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Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by eveluvsrox, Oct 21, 2009.

  1. eveluvsrox

    eveluvsrox Member

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    and this is the most surreal feeling ever.
    I never had noone that close to me pass.
    We used to play video games till 2 in the morning knowing we had class and he used to help me in chemistry all the time. He was the reason I got out of that class. We used to make nachos and fire up the blender.
    He used to always ask me whats going on on clutchfans because I lived on that site when we lived on campus and he knew that it was a good chance the game was on and not bother me. Now that I have an apartment off campus, I don't have the internet and can't get on the site as much as I want to. Just last week he was like whats going on on clutchfans and I told him I didn't know, because I hadnt got a chance to get on there as much since my anatomy and physiology class and organic chemistry class takes up most of my life. He laughed and was like the end of mankind is near.
    The story behind it was that he was on line to he a sigma (I know I shouldnt put this but) and at the end of last spring semester he told he wanted to plegde. Me being a friend I told him to go for it. He was in set (I guess you can call that the hazing process) they had them doing various activities. They had them running and said he passed out and stopped breathing. Me encouraging his decision makes me feel partially responisible for what happened even though I knew he was going to go through with it anyway. The last time I saw him he was mad at me because i wasnt taking the second part of chemistry with him because I had taken it in the summer and I snapped at him because I am already behind and is trying to graduate.

    anywho love your freinds tell them you love them
     
  2. leroy

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    Sorry for your loss. I know your pain as I have lost a few close friends.


    FYI...You are in no way, shape, or form responsible.
     
  3. BmwM3

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    Sorry for your lost.

    Do not feel responsible for any of this. Even if you told him No, he probably would have pledged anyways.
     
  4. bnb

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    take care of yourself eve.

    Sometimes there's no logic to life. So sorry to hear about your friend.
     
  5. Vinsanity

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    wow. So he died during some sort of hazing ritual for a Frat?
     
  6. Blake

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    so sorry for your loss. you shouldn't feel responsible...it was just a tragic accident
     
  7. Lady_Di

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    wow i am sorry for your loss...

    that frat is gonna be in lot of trouble...they have strict hazing laws here in Texas.
     
  8. moonsh0t

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    not your fault at all.. but i definitely feel for your loss.

    lost a good friend to drunk driving about a year ago, still seems surreal that he's gone.
     
  9. SwoLy-D

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    + Que En Paz Descanse su amigo, eve madam. :(

    I hope he is making you some Nachos in heaven. :eek: Any friend of a ClutchFan who asks about Clutchfans is a friend of ours. We mourn the loss with you. Be strong. If you still feel guilty, do things you know he would have liked for you to do, like finishing school.
     
  10. glad_ken

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    Sorry for your loss.

    PVA&M Student’s Death May Be Case of Hazing

    Updated: Wednesday, 21 Oct 2009, 12:18 PM CDT
    Published : Wednesday, 21 Oct 2009, 12:18 PM CDT


    HOUSTON - The death of a Prairie View A&M student is now the subject of a criminal investigation, FOX 26 news has learned.

    The student, identified as Donnie Wade, died on Tuesday night after being carried away from a student gathering in an ambulance.

    University officials say he may have died while pledging for an on-campus fraternity called Phi Beta Sigma. No other details were immediately available.

    Wade’s body has been turned over to the Harris County Medical Examiner’s Office to determine a specific cause of death.

    Meanwhile, Wade’s classmates and school are planning a memorial service.

    http://www.myfoxhouston.com/dpp/news/local/091021_student_death_pvam
     
  11. FLASH21

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    My condolences go out to you.

    Don't be mad at yourself that your last memory wasn't a great one between you 2. No matter what he knows that you really care about him and have love for him.

    Especially now, you have a guardian angel with you. ;)
     
  12. oomp

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    Sorry for your loss. My best friend in college died in a car accident immediately following a visit with me. It took me a long time to get over it.

    Know that you had nothing to do with it and the best thing that you can do is help keep his memory alive.

    I chose to honor my friend by naming my son after him.

    I know things are dark, but please try to remember the good times. Those are the memories you'll always have.
     
  13. Legend Killer

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    Sorry for your loss.
    My condolences go out to you.
     
  14. Precision340

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    sorry for your loss.. a close friend of mine died 3 years ago to cancer.. it's tough and as cliche as it sounds just take it day by day.. you never forget a friend..
    rip odie
     
  15. RocketRaccoon

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    My condolences, Eve. Jut know the hurt is never long lasting and the memory will last forever.
     
  16. Vinsanity

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    If he had an underlying medical condition.... then well, I guess you never know when your time comes... but if this frat hazing was the cause, then this is a real disaster and should be investigated.

    Either way, he's still gone and I'm sorry for your loss. Keep your head up.
     
  17. droxford

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    Sad to hear.

    You bear no responsibility.

    Send a message to others.
     
     
  18. Falcons Talon

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    Sorry for your loss. Like others have said, you should not feel responsible in any way.

    May your friend Rest in Peace.
     
  19. Coach AI

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    Wow. That's terrible; sorry for your loss man and these guys are right: there's no way you should feel even partially responsible.
     
  20. Franchise2001

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    I'm very sorry for your loss.

    You were being a good friend in encouraging him to join a social organization and nobody could have seen this coming. Hopefully lessons can be learned and his death won't be for nothing.
     

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