Parents usually give up on discipline when they have a young child after raising a couple into adulthood. My mom is the same way with my little sister; after raising me and my older sister with an iron hand/leather belt, she lets my little sis do some pretty knuckle head ****. Best thing to do is tell your sis couple words of wisdom and keep it moving; don't dwell on your upbringing and tell her that it wasn't like that when you were growing up, it don't work, brick wall. Don't try to discipline/keep tabs on her either because that's just going to frustrate you, real talk.
Sorry for the confusion, I just haven't updated my profile in a long while. I never talk about my upbringing, she pretty much knows how it was. When I talk to her, I always focus on her and how what she's doing now will affect her in the future. I'm very concerned because she is one fight away from facing a felony, I'm fairly certain she is sexually active and is not on birth control, and 4 of my older sisters were teenage mothers, so the chances are pretty high for her as it is. She's home now. She said that her phone is "messed up", yet she was able to text me that she was on her way home. I had the same problem over the weekend when I tried to call her. I informed my mother and advised that she not be let out without a functioning phone. Apparently, she hasn't taken my advice.
I would make her take birth control if what your saying about your family history is true. Just sayinnnn....
I would sugggest taking her to Planned Parenthood and get her on birth control. This is something they handle very well. It'll be a little awkward for both of you, but far better than finding out she's pregnant or has herpes (or worse). Tell her if she's going to pretend that she's a grownup, then it's time to handle the things that grownups have to handle, and one of those is birth control. Good luck!
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Option A Spoiler Sit down tell her what she needs to watch out for, what the consequences are, and most importantly tell her your going out of your way cause you care and love her. Option B Spoiler If she doesn't want to listen to you just tell her to not cry to you whenever she ends up ****ing up. She sounds hard headed, so I'm guessing she's just pushing till everything comes back and shoves her on her ass. Sad, but sometimes the hard way is the only way to learn. Option C Spoiler Go tell your parents she's a walking holiday, having sex and using drugs. I'm sure that will get your parents attention. Maybe I'm wrong? Option D Spoiler beat her ****ing ass damn it!!! I'd go with option D. Spoiler I ****** her brains out Spoiler jk jk.... lol
I've offered, insisted, and insisted my mother take her, but she always refuses. I really feel helpless when it comes to her.
This is a stupid, naive comment that is meant to be helpful. Since there's NO way your sister is going to let you be an effective authority figure, why don't you find a way to let this go? If she's headed the wrong way, she'll do that whether you drive yourself crazy or not, right? I guess that is too defeatist. I never had a sister. Female friends I've known in your shoes end up making themselves miserable, and still find themselves incredibly young aunts. Maybe you're so into your sister's case because you wish your mom had been more of a mom and you're trying to show her what a real mom does. Could be more about your mom than your sister, is all I'm saying. Amateur Psych stuff, but often true.
Has your mother offered to take her? Actually asked if she would go with her? My guess is that your sister would be far more likely to go with you, but it sounds like she's walling you and everyone else off. This is tough. I took some girlfriends to PP many years ago, thank goodness. Maybe a boyfriend, if he insisted, would be someone she'd be willing to go with, but how you could nudge that along is a mystery to me.
