Life Regrets

One of mine also. I was courted by my junior high football coach and promised the starting tight end job on "A Team". I just didn't have the nerve to play, didn't want to practice everyday either. I would have loved to hit the weights, I would have been a buff mofo. But I wouldn't have played basketball so much in high school if I was on the football team, so it's not all bad. But I think about it and it would have been fun to play, especially now that I see 5"11 Zach Thomas playing, that could have been me!

Also, got the girl thing, woulda should coulda. She burned me once, I burned her once... If I do that though, I don't have my baby boy, so I would pass on that for sure.

 

Seeking out my biological parents...what a nightmare.

 

AB, that sounds like a new thread to me.

 

i was thinking the exact same thing...at some point i'd like to adopt a child, and i'd be interested in hearing your experiences, AB, if you don't mind sharing them.

 

I agree 100% with Mrs. JB. I couldn't have said it better myself. No regrets, because each mistake was a learning experience.

 

I was too chicken to ask this girl out and found out later that she liked me too.

 

It is good that you care about what you said but I think conflict intensifies the love in any relationship. You have to boil the soup before it tastes good.

And I would like to take this opportunity to say that A-Train is the absolute funniest poster that the internet has to offer. I hang out at three different sites and I just can't wait to read any of A-Train's posts. One witty comment after another, you should be a comedy writer dude. Bungee cord.....what a punk a$$ b****...

 

Agreed about A-Train. Great posts!

My career turned out OK, so most of my life regrets have to do with relationships formed or, sometimes, not formed. Back when I was at the age where I still had a lot of choices in my love life, friendships, etc., I was good at picking the wrong ones. I had one very good chance that I turned down... not once, but over and over again. Oh well, I'm sure there were reasons and we're better off going our separate ways, etc., and maybe I did the right thing at the time, but sometimes I just don't see it.

oh well... you know what U2 says about being "stuck in a moment you can't get out of"...

 

I would have signed up for 2 years to be a combat engineer instead of 4 years as an intel analyst.

I joined the army out of high school because i felt my life was going nowhere. So the first year straightened me out, the second year hardened me and gave me a lot of self confidence, years 3 and 4 were a complete waste of my time though.

 

Man, I could say many...

Not going to Alabama to get my master's in math would have to be up there as wishing that I played football in high school (didn't want to play because the team sucked).

Also, I wish that I was more into lifting weights when I was in high school like I am now.

Another one is that I wish that I had tried sooner about trying to get the job I have now.

But without question, if I had to pick one, I would have to go with trying to date girls when I was in college.

My first 3 years as an undergrad, I lived on campus. Number of parties I went to - zero. Number of dates that I had with girls that I met through classes or somewhere else - big fat zero.

I realize now in looking back that there was a girl or two in almost every one of my classes that I was interested in going out with; however, I was always a p***y in that I felt they either had a boyfriend, were married, or just not interested in me. So, I never even tried (although I did let this one girl know that I liked her but she liked my roommate better ).

To me - those 3 years were my best chances or opportunities to find someone. And I failed to take advantage of it. IOW - if I would have dated back then like I do now then maybe I am married now. Now I am someone who is working so much and going back to night school and living in a small town, I don't know if I'll ever find that person.

I consider myself to be very lucky and blessed with my life; however, that is the one thing that bothers me. Yet, it doesn't bother me as much as it used to.

 

wow. that is almost exactly my experience. except i was too chicken to ask her out for a couple of months, then when i DID ask her, she liked someone else.

i wanted to shoot myself. but i learned a valuble lesson: p*****s who dont ask girls out dont get girls.

 

Hmm, can't really think of very many things, but if I could have changed one thing that I regret now ... it would have to be turning down a chance to take a Full Time position in Europe for a large company.

I was working there as an intern, and still had about 3 semesters to finish my degree. The company made an offer that they'd cover my costs for school, but I'd have to extend it to 1-2 courses per semester and move to Germany and work as a FT employee there.

I wanted to move so bad, but I chose to finish my degree first. I had already been in college for too damn long ... started at 15, ended at 22. I always think what it would have been like living in Europe, making good money ... enjoying life.

That's really about it.

