The highlighted areas stand out to me. Listen, I was in a 20 year relationship and it ended, because I was trying too hard to make her understand me. Deep down inside, I wasn't very happy and I could look for fault in others and she was convenient. I don't know how old you are, but if you are my age, then you might want to look at yourself. There are tons of ways to do it. If you ever ask yourself this one question, the problem is not them it's you. Why doesn't people understand me? People will never understand you as much as you. The sooner you accept that, the better off you will be. Also... Don't point the finger at her, because she doesn't have to give you the time of day, if she doesn't want to. I suggest to lower your expectations and remind yourself what it is about her that excites you. Do this everyday in your relationship. Respect her and allow her to stay herself. If she changed for you, you would be dating her. You would be dating you. Trust me, you don't want to date yourself. People also respond to love in different ways. Some people like when you do things for them. Some are affectionate. Some like communication. Find out how she wants to be loved. And read the prayer of St. Francis. Good luck.
Women...Maybe she just wants to be in control and her way of dealing with it is to slow things down on her terms...She may have been setting up the dates, but in the end, if she doesn't want to spend as much time together, its her decision... Then again, maybe she's not that into you...meaning, she likes hanging out, but long-term, she's looking for something else... That is all too true...
Next time she says she wants space or to take things slow, just smirk and say "Fine by me..." She will immediately think that either you have interest in another girl or one has interest in you. POWER PERCEIVED IS POWER ACHIEVED
Was there really any "right" thing you could have said to her? She knows the purpose behind what you said. You knew you werent being offensive and unfair. Don't fall for the shaming technique of making it look like you approached it wrong. Hold your ground the Daryl Morey way. No fights, no ugliness necessary, no haste. You stated what you want. Lay out the terms again if necessary. If you have to lay out a little ultimatum to drive down her value, whatever. And don't waver one BIT. I don't think much of if any "compromise" should take place in anything. That does NOT mean be a jerk or be all hardcore. Just means the person you are today is pretty much the person you'll be later on. It leads to more problems later on portraying the type of person you're supposed to be for her, telling her what she wants to hear, if its really not you.
