For a wife, I'd say you should be pissed. For a girlfriend, unless you're essentially common-law, I'm not sure she owes you that. So, I advise you be only mildly pissed.
This is corollary 1. Now learn corollary #2 below, and you are well on your way to sanity and healthy relationships. While at most 2 things are enough to keep most guys happy, it is impossible not to ___up with the female species. Realize much if not most of the b****ing/negativity has nothing to do with you personally, they are expectations no human could achieve (including her if things were flipped around). The few things that have some merit, and you have to be the judge of that, well you might want to work on/try to change. Bottom line, encourage her freedom, toughen up your skin (remember the above corollaries), and not worry about.