 

Manny man you are killing me! We have to pimpamize you dude. First of all you are totally wrong about college. In my experience I have found it way easier to pick up girls after college and I have found much better quality. The girls are not all concerned with being popular or what frat you are in and they are much more mature. Also, if you ask one out, and she turns you down, you don't have to keep seeing her over and over again. If you live in Houston go to Brian O'Niells. Nice booty over there. Just don't take things so seriously. If a girl turns you down, don't take it personally. There are infinite reasons why she might do that which have nothing to do with you. And you have to stay confident, girls can detect that stuff. Also girls like working guys, that means you can buy them nice dinners and stuff and it makes you look good. Just dress nice and use personal hygene and you will get some girls. They are that desperate for good men.

 

Wow, this opens up a lot for me. There are so many things I regret, and this is a massive fault in my personality. I often live in the past, regretting what I've done and looking at the situation over and over in my mind till it drives me absolutely crazy.

My greatest regret was giving up football (soccer). I'm not sure exactly how it happened (combination of moving, disease played a part). I was quite good from age 7-13. Coaches called me technically gifted, one even said I was one of the most technically gifted youngsters he'd seen in a while. I played with Rijkaard's nephew for a while as well, wonder what he is doing now. I don't think I would have made it as a big star, but I could have certainly done something professionally in the Dutch first division. Even if I wouldn't have made it, I would still love to have had the memories of playing football against guys who later became massive stars (like Van Persie and Van der Vaart). I would have loved to be able to say "I played against him a few times" or "yeah, he's a cool guy, I played with him for a few years"... just the romantic idea of having had some sort of sports experience to share with others. It really bugs me that I can only say I was decent 6 years ago. Now at 20, I'm trying to regain fitness to join my University team. But I know it won't be the same. I will always wonder what could have been.

Romantically, I have so so so many. I have never asked a girl out, really. Whenever I do get with someone they make the first move or just get so frustrated by my lack of action that they just tell me how they feel. But a lot of girls just stop being interested after my lax attitude. I wish I could ask someone out. I know some will say yes and that others will say no... but I just can't bring myself to do it. I'm so afraid of rejection, have such incredibly low self esteem, I just can't bring myself to do things. I hinders me in all aspects of life, but it mainly irks me on the romantic field (hey, I'm 20 after all!).

 

Ace- Let me tell you a story, buddy.

The incident I referred to above started in late 2000. I fell head-over-heels for this girl I worked with. She was the total package- cute, intelligent, and without a doubt the funniest girl I've ever met. But I had just barely turned 18 at the time and she was 21. I also tipped the scales at an embarassingly high weight back then, so I figured that she would never be interested in me. We were great friends and I didn't want to ruin that so I never let on about how I felt about her and she eventually started going out with this guy her age.

Anyway, fast forward a year and a half. I stop by the place we worked and had a few words with her. We started joking around and out of the blue exchanged a couple of lewd comments. Mutual discomfort followed, so I jetted. Later that evening, I came in again and brought up our earlier "moment" and after some confessing on my part, she admitted that she was waiting for me to ask her out since we had met. Unfortunately, she had just gotten engaged a few weeks prior.

So take jello77's and my words to heart. I've been rejected countless times, but all of them combined don't feel one one-thousandth of how bad that felt.

 

You know Ace, I would like to suggest a book to you called "Always think Big" by Jim McIngvale, also known as Mattress Mack. In his book he talks about how you cannot go around thinking negative things about yourself if you are going to be a positive person. I respect and admire your ability to admit your shortcomings, but instead of repeating them to yourself and thinking of yourself like that, you should instead tell yourself that you like asking girls out and you will and you will get the girl you want. You will be suprised what a change in attitude will do for you. Some people think self help books are cheesey but I think they can help people who want to be helped. You seem to know what the right thing to do is but you just need action now. It takes courage for those of us who care, but it is worth it.

I know some people really don't care that much about their relationships and to them it is easier to approach girls (or boys) but for those who do care, the reward is greater in value and it creates a veil of anxiety. You have to act without thinking about the consequences of the action going wrong. Think only about it going right.

 

Choosing to attend Georgetown Law based on its "prestige" factor rather than how good a fit it was with me. I have always been a laid-back student and I really wasn't sure if I wanted to be a lawyer. Georgetown was full of hyper-intense students and teachers whose entire lives had been based on becoming a lawyer. Not surprisingly, I didn't do too well.

If I could do it over, I would have gone to one of the good state law schools that offered me scholarships. That way, I wouldn't have blown so much dough on a failed experiment.