1. Welcome! Please take a few seconds to create your free account to post threads, make some friends, remove a few ads while surfing and much more. ClutchFans has been bringing fans together to talk Houston Sports since 1996. Join us!

Help [Relationship issue]

Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by Outlier, Jun 29, 2010.

Tags:
  1. Outlier

    Outlier Member

    Joined:
    Mar 25, 2006
    Messages:
    8,529
    Likes Received:
    1,351
    so i'm in my very first serious relationship...
    and the girl.. she's crazy for me... very good to me..
    the problem is.. i'm an a-hole.. because of my way of thinking that.. she would be perfect if she was sexier and had bigger boobs/ ass
    why am i so superficial? i'm in my very first serious relationship... she's a good girl, doesn't smoke or drink.. has a bright future.. loves her parents, reads books.. even my friends say she's cute/ pretty..

    yet.. i don't feel satisfied.. :(

    i'm 22 by the way
     
  2. Xerobull

    Xerobull ...and I'm all out of bubblegum
    Supporting Member

    Joined:
    Jun 18, 2003
    Messages:
    36,966
    Likes Received:
    35,882
    Any other day, peeps be all over this and stuff.
     
  3. eveluvsrox

    eveluvsrox Member

    Joined:
    Nov 13, 2008
    Messages:
    2,438
    Likes Received:
    79
    You really don't have an attraction for her even though she's good to you. Boobs and booty don't always make a woman.
    Be honest with her. Thats all you can do. Don't say its because she doesn't boobs and butt but be honest. We would prefer yall be honest with us. It may hurt but lies are what makes us crazy.
    Tell her how you feel. She may not like it but will respect honesty.
     
  4. Shroopy2

    Shroopy2 Member

    Joined:
    Feb 16, 2003
    Messages:
    16,245
    Likes Received:
    2,026
    (I havent read any of the big Hangout hot topics of late, so....)

    The not thinking she's sexy will NEVER go away. EVER. Don't continue on, don't lead her on.

    Yeah you are an a-hole and superficial. And good girls shouldnt have their child bearing years wasted by a-holes ;)

    You got a good girl but let HER find a good man who will respect her appearance. Which aint you, chap. You'll have to get burned by the next girl to realize what you had, but at least you'll have fun doing it.

    And while waiting until you're past 25 to get serious and get married can be overrated, you might need to do that.
     
  5. AroundTheWorld

    Joined:
    Feb 3, 2000
    Messages:
    83,288
    Likes Received:
    62,281
    Post her picture and we can tell you if the problem is yours or hers.
     
  6. Outlier

    Outlier Member

    Joined:
    Mar 25, 2006
    Messages:
    8,529
    Likes Received:
    1,351
    i'm not that big of an a-hole... i'm a nice guy.. a really nice guy in fact.

    but i still love her... are you sure this will never go away??? :confused:

    the funny thing is... i don't think i'm gonna get a girl as pretty as her ever.. i'm not a super good looking guy.. maybe i'm just being picky...
     
  7. Eps

    Eps Member

    Joined:
    May 30, 2010
    Messages:
    401
    Likes Received:
    5
    keep her, dont tell the truth, thatll ruin everything and your friends are just waiting to f*** her. if they're saying shes cute. wait a while, feel it out. get all that promiscuous(misspelled, i know swoly.) stuff out the way.
    real talk, are you serious w/ her if not gtfo that relationship. cuz in the end u will have pitty and stick around. imho
     
  8. DonkeyMagic

    DonkeyMagic Member
    Supporting Member

    Joined:
    May 22, 2006
    Messages:
    21,604
    Likes Received:
    3,487

    exactly.


    But really...if youre not feeling it then youre not feeling it. Move along.

    or, if you are a real playa. You'd date her but bang numerous other girls on the side while making an ass of yourself and posting pictures of them online.
     
  9. Eps

    Eps Member

    Joined:
    May 30, 2010
    Messages:
    401
    Likes Received:
    5
    this calls for sck advise time.
     
