OK...... I went out with a couple of friends that have known me for years. They both pointed out that I, recently, have been really, really, rude towards women. Of course, I never thought that I was being that way. Point is: how can I change this? I really do like women, but I also have a lot of issues. Should I just pull a WWNGD? (what would a nice guy do) Or should I be myself, which means I hurt my friends chances. I'm thinking I'm screwed.
To be fair, my friends get a lot of women. The ironic thing is, I tought my friend how to be more assertive 15 years ago. Unfortunately, he hasn't taught me the "complimentary" factor, either. It is always funny how you can go from top dog to low man on the totem pole after a number of years. My problem right now is that I've lost all capabilities of having a genuine conversation with a woman, anymore.
Judgin by that conversation you were having with that girl last time I was drinking with you...Im thinkin that it isn't a recent loss.
Hell yea, keep being rude as hell! You gotta put the woman in her place. Listen to Ben Folds song for me please, entitled " b****es aint ****"
Frank TJ Mackey: Respect the ****! And tame the ****! Tame it! Take it on headfirst with the skills that I will tech you at work and say no! You will not control me! No! You will not take my soul! No! You will not win this game! Because it's a game, guys. You want to think it's not, huh? You want to think it's not? Go back to the schoolyard and you have that crush on big-titted Mary Jane. Respect the ****. You are embedding this thought. I am the one who's in charge. I am the one who says yes! No! Now! Here! Because it's universal, man. It is evolutional. It is anthropological. It is biological. It is animal. We...are...men!
Yeah... This has been my mantra for the past few years. Bottom line: It works on so few women that I'm starting to doubt myself. Afterall, I know I'm awesome. I just need to know a better way to present myself.
I'm 29 and have been around the dating world for awhile now, i've been in serious relationships, casual ones, and was even engaged once, so here is my take on it... Being an @ss towards women usually works best when you are younger. Most of us are creatures of habit and we stick with what works for us. Well.... as you age, things change, the older you get and once women have already been there, done that with the @sshole guys, then they start to want something different. As you age and start going after older, more experienced women, you too, have to change. You simply have to start being nicer, more mature, and carry on a decent conversation. Let them know too that you have already been there, done that as well and are looking for more. Also as you age, physical attraction becomes less important to a woman (it is still very important, especially in the bar/club scene, but not as impt...) The key is to find a balance of being a nice guy, but also letting them know that you will not be stepped on. And don't forget to always be confident but not cocky. Fatty, if you are having trouble changing, I suggest reading the book, "who moved my cheese" and applying its core fundamentals to your approach to dating/women.
It's as simple as giving a crap about what other people think and are going through. You can't polish a turd if you are just using "being nice" as way to get them to hang around you and discover how awesome you are. Don't just act interested, be interested. If they aren't interesting to you, move on. If no women are interesting to you, be celibate, or gay, or hire hookers. Maybe you should see a shrink to look into your "issues." Anyway, if you treat women like they are some completely different species then it's no wonder they aren't interested. Would you be?
"The secret of success is sincerity. Once you can fake that you've got it made." -- Some dead french guy
If a woman likes you, you can be the world's biggest jerk, and she'll always smile about it. Maybe you're not the eye candy you think you are?
Just be yourself, dude, it is much better for the rest of the world if you don't procreate any more. DD
Actually it is more about confidence than being an A$$, just be sure of who you are, and where you are going. And use your left hand some to mix it up a bit. DD
