manny's thread kinda made me think about this since a lot of people mentioned foreign places in the places that they'd like to move to. i mentioned a few international destinations that i had visited and fell absolutely in love with them. the difference in lifestyle and culture... not the museums or other visitor attractions... fascinated me the most. well, it's been about four months since moving back here to houston (mo city/sugarland area anyway) and i'm still getting settled in nevertheless. i've been out a few times alone to try to meet people and i have, but i've met someone that i have a crush on. this person is exactly my type physically, but i'm still getting to know this person mentally... and what i've learned of him so far i like. a really, really big plus about the guy is that he's from scotland and his accent is... well... so ridiculously goofy that i find it his most attractive feature. sooooo... we've gone out for a beer a couple of times and since then he's gone back home to visit the folks, but now he's back and he's calling me and calling me and calling me. the thing is is that despite being here, again, for four months i'm still not settled in yet and trying desperately to get back on my feet as quickly as possible. part of me wants to be selfish because i'm tired of my not having someone to wake up with in the morning and eat my frosted mini wheats with, but the other part of me thinks that it's not fair to put someone in that position of having to deal with my stress as well as any that he's already bearing, so... i haven't called back. eventually i will (probably later today before the rox/faker game) and i'll give him the reasoning behind me not being ready. maybe i can come to accept the fact that i'm not ready for anything serious and just deal with the loneliness a tad bit longer. hopefully a friendship will come about (although i probably wouldn't be able to stand it) or maybe he won't give a schit and will want to continue dating anyway. question of the thread is... have any of you wanted another person, but knew that you weren't ready or knew that that person didn't want you? c'mon... make me feel better. sharing is caring. /juicy fruit commerical
Yes... I really like this girl. At first I thought she like me too, but then I soon realize she doesn't really want me or she's not ready and never will be. I have been trying to do anything to change her mind, but I have been starting to believe that it'll never happen. Anyhow, it has been like 4 or 5 years now, and we still see each other almost everyday, because she is kind of dependent on me to help her out on things. But it just get really hard, when you know that person dosen't really like you, at lesat not the way you want it to me. It also gets difficult around times like valentine day, when I really want to have a real lover and some meaningful relationship. I am really kind of tired of this and ready to move on, maybe in the summer, go somewhere else and do something else. Maybe sometimes so-called determination is nothing more than stubborness. And if I just take a step back, I can find a whole new world out there for me.
definitely know what you mean here. phugging sucks being alone on vday. i remember my church group in atlanta did this thing where everybody sent valentines to themselves (ex: valentine from me to me). basically you had to write something in there that you liked about yourself. kinda depressing in a way, but at least you got something if you weren't attached. by the way... cool quote.
I know Winona Ryder doesn't yet realize she wants to be with me. But it's only a matter of time before she comes around.
Yes, but the other person didn't want me option, not the I wasn't ready option. On a related note, I have also been the person who was not interested, but I wasn't up front about it. Even though it was a long time ago, I regret the way I handled it.
yeah and they give you a load of **** about they like to have someone with more experience and then they slum around with a spazz who doesn't know the difference between kissing and performing CPR.
here's my checklist: wanted someone but that person wasn't interested - check. been the one who wasn't interested - check. come to regret it later (the not being interested) - check. wanted someone but that person wasn't interested, at least not seriously, but played along to see if he could "get something" from me - check. (twice ) wanted someone but not been free to do anything about it - check. committed to someone when it was a bad idea - check. Learned the true meaning of "be careful what you wish for, you just might get it" - check. I don't normally post in relationship threads because I obviously must not understand a thing about them. Except what not to do. (<b>pchan</b> - by the way - go out and have a good time. You've been going nowhere with this girl for far too long. She's taken advantage of your friendship anyway.)
isabel i think we need to get together or something. i mean... your single... i'm single, you've had your bad relationships... i have too, you eat leftovers although they're eight months old... and i like to cook (won't eat leftovers after two days unless it's some kind of soup, spaghetti sauce, or something where it tastes better when the spices have time to soak in). whudyathink?
"We have just witnessed a turning point in HISTORY!!!!" Have we? Been there, done that, moved on, got married, happy as pie.
I don't know why I always thought you were only 14...is there a poster with a similar name that is 14, or 15 now?! By the way, I know how it is to have a weird sleeping rhythm...not very healthy in the longer term, going to bed at 6 or 7 a.m. in the morning!
A) I think there is a "Rokkit" and a "rockit" and maybe more... I'm 31. Probably just my immature ranting at JVG! B) I've had some migraines lately during the day, and napping to make them go away in the late afternoon - early evening ruins my sleeping patterns. I'm kinda outta work right now, so I tend to only sleep in prep for apppointments... I know it's a bad habit I must break. Thanks for the concern. What time is it where you are?
It's 2 p.m. now, and I went to bed at 6:30 a.m., had to follow the Rockets vs. Lakers game. Too bad I got kicked out of bed at 9:30 a.m.... But since I am not working right now (only finishing my thesis), I also have very weird sleeping patterns.
7 hours ahead, huh? Cooky. Great game though from what I've read... I have no cable or dish. OS - sorry for the derail.
OS, I am pretty sure that our favorite Hurricane, er Isabel, is married unless something happened recently.
yep, still married. There seems to be some sort of taboo in our society, though. People thinking marriage is all sweetness and light and happily ever after endings. And it's not, always. Unfortunately, right now I'm not sure how much I can take of this person. The people who know about me wouldn't blame me if I left... still, I try to be careful. I don't have one of those really good reasons (like him cheating or hitting me). And you always have to remember that whatever you do affects somebody else... and you might be kicking them when they're down. Bad relationships suck up a lot of your time and energy. Even when you're trying to work your way through it or out of it or something. Not good. This is why, if something isn't working to your satisfaction, get out before it's too late.
