No doubt. However I do have some words of wisdom for the single guys. You can't choose who you love, but you can choose who you marry.
I think this one would have been a better choice. I've seen love go by my door It's never been this close before Never been so easy or so slow. Been shooting in the dark too long When somethin's not right it's wrong Yer gonna make me lonesome when you go. Dragon clouds so high above I've only known careless love, It's always hit me from below. This time around it's more correct Right on target, so direct, Yer gonna make me lonesome when you go. Purple clover, queen anne lace, Crimson hair across your face, You could make me cry if you don't know. Can't remember what i was thinkin' of You might be spoilin' me too much, love, Yer gonna make me lonesome when you go. Flowers on the hillside, bloomin' crazy, Crickets talkin' back and forth in rhyme, Blue river runnin' slow and lazy, I could stay with you forever And never realize the time. Situations have ended sad, Relationships have all been bad. Mine've been like verlaine's and rimbaud. But there's no way i can compare All those scenes to this affair, Yer gonna make me lonesome when you go. Yer gonna make me wonder what i'm doin', Stayin' far behind without you. Yer gonna make me wonder what i'm sayin', Yer gonna make me give myself a good talkin' to. I'll look for you in old honolulu, San francisco, ashtabula, Yer gonna have to leave me now, i know. But i'll see you in the sky above, In the tall grass, in the ones i love, Yer gonna make me lonesome when you go. I love my freedom more than being in love. I have lost love and it sucks.
I know it happens, but I can't imagine deciding to marry someone I didn't love. Going through life without ever being in love would be bad enough, but knowingly marrying someone without love is not something I could do. Heck, for years, getting married wasn't something I could imagine. Being in love was never an issue. Being free of commitments as binding as marraige and children proved a bigger step to take. We cherished our freedom to do as we pleased so much that we waited to have children for 16 years... 20, if you count the years we lived together, off and on.
By the way - in the Alfred Lord Tennyson poem this line comes from, he was talking about a dude. "In Memoriam" is the same poem that the line "nature, red in tooth and claw" comes from; from my viewpoint, that sheds even more light on the question than the "loved and lost" line
How is love supposed to work, anyway? Maybe, like Deckard said, there are no rules. It just seems that, for a lot of people, they get the most important relationship of their life from very superficial beginnings (like who looks prettiest across the room or who your friends set you up with, instead of just getting to know a lot of fellow human beings and seeing who you have that extra chemistry with). But that's the way our society seems to go. I know how to feel love for people. All too well. The trick is getting it to go both ways in some compatible fashion. Also, aside from loving and losing or never loving at all (not that any one person can know both points of view, and therefore who can really make that judgement?), what about: -Having loved and not been loved back? -Having had someone claim to love you back but not show it? -Having thought you were in love, or at least were trying to be, and realized the whole situation was just messed up? -But only after marrying the person?
I never meant to imply that you should marry a person you don't love. I meant to say that even if you love a person, it may not be wise to marry them especially if they don't have the same level of love for you. I've seen too many friends screw up parts of their lives by marrying someone they shouldn't have married and it always ends the same. Marriage should be an intelligent choice once love has been established.
Hey... I'm probably the most jadaed, synical man on this board... I'm paying whopping amounts of child support. My Ex remarried the day of our divorce... while still telling me she didn't want to do it. Paid well over $10,000 in lawyers fees because I would be damned if my son was taken away from me after the divorce, again... because my ex was spitefull.... And i STILL choose love over nothing. Women..... I love them to death, and yet, I loathe them at the same time. The one power that eludes me.
Wait a minute....does this mean you can shoot laser beams out of your fingertips? I've been trying to do that for weeks.
The unrequited love thing? I had a few of those in my younger years, their friends claimed I was gay, but in reality I was too shy. Love. I don't get it. I've never been in love, I don't think I'm capable. I can like a person but not that much...
I know I'm capable... unfortunately, sometimes when you're young you pick the wrong person and want to believe it's true love (and not just a mediocre relationship, but the kind you ought to keep). That's what happened to me; with this particular person, I was in love with the idea only. Now I'm in a situation where I'm supposed to be pledged to that person for the rest of my life - supposedly made that commitment a long time ago - and have known for years that it was a bad idea. I can point to the things he's done or whatever, but what if it's really like he thinks it is - that the problem lies with me and I just always want something new? I don't think so, but because of that mistake, I may have to always wonder.
I proposed just this past Christmas, to my girlfriend of ~9 years. I'm 29 now. For a good relationship, you need to know each other, and be with each other for a while. For me, I've known for a long time that this girl was a good girl for me, and I hate that I made her wait so long.....I procrastinate in everything that I do... We never fight, although a mild disagreement may pop up from time to time. In short, we get along, and we love each other. Previously, at a younger age, I thought I loved one girlfriend that I had. It was only until after she dumped me, that I realized that we were too different. I liked her a lot, and it hurt like hell for a while not being with her. Once your emotions settle down, you'll realize what's best, and go from there. To answer the question, love and lost is best, as long as you'll persue the right love afterwards. Be not afraid of love, TECH 1:16
Is it better to live and experience pain or to never have lived at all? If you haven't ever lived or loved then you don't know pain or loss. The perception is nuetral. But if you're reading this, the question is moot, you don't get a choice.
