I wrote my last post before I saw your date recap. Things sounded like they went pretty well except for you not getting your mouth kiss. The fact that she still hung around and talked to you a while after you tried to kiss shows that she wasn't disgusted by you and is probably still somewhat interested. When and if you see her again just play this off. Tell you had a great time and would like to see her again. DON'T obsess about the missed kiss or ask her why she didn't let you kiss her.
This all sounds much ado about nuthin.....she's probably daydreaming rite now expecting the kiss attempt again during the next date or she might even just try to make the move herself..
Jeremiah - the first two dates were, the third wasn't. That's what sealed the deal. Hayesfan - maybe maybe no? Either he did and he got DENIED, or he didn't and he's a r****d for not trying.... Loser either way. krnxsnoopy - fair enough, I say. Unfortunately, women are so damn fickle it's impossible to speak for the rest of the population.
awwwww I can't say that I ever dated a guy more than once if I didn't like him, even for the free dinner. Doesn't sound like he had a lot of confidence though
I don't know how you get a chick to come home with you on a first date that's going well and then let her get out to the car without even attempting a playful kiss on the cheek. That first cheek kiss tests the waters for later. Don't get blocked at the rim like that! You're so money and you don't even know it! You know who you are? You're like a big bear man with claws and with fangs and big freaking teeth. And she's like this little bunny...
I called out a girl for doing that and she got all pissy about it. "i don't use guys...blah...blah...blah." yet, she always readily accepted dinners from guys who she had no intention of ever dating but she knew full well they liked her. i don't put the blame solely on her though. the guys were dumbasses for not reading between the lines. if you're not kissing by at least teh end of the 2nd date, it's not going anywhere.
thrill of the chase? sometimes it's the challenge not so much the person being interesting herself. you'll probably dump her not so long afterwards if you finally win her over.
Well, it's like I said. The first date was getting to know each other, I wasn't sure if I liked him or not, I needed a second date. After the second date I was leaning towards no, but I thought maybe it was just bad circumstances, so I gave him one last shot. By the end of the third date, I had made up my mind, and had to cut ties ASAP. I wasn't doing it for the free meal, I was trying to give the guy a chance!
You can start by looking at your flawed logic above. The Rockets weren't supposed to win at Utah. For you to say otherwise is wishful thinking. Maybe that's all your kiss attempt was...wishful thinking.
I know this isn't what you should do, but I can't help but being bitter at any type of rejection like this. I would probably just be grumpy, and want to retreat as far away from her as possible.
Could be worse - you could be married and have to get up at 3:30 in the morning and go about 4 tenths of a mile down the road and check on your wife's grandparents and think that you have to take one of them to the emergency room.
Back to your problem - definitely sounds like she is into you but is probably not ready for a kiss. My wife told me that she would have not gone out with me if I had kissed her on the first date (we kissed on the second). Some women are funny about that stuff and of course that makes it tough on the guy on what to do. If you go out again, see how she responds to you touching her arm and leg in both a casual way and direct way. Her body language will give you an idea if a kiss will be happening later on. Oh and I used to think that asking a girl if you could kiss them was the right thing to do and I have found that is not a good idea to do. Women like spontaneity and asking if you can kiss them takes that element (spontaneity) out of it.
she probably knew it would lead to other things... and THEN she would have been forced to explain her anal fissures before she felt comfortable around you...
There was this one time I was taking this girl out that was coming through town for the first time in a long time. We had had a fling about a year previous that she put a stop to due to us living in different states. Then, she comes through town, and I'm the only person she calls. I KNEW I was in there. I took her out to Kemah, paid for her dinner, we went and petted the stingrays, all on my dime. It was a lovely evening. Later at my place I went in for the kiss and she literally SHRUNK AWAY. Holy **** I was devestated. I had been relegated to the "friend zone," never to escape.
I guess you didn't get a "ride, ride"... j/k... Hey, don't sweat it..it happens...Don't know if it was the first or third date, but either way, she's not into you...Is this the poker player? You typically know and have feeling she's into you, but maybe she's just using you to get over another dude... Anywho, if you like to feel rejected and can't get enough of it, tell her how you feel...Just date one of her best friends and go from there...That'll make you feel better... Oh yeah , this thread is useless without pics...