  10. Outlier

    Outlier Member

    Joined:
    Mar 25, 2006
    Messages:
    8,529
    Likes Received:
    1,351
    i'm serious.. i courted her and went on numerous dates with her cause i wanted real love.. but now that i'm in it its like i'm having second thoughts..

    but.. she is an awesome girl.. and i feel like i get to really be myself when i'm with her.. unlike with other girls.. i don't think i will find that in a long time..
     
  11. Mr. Clutch

    Mr. Clutch Member

    Joined:
    Nov 8, 2002
    Messages:
    46,550
    Likes Received:
    6,132
    Give it some time, the attraction may grow. But if it doesn't, let her go.

    There is a difference between being a superficial horndog and recognizing what you are attracted to. Which one is it? If you just aren't attracted, then keeping this going isn't fair to you OR her.

    I prefer a girl with nice legs. Everyone like something different. Girls are the same way. You think this girl would be with you if she wasn't attracted to you? No way.
     
  12. PinoyRocket

    PinoyRocket Member

    Joined:
    Apr 19, 2010
    Messages:
    914
    Likes Received:
    34
    Agreed.

    ;)
     
  13. eveluvsrox

    eveluvsrox Member

    Joined:
    Nov 13, 2008
    Messages:
    2,438
    Likes Received:
    79
    Love never dies unless the thing you love about that person dies.
    You didn't say you loved her at first.
    But nowadays that doesn't mean anything. My ex told me he loves me but cant see himself being with me. Yet and still he calls me every single day. It hurt, but I respect his honesty.
    Seems the same way with you. Don't lead her on. Be real.
    But don't pass her up for a someone with a badonkadonk and a stank attitude.
    And if your not a super good looking guy like you say then she loves you for whats on the inside. Think about it.
     
  14. Eps

    Eps Member

    Joined:
    May 30, 2010
    Messages:
    401
    Likes Received:
    5
    i say keep her. sounds legit.
    if u get bored with it, Ricks stays open late!
    you'll blow all you dough n be like "*****!!, i was better off at home."
    i go thru that faze once every two weeks.
    lulz :grin:


    not really.. :(
     
  15. Pete Chilcutt

    Pete Chilcutt Member

    Joined:
    Jan 28, 2009
    Messages:
    5,535
    Likes Received:
    280
    Like someone else said, any other day and you would have plenty of help :p
     
  16. Outlier

    Outlier Member

    Joined:
    Mar 25, 2006
    Messages:
    8,529
    Likes Received:
    1,351
    I don't understand.. why are you guys saying this? what's wrong with today? but i'm getting some solid advice in this thread.. thanks guys
     
  17. SwoLy-D

    SwoLy-D Member

    Joined:
    Jul 20, 2001
    Messages:
    37,618
    Likes Received:
    1,456
    :( That's what SHE said.
     
  18. Deji McGever

    Deji McGever יליד טקסני

    Joined:
    Oct 12, 1999
    Messages:
    4,013
    Likes Received:
    952
    Don't stay with a girl you aren't attracted to. You'll be unhappy and so will she. That kind of misery is worse than any breakup.
     
  19. Eps

    Eps Member

    Joined:
    May 30, 2010
    Messages:
    401
    Likes Received:
    5
    currently on the spacecitykid thread, pretty awesome epicalness going on. may distract u from your problems.
     
  20. bullardfan

    bullardfan なんでやねん

    Joined:
    Jun 27, 2008
    Messages:
    3,597
    Likes Received:
    101
    get out of it. dont tell her the real reason why b/c it may destroy her self-image and she may come down with orthorexia nervosa.

    you will never be attracted to her if you arent now. i was stuck in a similar situation in college. everyone is superficial to a certain extent esp. guys. you're young. sleep around and have some fun. hang out with SpaceCityKid.
    don't think about serious relationships til you've experienced girls a bit more. otherwise, you might end up cheating on their wife later on.
     

Share This Page