Divorce = Quitting Oh, wait... some people have said that Jordan is the greatest of all time... GREATEST QUITTER (x3)... hence divorcee, cheater, liar, gambler, etc. Not EVERYONE who divorces is those adjectives. Just Quitter-MJ
That's where the problem starts, because people are a product of their society, and society deems marriage as a supernatural act. Marriage is an unnatural act.
I've been with my wife for 14 years and couldn't be happier. It's nothing like the strain endured through the previous 'wrong' relationships.
MB: If she wants to file in Illinois, she would have to prove she lived there for 6 months prior. If you filed for divorce in Tx first, she really doesn't have a case. I've been through this before. I tried to be fair, and got raped due to it. As much as it sucks, if she wants to fight, you have to be just as calous towards her. Once everything is settled, then the healing can begin. Just don't start conceding things because you want to be fair. It was the biggest mistake I made during my divorce.
Drummer - My wife and I are happier now than ever before. Married 5.5 years. together 13 years. 2 great kids (one girl and one boy), a nice house in the Heights, a Dog, a Cat and more debt than I care to mention. Oh well it can't all be perfect can it. Marriage is not something that should be rushed into. It takes work and you have to always be aware of the needs of those around you. In my house my needs come last. Thats not to say I don't have wants or needs but if I'm taking care of things I come last. Fortunatly my wife feels the same way so we are always putting others before ourselves. My parents divorced when I was 7. With the hell they put me through I never thought I'd get married. When I met my wife we had numerous discussions about everything that marriage involves. She knows I'll never cheat, leave, or be without my kids. She knows that if she flakes out and wants to cheat or leave she is doing so without our children. My kids are priority #1 and my marriage is #1.5. Luckily she is as committed to our family as I am. Master Baiter - Man my heart goes out to you and your family. Best of luck. I can't imagine being without my kids. NO WAY!
i never thought reading the bbs would put a tear to my eyes, but it did. i have to say good luck to all of y'all out there. divorces seem bad as it is, but nasty ones are worse. i've never been married, but watching the way my parents interact and hearing stories like these, i'm not looking forward to it. i guess we just gotta find the right one-it's just so hard to know. my mom's advice has always been to wait several yrs before having kids. they always complicate things. best of luck!!
My wife and I have been together for 7 years and married for 1. We love each other and are best friends and we’ll probably live happily ever after…. Of course based on this thread, our marriage will be in the crapper in about 10 years.
Actually, this has been one of the best years for me, musically, in a long time, which played no role in my divorce. My wife was always supportive of my musical aspirations.
I haven't read this whole thread but I agree with this sentimet. I argue with Jeff sometimes but I do sort of look to him as a role model because he seems so involved in the community and he seems to really enjoy life with his music and everything. I really hardly ever post in these "personl lives" threads, good or bad, but even though I've never met Jeff or his wife, they seem like neighbors because they've both posted on here. I really wish the best for both of you guys and I hope this turns out to be the right move.
Wow - that sucks. Or not (i guess since you want it). Real sorry to hear that, Jeff. While it might be the right move long term, I'm sure its hard. Best of luck to you both... Now go have a cigarette, a beer, and a bacon double cheeseburger.
She is saying that she had to move to Illinois because I abandoned her and that it was under duress. I dont agree. If she drags this out then I'm going after everything. If she wants to be civil then I will as well. I've extended the olive branch only to get it repeatedly thrown back in my face. I guess we will have to see what happens on Thursday.
Go for everything the law allows as she is obviously trying to play you. Stay civil, but don't make concessions that will come back to haunt you. I've seen it quite a few times, and I don't want it to happen to you...
I was just watching Chris Rock's Bring The Pain...two words...prenuptial agreement I love Chris Rock but not in that way. ...be like I take care of my kids, you're supposed to you ignorant *** mfer
My parents celebrated their 39th wedding anniversary this past December 29th. If they can stay together that long, I get the feeling anyone can! [size=1/2]That is more of a dig at my father, but we are getting along better now....honest![/size]
You know guys, a lot of the married couples out there aren't together out of happiness. -Fear of being alone -Kids -Worrying about what others think of a divorced person -Not wanting to ruin their facade -Financial stability -Uncomfortable with the unknown Just because they are together, doesn't mean they are happy. You'd be amazed by how many people accept their fates and embrace the status quo. With all that said, I'm sure there are some couples out there who are truly happy. If you want to believe you are one of these couples, then well, I'm so happy for you.
