day on Wednesday. She claims she was under durress and had to leave because she had no support. She had our home, everything we owned, our children, all of our money, I paid all of the bills, and I gave her 25% of my paycheck so she would have spending money on top of what was in our accounts. I came to see her and the kids multiple times a week and spent a couple of weekends there at the house. I continually asked her to find us a counselor so that we could possibly work it out. She didnt have to work and I told her to not even look until after the New Year because I know how the job market is. I told her that I was not going to file for divorce until I felt we had persued every avenue of reconciliation. I didnt even stop wearing my wedding ring. I dont feel like I did anything wrong, I just didnt want to be with her for reasons that I dont care to get into. Now she has filed for divorce in Chicago and we are having to fight over jurisdiction. We lived in Indy for about a year while I was on contract (being paid per diem) and then for about 6 months in Charlotte while on contract (also being paid per diem). We never changed our TDL, our license plates, or our voter registration. We knew we would come back to Texas eventually as it is our home. My lawyer says that we are still Texas residents because of this. I even bought a Jet Ski while in Indy and had the trailer registered and plated in Texas. I also have a chat session where she explains that she will come back to Texas. Well whats the point in doing this in Chicago then? Everytime something happens we would have to go to court up north. She told me the other day that she knows she can get more money from Illinois than she can from Texas. Unfortunately that is before I started logging our chat sessions. Its all ridiculous and pointless. I told her that I would be more than fair if she came back. I wouldnt fight custody, I would help her get on her feet, I would pay her the max child support, and I would give her pretty much anything she wanted of ours. I would want her and my kids to be comfortable. I make enough money to replace things so I dont really care. Anyway, thats the short version of it I guess. I just feel like I'm getting ****ed in the ass over something I didnt do. She did this to us, not me. Its all very sad and my kids are the ones paying the penalty.
